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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*amy.marie View Post
    How do you do what's best for you when it feels wrong for them?


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    my Dh always told me 3 years old.. no more.. I said why.. He said he will be bigger than me and that would look weird..


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    All this to say that I hear ya, it is hard, but I take comfort from Dr. Sears who says that, "if you resent it, change it."
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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*sixyearplan View Post
    I have come to the realization that I may be nursing a kindergartener one day.
    Don't even joke about this. Says the woman nursing a 4 1/2 year old who resents the limits I've already set, and is bound and determined to nurse FOR.EVER. I only have one nursling, so I don't know the stress of being pulled in more than one direction and trying to balance the 2, but I do know that after this many years of nursing this much, I am sick of it. But then I almost panick at the thought of being completely done (since she is and will be our only child). Because when we're done, it's forever. But if she had her way, we'd nurse for hours at a stretch all day long. Literally. As it is, I have cut her back to 4-ish 20-30 minute sessions per day (yes, you read that right!) I want to wean her entirely, but she's so emotionally attached to it, I just don't have the heart. I don't know where we go from here. But I'm so scared I'm gonna be one of those crazies nursing an 8 year old. Like seriously, I do worry about that now. 4 1/2 seems way too old to me now. She swears she'll wean when she turns 5. So, as her birthday approaches, I think I'm really gonna start talking to her about stopping and all the things she can do instead, etc. Okay, all of that selfish ranting first just to say I can relate and am watching from my side of the trenches!

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    Thank you Kelly. FTR, I don't think you'll be one of those crazies.

    Mama to my little Diva: Miss K (7/15/06)
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    I'm not joking, Kelly. I have that same worry. E can only be limited and distracted so long before she Jist crumples. I know it's not horrible for the child to nurse until 7 or 8, but it is a long time and I don't want her to experience backlash either.

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    My best friend nursed her son until he was 5 1/2, and as far as I could ever tell, it was an entirely positive experience for him. He still talks about it with fondness. And she was/is a great inspiration for me.

    Also - OH MY GOD!!! So, last night, I had Randy put Wyatt to bed with no nursies, because I was just so fed up with him (Wyatt, not Randy). And Wyatt was perfectly happy about it. And tonight, he asked Randy to put him to bed!!! So, we haven't nursed since Monday. I am absolutely 100% convinced we are not done, but WOW! Maybe we really are reaching the home stretch!
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    My baby is so little but I am starting to think about this. She nurses so much and so often. And it ramped back up to the point where my boobs get uncomfortable when I am gone from 9-4ish. And I don't want to nurse a 2 yr old more than once or twice a day And I know that is terrible but partly she uses it "against" Daniel in the ongoing struggle for alone-with-mama time...
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    Tiff, it's just so hard not to have conflicting feelings about it. I wish it didn't drive me crazy to nurse but I can't help it. And I get really mean too.

    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*duckpond View Post
    Also - OH MY GOD!!! So, last night, I had Randy put Wyatt to bed with no nursies, because I was just so fed up with him (Wyatt, not Randy). And Wyatt was perfectly happy about it. And tonight, he asked Randy to put him to bed!!! So, we haven't nursed since Monday. I am absolutely 100% convinced we are not done, but WOW! Maybe we really are reaching the home stretch!
    That's great! My DD didn't nurse yesterday - day 2 of not nursing and today I feel ok with it.
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    I'm glad weaning is moving along, Katie and Teal.

    To be clear, on backlash for nursing into school years, I am sure nursing itself is positive, but I do worry about DH. He told her once big girls don't have T anymore and recently said she will be the only child he knows still having T in school. He did not said it in a mean way, and I know we are already past the timeline he envisioned. He does see and and understand her need for it. With her personality, I am glad that I have one way to calm and center her. She is not a snuggly girl outside of nursing, so it is very precious to me. She is generally very sweet while she nurses. I wish it translated to snuggly sweetness to everyone else in the family.

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    I have to say, DH has not said a thing about when or that we should at all!! In fact, he's been the one to say, "can you nurse her? she seems to need/want it."

    Mama to my little Diva: Miss K (7/15/06)
    And her little sister: Lulu Pie (3/21/09)

    "Don't toush da mango"
    One-handed typer Extraordinaire!
    My body creates, houses, nurtures and nourishes life. That is awesome.
    Kegel Kop says: TIGHTEN UP!

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    That's sweet!

    My DH doesn't hesitate to suggest nursing, but I know he wants her to need it less.

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