I'm new here and also a first-time mom, so I'm not sure if what I'm experiencing is normal, but I haven't been able to find a lot of information on it. My nearly 12 week old boy has suddenly started rejecting me--not only the breast but ME TOO! For the past week, he has screamed his head off whenever I even attempt to put him in a breastfeeding position (cradle, reverse cradle, lying down, even semi upright, in a sling) and positively screeches if the breast comes anywhere near his mouth. He is nearly inconsolable at those times. He will only eat in a quasi cradle hold (facing me) with a bottle leaning down on my chest (similar to a breastfeeding position.) He won't eat sitting like he used to. UNLESS, Dad is feeding him or holding him -- he's completely cooperative with Dad.
He also has become totally averse to having skin contact with me and pulls away and screams until I place a blanket or cloth between us. He cries when I speak to him, carry him around, or even sing to him. If I hand him to Dad, he calms down right away. He also enjoys skin contact with Dad still. Did I do something to make my son have some serious negative association with me? Is it possible he is picking up on some sort of chemical imbalance with me that changed my smell? The avoidance of skin contact is really worrying me. He still drinks expressed milk happily, though I doubt my supply will stay up if he doesn't start breastfeeding again soon. He has always loved breastfeeding and always preferred it to the bottle until the past 7 days.
He is an absolute charmer and more predictable with Dad. He sees us about the same amount as I am working as much as Dad, so my time after work to breastfeed (and early in the mornings) is my usual "bonding" chill-out times with him. It's usually that he's so tired at the end of a day of daycare that he wants that bonding time with me and wants to nurse and/or suckle non-nutritively for as long as I'll let him.
Dietary wise -- I had cut out dairy to see if it was a cause of fussiness, excessive gas, and eczema. He has had some mild improvement in gas, the eczema is gone, but now he's totally fussy just towards me. Could cutting out dairy cause such a drastic change that he would not want to be near me (yet still drink expressed milk?)
I'm sorry for the rambling--this is all sudden and has me out of sorts. I was trying to take it in stride, but by the end of today I realized I haven't had a single positive interaction with my son for an entire week and just really broke down. Please, if anyone can shed some light on this I would greatly appreciate it.
Thank you so much.