My daughter is 4 weeks old. When she was born she was 8lbs 8oz and when we left the hospital she was 8lbs and 1oz. We had some latching issues from the beginning, but managed to feed okay for the most part. At her 2 week visit however, she hadn't gained any weight. They sent me to the breastfeeding class and had me back at 3 weeks but she still hadn't gained any. By this point I was already pretty upset and worried about her.
The doctors wanted me to start giving her 3oz of formula 4 times a day after I nursed her but I told them no. I'd been pumping since my milk came in (I had tons and I'm going back to school this fall so I kept pumping the extra to keep my supply that high) and told them that if they felt it absolutely necessary that I would give her that, but that I was worried about giving her a bottle because she didn't latch well anyway. I wanted to try to give nursing a bit longer but the insinuation was that I was being neglectful and selfish if I didn't start giving her the bottles.
That was last Wednesday. I started giving her bottles and she stopped wanting to latch on to me. Every feeding was a battle and because we were stuffing her with the nursing and bottles, she was nursing less and my supply went down dramatically. We went back Friday and she had gained 5oz. I decided to try and nurse two extra times a day and take away two of the bottles because it was just not working the other way.
She's latching somewhat better again and my milk supply is back up, but it's still a battle and I am just so upset and frustrated I don't know what to do. She starts off the morning fine, but as the day goes on, she stops wanting the breast. She arches away and screams like I'm killing her. When I do get her latched on she gulps and chokes and by the end of the feeding we're both crying and upset. I'm just not sure what to do. She's never quite gotten the hang of it and things have just gotten much worse over the last week. I'm confused because she can feed perfectly fine some times, and so horribly other times. I don't don't what is wrong or what to do or try to make things better and I'm feeling like a failure. I nursed my first girl for 6 1/2 months and never had a single problem, what's so wrong this time?