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    Default Why is it so bad to wean cold turkey?

    I decided to stop nursing my 2yr. old baby Brandon this past Friday. (His b-day is 7-23-04) And it was bc he was nursing at night to bed, in the mornings and sometimes in the afternoon at like 1:30pm. But, he was weird about it. Like at night time, sometimes he wanted his sippy cup too! And so he has been sleeping in our bed ever since he was born. But, we bought him his own bed and I tried putting him in there recently, and he loves his new bed. But, he doesnt sleep in there bc at night after I sneak out of his room... He'll wake up for breast milk. So, then I just put him to sleep in my own bed. And the saga begins! Now he just sleeps in our bed. I am happy to have bf him for this long. But, deep down I wanted to stop. I want him to sleep in his own bed. I am very into extended nursing but I was afraid to keep it going. I felt like I had better quit now, bc it's only going to get harder. Now, Idk if my ds is just so smart or what- Believe it or not, he adjusted by Monday night. He doesnt even ask for his "moo." And even though I am the one who wanted him to stop, I am upset at him not asking for it! I come from a line of bf'ers and even they were telling me to stop! My breasts are engorged still. I'd like to know how long they are going to stay engorged? I'm getting married in 3weeks and I'd like to drink alittle on my wedding day. My mom always told me that alcoholic drinks make your milk thicker. And that's the last thing I wanna do. I feel alittle guilty about the whole thing, but Brandon was/is better off then me. SO, I don't feel so bad about it.

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    Default Re: Why is it so bad to wean cold turkey?

    Congrats on the wedding, and on what sounds like a pretty easy weaning. I don't think it's a huge deal to wean cold turkey if your LO is only BFing once or twice per day. The problem is, the more you cut back at once, the worse the engorgement is-so you've noticed, right?
    I'm not sure how long it takes to recede-maybe a few days to a week? You can hand express some to take the edge off.
    But, now is the time to make sure this is really what you want, I would think, because you could easily pick up where you left off before your milk dries up, but it will be much harder later. Just a thought...

    Molly

    Loving mama to JP (DS, 1/03 ~ nursed 6 mos), EL (DD1, 9/05 ~ nursed 4 yrs), EJ (DD2, 3/08 ~ nursed 3 yrs 9 mos), and
    JM (DD3, 6/12 ~ currently nursing), all born naturally
    Devoted wife to SAHD P, my hero
    A few of my favorite things that I've discovered on the forum: co-sleeping, baby-wearing, tandem nursing, baby-led solids, cloth diapering, APing, selective vaccination...the list goes on

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    Default Re: Why is it so bad to wean cold turkey?

    Thanks for the response Molly! Didn't think anyone was gonna reply! Boy... You are SO not kidding about the engorgement I had faced. It was horribly painful! I am so glad that the pain is over with. (LOL) I had to take some really warm baths and showers to let the milk come out on it's own.
    (I normally dont like to take close to hot baths, bc I always feel like I'm gonna pass out afterward.)

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    Default Re: Why is it so bad to wean cold turkey?

    So are you all saying that the milk has to come out somehow? My doc husband said it would eventually be reabsorbed by my body.

    My son weaned himself from the breast last July but I continued to pump and breastfeed until after his first birthday (this month). Now I'm ready to stop pumping. I've decreased my pumping sessions over the course of a week and have now gone over 24 hours without pumping. I'm uncomfortable but I'm afraid that pumping to take the edge off will just encourage my supply to continue. Any thoughts, particularly from any lactation specialists out there?

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    Default Re: Why is it so bad to wean cold turkey?

    I'm not a lactation specialist, but I think you should probably take longer than a week to wean from the pump to avoid engorgement. You are right that you should not keep emptying your breasts as often, because that is what stimulates supply. However, if you take the process very slowly and pump or hand express occassionally to relieve discomfort, that might help keep you comfy while slowly decreasing your supply.

    Molly

    Loving mama to JP (DS, 1/03 ~ nursed 6 mos), EL (DD1, 9/05 ~ nursed 4 yrs), EJ (DD2, 3/08 ~ nursed 3 yrs 9 mos), and
    JM (DD3, 6/12 ~ currently nursing), all born naturally
    Devoted wife to SAHD P, my hero
    A few of my favorite things that I've discovered on the forum: co-sleeping, baby-wearing, tandem nursing, baby-led solids, cloth diapering, APing, selective vaccination...the list goes on

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