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    Default Help me with advice for a new mama back to work at 4 weeks

    A co-worker is back to work after only a few weeks of maternity leave. Her baby is now 1 month old, and seems to be taking a HUGE amount of milk while she is at work. We are talking 7-8 ounces per feeding (every 3-4 hours), which just seems like way to much to me. She is pumping maybe 5-6 ounces total while at work (from about 9-3), and I have given her some of my excess freezer stash, as I have ridiculous oversupply. But at this rate, I think she will feel like she is not producing enough milk and give up (and since she jumped at my offer of milk, I know she does not want to give formula). I offered her some advice on ways to soothe baby other than a bottle, and here is the reply I got from her:

    "Yeah...we tried pacifiers, water, her swing, me cuddling with her in bed, even tried to take her out in her stroller...nothing. She wouldnt calm down till we finally broke down and fed her again"

    So, any advice for this new mama? I feel at a loss as to how to help her, but I can tell she really needs the help and/or support I can offer her.

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    Default Re: Help me with advice for a new mama back to work at 4 weeks

    Here's a great article about how to bottlefeed a breastfed baby. 7-8 ounces is WAY too much for a baby to be drinking. Even for an older baby that would be too much. I think the first step would be to make the bottles smaller, like 2-3 ounces at the most. Feed baby one bottle and if she wants more, give her another ounce or two. Make sure you're using slow-flow nipples, burp frequently and take lots of breaks. Try to mimic nursing as closely as possible.
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    Default Re: Help me with advice for a new mama back to work at 4 weeks

    Thank you, sent her the article. Hopefully that will help her some. I know I already sent her a ton of info on how much a BF baby needs per feeding, but she has now gone in the opposite direction. She was giving 5 ounces when I talked to her last week, and is now up to 7-8 ounces this week.

    My 6 month old barely goes through 3 ounces from a bottle each time, and my DS1 was the same way. We struggle to get milk into the small one, and struggled with the big one as well (they both have a preference for milk straight from the tap), so a baby that gobbles up so much at once is new to me.

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    Default Re: Help me with advice for a new mama back to work at 4 weeks

    As far as calming the baby down, you mind recommend The Happiest Baby on the Block. It's a super quick and easy read, plus Dr. Karp has some great suggestions for soothing young babies when they're inconsolable
    Elizabeth, mama to Lillian - 10/03/10


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    Default Re: Help me with advice for a new mama back to work at 4 weeks

    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*firefly View Post
    As far as calming the baby down, you mind recommend The Happiest Baby on the Block. It's a super quick and easy read, plus Dr. Karp has some great suggestions for soothing young babies when they're inconsolable
    I highly recommend the DVD - takes less time, hits all the high points and has the sound track that I really found useful (womb noise).

    Also wrapping baby to caregiver and walking or bouncing on an exercise ball can make a big difference to a tiny baby like that that is still in the 4th trimester.
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    Default Re: Help me with advice for a new mama back to work at 4 weeks

    Isn't there a growth spurt around 4 weeks? Maybe her baby was going through that when she was so fussy, and seemed like she would need that much. It seems like an incredible amount for a 4 week old. My 7.5 month old doesn't take that much.
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    Default Re: Help me with advice for a new mama back to work at 4 weeks

    I did find that my latest baby, who had to be bottlefed essentially from birth, wanted a bottle in his mouth all the time at that age. The growth spurt thing was really rough. He literally wanted to suck nonstop, and there had to be little bits of milk to keep him happy. If we just let him do that, basically take a little amounts very frequently, he did a lot better than if he was fed 8 oz all at once. That's too much milk at one time for a one month old.

    Also, what kind of bottles is she using? When I had my second child, I went back to work and left some bottles with him. It was 12 oz, and I was only away for about 4 hours. Well, I came back, and they had fed him the entire 12 oz! Changing bottles (and changing caregivers) solved the problem.
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