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    I totally agree.. I didn't offer to nurse on some of the feedings and they slowly went away.. and the naptime one was my own doing. I was tired and needed it to be gone.. I was okay with the night one for awhile because I was chill that time of day. It was easier loading up my son and nursing him.. but it had a gradual feel to it. But once I saw the signs I didn't offer to him unless he asked..
    But totally agree I hated that feel of dread for some of the nursing sessions like lunch for me. It was easier at that point to just let it be gone.. but he was also 2.
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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mommal View Post
    Nasty heifer? Nah. Don't talk bad about yourself and don't feel bad about being a bit touched out, or more than a bit. Toddlers. So demanding!

    IMHO, you can push the weaning clock a bit and still have it be a mostly child-led process. I know I did. I actively cut out the feedings that were driving me nuts, and let DD lead the way with the ones that weren't driving me nuts.
    The bolded is what I feel like I'm doing.

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    So far today they have both nursed 3 times. My nipples are killing me. If I wasn't so sore all the time I might be able to tough it out longer. I really really want to be done. But then the guilt kicks in.

    How do you do what's best for you when it feels wrong for them?

    Amy married to my bestfriend since 10/30/04

    Proud SAHM to DS born 2/17/07 and DD born 9/11/08 Both weaned together 11/2011
    Currently milk, peach, peanut and tree nut free. DD has outgrown her wheat, cheese, egg, garlic, and citrus allergies

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    That sounds like what I've done, as well. We're down to just the before bed one. I think I can keep going with that one for a while, even though I am pretty much over it. It still means a lot to Wyatt. But if he still wants to be nursing when he's four, I think I will need to be the one to pull the plug on it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*duckpond View Post
    That sounds like what I've done, as well. We're down to just the before bed one. I think I can keep going with that one for a while, even though I am pretty much over it. It still means a lot to Wyatt. But if he still wants to be nursing when he's four, I think I will need to be the one to pull the plug on it.
    my Dh always told me 3 years old.. no more.. I said why.. He said he will be bigger than me and that would look weird..
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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*amy.marie View Post
    So far today they have both nursed 3 times. My nipples are killing me. If I wasn't so sore all the time I might be able to tough it out longer. I really really want to be done. But then the guilt kicks in.

    How do you do what's best for you when it feels wrong for them?
    I'm jumping on here because my twins (21 months) didn't ask for nursing before bed for the first time ever tonight. Honestly, I have such mixed emotions about it!

    About 3 months ago we night weaned because I couldn't take it anymore. Then we dialed it back to twice a day for the same reason. Then a few weeks ago I cut out the morning session because it was starting to drive me nuts too. So I was doing the don't ask, don't refuse for the last feeding (though I actively cut out the other ones).... and then tonight no asking for it. Which was great, on one hand, because I am ready to be done (they tend to have lazy latches these days, they also tend to fight with one another - poking, kicking, generally irritating each other because honestly, there's just not enough space for everyone to be comfortable, and I never get to have one on one snuggles because neither will allow the other to nurse without joining in). But... I also cried and still feel like crying because the twins are probably going to be my only babies....

    All this to say that I hear ya, it is hard, but I take comfort from Dr. Sears who says that, "if you resent it, change it."

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*amy.marie View Post
    How do you do what's best for you when it feels wrong for them?


    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*avery.mom View Post
    my Dh always told me 3 years old.. no more.. I said why.. He said he will be bigger than me and that would look weird..


    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mamasim View Post
    All this to say that I hear ya, it is hard, but I take comfort from Dr. Sears who says that, "if you resent it, change it."
    Thanks for this mama.

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*sixyearplan View Post
    I have come to the realization that I may be nursing a kindergartener one day.
    Don't even joke about this. Says the woman nursing a 4 1/2 year old who resents the limits I've already set, and is bound and determined to nurse FOR.EVER. I only have one nursling, so I don't know the stress of being pulled in more than one direction and trying to balance the 2, but I do know that after this many years of nursing this much, I am sick of it. But then I almost panick at the thought of being completely done (since she is and will be our only child). Because when we're done, it's forever. But if she had her way, we'd nurse for hours at a stretch all day long. Literally. As it is, I have cut her back to 4-ish 20-30 minute sessions per day (yes, you read that right!) I want to wean her entirely, but she's so emotionally attached to it, I just don't have the heart. I don't know where we go from here. But I'm so scared I'm gonna be one of those crazies nursing an 8 year old. Like seriously, I do worry about that now. 4 1/2 seems way too old to me now. She swears she'll wean when she turns 5. So, as her birthday approaches, I think I'm really gonna start talking to her about stopping and all the things she can do instead, etc. Okay, all of that selfish ranting first just to say I can relate and am watching from my side of the trenches!

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    Thank you Kelly. FTR, I don't think you'll be one of those crazies.

    Mama to my little Diva: Miss K (7/15/06)
    And her little sister: Lulu Pie (3/21/09)

    "Don't toush da mango"
    One-handed typer Extraordinaire!
    My body creates, houses, nurtures and nourishes life. That is awesome.
    Kegel Kop says: TIGHTEN UP!

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    My best friend nursed her son until he was 5 1/2, and as far as I could ever tell, it was an entirely positive experience for him. He still talks about it with fondness. And she was/is a great inspiration for me.

    Also - OH MY GOD!!! So, last night, I had Randy put Wyatt to bed with no nursies, because I was just so fed up with him (Wyatt, not Randy). And Wyatt was perfectly happy about it. And tonight, he asked Randy to put him to bed!!! So, we haven't nursed since Monday. I am absolutely 100% convinced we are not done, but WOW! Maybe we really are reaching the home stretch!
    Teal

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