hi mummies, don't know if this is the right place for the post...but just wanted to 'talk' to some like minded mummies.
i have a wonderful ds - almost 18mths and still happily feeding 'on demand'. we are together all the time, cept for the 2 days i work. I spent all my mat leave devoted to him.
basically...my priorities and life have totally changed! we co sleep, bf, guess we're into AP. my 'best' friend and i used to be really close, but since my son came along not so much.
she didn't understand the demands and though i could go round and watch films and paint when he was a matter of weeks old.
she's since had a baby and barely spoke about the pregnancy, the birth (which she sees as a terrible experience, although had a normal delivery), and doesn't spend a great deal of time with her now 4 mth old. she's going back to ft work in a couple of weeks.
she didn't get into bf - claimed low supply, and didn't ask me for help even though i'm a trained peer supporter, and basically pumped (at night she pumped while hubby gave formula) so her baby could have bottles ready for next day. baby now on formula.
She's been away on two hen wknds, out on night's out, etc etc. I feel like she still doesn't know why i couldn't just be how i used to be with her, when her life just doesn't seem to have changed like mine has.
i have talked to her about how i didn't mean to push her away when my son was born, and explained i needed the 1 to 1 time with him to bond, getto know each other etc. i feel like in trying to be the best mum, i've been a rubbish friend. i would no wayhave gone away when my son was 8 wks old.
it upsets me we have done this so differently and her life seems to be 'back to normal' (her baby sleeps - mine never sttn). i don't know...feel low and like i've lost my friend. i wish we had similar parenting views but clearly we don't.
anyone else had this sort of experience?
sorry to moan...just feel lonely. n sorry if this doesn't make sense.