Re: Several Questions for First Newborn
Yes, what you describe is normal. Newborn babies are often quite sleepy, and the "feed on demand" advice for them should be tweaked to read "feed on demand, or every 2-3 hours, whichever is more frequent". Once the vulnerable newborn period is past, you can stop watching the clock as carefully.
1. Everything I had read/learned says feed on demand. BUT My midwife urged me to always strive for 8-10 feedings a day even if I have to wake her up which I pretty much always do have to do. is this normal? She would sleep and sleep if I didn't. I am too worried to NOT do this... (wake her up and feed on this schedule).
Yes. Feeding speed can vary a lot.
2. Her feedings (after waking up!) are anywhere between 18 and 45 minutes. Normal?
A lipstick nipple indicates that the latch is too shallow. You might want to see a lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC, for help with tweaking this. Hands-on help is the best!
Left side is the problem side: Latching is difficult and we both get frustrated. Over time, I've learned how to keep very sore nipples at bay by usually offering right side first or switching, etc., but there is still some definite issue here. I read on this forum "lipstick" shape is not desirable and that is what happens. Both positions on the L side are difficult, but football hold is usually slightly better. help....
It is normal not to feel letdowns. As long as baby is having adequate wet and dirty diapers, this is not a reason for concern.
4. Let down. I have not definitely experienced this on either side (?), but I started "leaking" on R side yesterday and it is much easier to express milk on that side. Not so for the L.
This is normal newborn behavior. Just be patient and watch diaper output.
5. She can be fussy on either side at erratic times (or it seems). She may chomp, pull, loosen latch and fuss.
Again, count diapers. As long as diaper output is on track, you don't need to obsess over the length of the feeding. When in doubt, always offer the breast. You cannot nurse too often!
6. Additionally, she will drift off to sleep, sometimes very quickly and is hard to arouse or impossible. Maybe I am just used to her longer feedings and worry she should get more...? when really she doesn't need to? Maybe I should allow her to sleep and then nurse again sooner.
Yes. Some extremely sleepy babies don't get enough to eat. Counting diapers will let you know if things are on target.
Is it possible for baby to sleep too much???
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