Re: Lack of family support
Welcome and congratulations on the new baby! I'm sorry you've been having a rough go so far. It sounds like he got off to a slow start but that his weight gain is now on track. Some questions for you:
- was the baby sleepy at the breast or jaundiced?
- has baby always been weighed on the same scale, and in the nude?
- what are the baby's diapers like? How many wets/poops per day, and what color are the poops?
A lack of family support can seriously wound a new mama's feelings and wreck her confidence. I suggest that you tell your husband the following:
- he is not the only one who is concerned about your baby, and you will do everything necessary to ensure that your baby is healthy.
- he needs to tell his mommy and daddy that if they have concerns, they can talk to him but they cannot talk to you. You do not need their negativity, even if it comes from a place of concern.
Formula might make your LO gain faster, or it might not. It depends on what the reason behind your baby's slow start is. If the reason the baby is on the slow side WRT weight gain is because you don't have enough milk, then formula would probably help. But if you are nursing on demand, not on hormonal contraception, not pregnant, the baby isn't sleepy at the breast or jaundiced, the baby is nursing well, and you have no other impediments to generating a normal supply (e.g. thyroid problems, PCOS, retained placenta), then you probably don't have a supply problem. Something else is going on. Maybe reflux? Did the doctor suggest that as a possibility?
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"