I need any advice on weaning my 1 yr old. Have 3 other kiddos, and never had issues with weaning(#1 i was preggo when we weaned, #2 lost a lot of weight & no millk left, #3 he basically self weaned). this last one DOES not want to give it up. he's a miserable, inconsolable little boy. spent 3 hours with him this morning. he takes a bottle & a cup okay, but definite times he won't want it(he only wants me certain times). He only started taking the bottle and cup a week ago after literally 12 months of trying every cup & bottle known to man.
we were down to once a day feedings(only on the right, the left side never produced much milk, so we've been exclusive on one side the past few months). the lactation consultant at the pediatrician's office told me friday afternoon to cut him off cold turkey. last i nursed was like 3 am saturday morning. went thru the day okay. sunday, really engorged pumped out ~2 oz. today super engorged. i've been up with him since 3 am today(now almost 2 pm) and he's only slept maybe 1 1/2 hrs. he was really cranky and i made the mistake of nursing him an hour ago(for like 1.5 minutes cuz i was super engorged & he's been clingy so I couldn't put him down to pump). well, i took him off & he's crying like he got punched in the face or something.
We've had a very rough time nursing since he came home from the hospital after he was born, and I'm just done. I'm also having surgery in a month. Is cold turkey the way to go? Do I still stick with it? Will he stop being inconsolable? I feel like if I do this gradually, I'm going to spend several months waiting for him to be ready.