I know there must be many similar threads out there but I wanted to know what you guys think of my story..
I was blessed with my adorable dd over a month ago and began (trying to) bf as soon as I could after normal delivery. Wasn't sure how to go about it so called in 2 nurses (separately) to help but all I got was something like 'yeah, that looks fine' (with some adjustments to holding the baby), 'no it's not supposed to hurt' (no adjustments). Didn't seem like a big deal until I got home and the pain just got worse until we resorted to using a nipple shield to make it more bearable. It worked...for a while - then the pain was back even more, with bloody fleshy strings left over after dd was done. Then she wouldn't latch onto the breast (nipple confusion with breast shields??) - she'd try to latch then start crying and just wouldn't stay on. I was desperate so I expressed some and we gave her a bottle (one of those avent pro-bf ones). Fortunately I managed to get hold of an LC (thru the ped who was horrified at the sight of my scabbed, raw nipples). LC came home twice and helped to get dd back on the breast thank God, but the latch is still awful. She told me to keep relatching until dd gets it right but it never seems to work! I get frustrated and so does dd but my nipples always end up coming out looking flat or bleeding - i can even see where her lower jaw has been chomping near the base of the nipple.
I don't know what to do...her mouth doesn't look too small but somehow she just can't or won't take in enough of the breast around the nipple - she starts out wide but her lower jaw always ends up too near the nipple. I use the nipple sandwich method as taught by the LC...trying the asymmetrical latch didn't work at all either (i've watched a hundred videos and read tons - if only it was before I gave birth!!)
Any ideas? I've been through almost 5 weeks of it, cried, sighed, grinned thru the pain, almost given up and am so frustrated because there seems to be no improvement. Dh feels really awful about it too and wishes he could do something to help - nobody wants to resort to formula and my milk supply seems to be pretty good (baby is growing fast and pooping and peeing like anything). I suppose I shouldn't be looking at the 6 week mark with too many high hopes or the fall will be pretty hard if nothing improves!