Re: Violence while nursing
I would start keeping an informal journal of your observations and concerns. There are numerous possible reasons for what you describe, from totally normal to symptomatic of a health problem, but it is probably too soon to tell what the exact source is (since I recall that you said her ear infection has cleared). By keeping an informal journal, where you simply note what you noticed or were concerned by each day (and what improved or went well!) you will be better able to see if a pattern is emerging, and you will have a much clearer record of things should you decide you need to speak to a pediatrician about it at some point.
How does she feel about being wrapped in a blanket, swaddle style? I know she's much older than swaddling age, but some older babies (and even older children and adults) find that very comforting (some, however, HATE it), and if she likes it, you might try it out while nursing.
Mama to Lorenzo, born 4/25/2007. NICU graduate, Gastro-Esohapgeal Reflux, Obstructive Sleep Apnea, Sensory Processing Disorder...alive and thriving thanks to breastfeeding and co-sleeping.
Those who say it can't be done should not interrupt the person doing it.