My little guys (twins) turned 2 on July 6 and are still breastfeeding at least once, occasionally twice a day. Bedtime nursing ended about 12 weeks ago; nap time nursing a couple of weeks after that, and then we were supposed to be all done with nursing!
However, I definitely missed a window not weaning around 16-18 months, as they became much more aware of what was going on with breastfeeding, put all the pieces together, and now still look forward to it and ask for it each and every day, in the morning either right before or after breakfast. Not in bed -- we stopped "breakfast in bed" several months ago -- but downstairs on the couch in "the nursing spot." They seem to really still need it and want it, and I still very much enjoy the closeness, the bonding, the entire experience.
They are my last two babies; I nursed my two daughters before them for 13 months and 15-1/2 months respectively (they are now 13 & 12 years old). So it is hard for me to let go. Also, neither one of them has ever had an ear infection in two years, and there was one low-grade fever for a day. Otherwise, simple colds, many, but they come and go with no complications whatsoever. I do believe the breastfeeding has given them a terrific start in life on so many levels.
However, there is a need to move on, for personal and health reasons, and I keep putting it off. They certainly give no indications of being ready to stop, and I am a wimp about stopping. I haven't had a mammogram in over three years, since before the pregnancy, and that is needed at this time and is actually overdue in my circumstances. As well, I am one of those nursing moms who can't shed a pound until I stop nursing, and I am tired of carrying this extra weight around.
The boys have gotten what they need, and then some, and I never intended to go this long, but the nursing relationship seems to still be so important to all three of us, yet I also sense that if I were stronger, they would get over it fairly quickly and move on. Yet, if it wasn't for my extraneous circumstances, I might just keep going and hope for self-weaning, but I really don't want to be nursing them well into their two's, it just isn't something that I feel is right for me.
So, we are going away on Saturday for a week, for a shore vacation to a condo we have never been to before. It will be a new and unfamiliar place for all of us, so no home cues for nursing, and perhaps a perfect opportunity to wean. But, they will be out of sorts during nap and bedtimes for certain, at least in the first couple of days, and may be more in need of comfort and familiarity. But they will also have so much going on and fun adventures at the shore to keep them preoccupied and excited.
I am torn about all of it, but know that it is time, as difficult as I am feeling about it emotionally and otherwise. Does anyone have an opinion about trying to wean them while on vacation?