Re: questions from new mom/new BF
Welcome and congratulations on the new baby!
Just for reference, did you ever find out what your baby's bilirubin level was when formula supplementation was advised? Usually when a baby is feeding well and the bill level is under 20, formula supplementation is not necessary. (I know this is probably totally academic at this point, but it's a nugget of info to keep on hand if you ever have more kids...)
1) baby latches on but pops off multiple times during early feeding (eventually stays on and feeds productively)
That's pretty normal for a newborn. Remember, she is learning to breastfeed, just like you are! As long as she feeds productively and is having adequate wet and poopy diaper output, this is something that should eventually correct itself.
2) Nipple is a little flattened after feeding, and have callous(?) both nipples on top part which makes me think we're doing something wrong...
Are you in pain? Flattened nipples can be a sign of a shallow latch, but if there's no pain it's generally not a big problem. It will likely self-correct as the baby grows and her mouth grows.
3) baby's hands are constantly getting in her way of latching on - resists swaddling most times.
I would keep trying the swaddling thing. New babies flail all over the place. It's pretty normal. You might also want to try sling feeding- if the baby is held close, her hands can't swat.
4) We usually only do one breast per feeding because she feeds so long she falls asleep
What would happen if you took her off the breast when she started to fall asleep, and switched her to the other side? One-sided feedings aren't something you really want to do with a newborn unless you have way too much milk. If you're frequently feeling full apor engorged and the baby is producing adequate diapers, then you're probably safe with one-sided feedings, but with a newborn you generally want to at least offer the second breast.
5) Should I be pumping at all or if baby is feeding every 2 hours, it's enough?
If the baby is producing adequate wet and poopy diapers, and is nursing well, there is generally no reason to pump. And good reasons not to: lots of moms pump themselves into oversupply situations.
6) I read on here about kind of preparing the breast before feeding - warm compress/massage to encourage let-down, but how do you have enough time at night to get ready when baby wakes up hungry and crying? She also attempts to latch so frantically her head is all over the place and arms are coming up and interfering?
As long as the baby is nursing well and having adequate wet and poopy diapers (sorry to sound like a broken record), the whole warm compress/massage thing is very much optional. Just focus on getting the baby to latch on and then let her suckling stimulate the letdown.
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