Re: no support in nursing a 22 month old
Ash, just wanted to let you know you're not alone; I'm in a similar situation.
Fortunately, my DH is cool with me nursing up through age 2, but he does think that anything beyond that is kind of weird. His dad and stepmom (who live less than 15 minutes away) are aghast that we've gone this long (though they try to be polite and not say anything).
Stepmom-in-law is a bit of a disappointment to me on this issue, because she has a masters' degree in Nursing and is working on her doctorate. But pediatrics isn't her field, and she formula-fed all her children. (Didn't have much choice, really; long story.) When hubby and I needed to have a conversation with her regarding breastfeeding/formula-feeding differences a couple of weeks ago, she flat out refused to believe we knew what we were talking about!!! (Politely, nicely, and rationally refused, mind you, but I still left that one quite upset.)
So, you're not alone, but as oakdryad hinted, pointing out that you're right may not help much, at least where the in-laws are concerned. I was able to use the fiasco at my in-laws' as a springboard for talking things out with Hubby, and we found some weaning goals we could both agree on. In return, I've got his emotional support where his folks are concerned: he says it's their problem, not his, and they can get over it!
Sorry this is so long, but I want to wish the same for you: I hope you're able to take the information you've found here and use it to find a comfortable ground with your hubby. Then you will both be in a much better position to face the well-meaning, more shortsighted members of the family!
ETA: I should confess that pointing out you're right DOES feel good when you can find a way to get away with it!!! I got to do that next day w/mil after our pediatrician confirmed what we had said. I did it politely in an e-mail (so that I could keep it polite), but it still felt great. So I wish some of that for you, too!
Last edited by @llli*mama.jen; June 8th, 2011 at 08:15 PM.
Happy Toddler, 19 months, still bfeeding
Late Son, passed at age 8, bfed 5 months
Daughter the Elder, age 19 yrs, bfed for 22 months