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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mommy2lilah View Post
    I agree. I think it's admirable when a family works it out like that so the kids don't have to be in day care, but it's so hard on all of you to not really have much cohesive time as a family.

    Weaning isn't an all or nothing thing. It's a process. You didn't make any mistakes.
    thank you. I felt like I screwed everything up.

    I feel like all our time together is spent yelling and correcting. I'm just getting sick of it. We have different parenting styles and I think that is what causes a lot of problems.
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    with Tracie

    I know your DH is against daycare, but if you are so unhappy you need to tell him how you feel and have those feelings factored in. It sounds like AM may be missing having that connection as well.

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    I'm sure it's pretty hard to get on the same page too, since you are both basically single parents most of the time.

    What does he think about going on days (with health insurance at HIS job) and you staying home? Can you swing it if he has the health insurance?
    Tracie

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    Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*babygirl05 View Post
    thank you. I felt like I screwed everything up.

    I feel like all our time together is spent yelling and correcting. I'm just getting sick of it. We have different parenting styles and I think that is what causes a lot of problems.
    And that may be why it's all the more reason to spend time together to get a coparenting plan. Have things changed since he was playing with her during the day and you were having to run errands and clean at night?

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*sixyearplan View Post
    with Tracie

    I know your DH is against daycare, but if you are so unhappy you need to tell him how you feel and have those feelings factored in. It sounds like AM may be missing having that connection as well.
    I know. I'll be on leave soon. I might even get laid off. I really don't know what's going to happen. I'm just trying to wait it out a little longer...
    He knows I'm unhappy. But he just feels as though we have no other option.
    Proud mom of 2:
    DD 5/2008 nursed for 3 years and 3 months.
    DS born 8/2011 nursing like a champ

    Sorry for the short responses...always, always, always NAK or holding a baby

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    I'm sorry, mama. I know it's hard.

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    Just catching up on this thread! My DH and I are both a little restless with our work situation too. DH is a SAHP, but he'd rather be working outside the home. I'm a working parent, and I pay all the bills and keep us all insured, and the pressure is a killer, and of course I'd rather be at home more, but you know, it's simply not an option. And with DH at home, we can't afford daycare, but it would be hard for DH to get a job that even broke even on the cost of daycare in our area, because it is INSANE.

    Both DH and I constantly remind ourselves that we need to try to make the best of our less-than-ideal situation. But it's a constant challenge. I hope you guys can figure out a way to have more family time, because the split-shift parenting thing is HARD.


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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*joe.s.mom View Post
    Just catching up on this thread! My DH and I are both a little restless with our work situation too. DH is a SAHP, but he'd rather be working outside the home. I'm a working parent, and I pay all the bills and keep us all insured, and the pressure is a killer, and of course I'd rather be at home more, but you know, it's simply not an option. And with DH at home, we can't afford daycare, but it would be hard for DH to get a job that even broke even on the cost of daycare in our area, because it is INSANE.

    Both DH and I constantly remind ourselves that we need to try to make the best of our less-than-ideal situation. But it's a constant challenge. I hope you guys can figure out a way to have more family time, because the split-shift parenting thing is HARD.
    Thanks, this really means a lot.

    Last night DD did not ask to nurse again. I feel much better today. Thank you all for being here for me.
    Proud mom of 2:
    DD 5/2008 nursed for 3 years and 3 months.
    DS born 8/2011 nursing like a champ

    Sorry for the short responses...always, always, always NAK or holding a baby

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    You know, this is why it boggles my mind that most of this country doesn't think that the government should be offering health insurance/care to EVERYONE, not just the elderly and destitute. You are being railroaded into a situation that is not ideal because you can't afford to do anything else since your health insurance is at your employer.

    Awesome about the not nursing though.
    Tracie

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    Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mommy2lilah View Post
    You know, this is why it boggles my mind that most of this country doesn't think that the government should be offering health insurance/care to EVERYONE, not just the elderly and destitute. You are being railroaded into a situation that is not ideal because you can't afford to do anything else since your health insurance is at your employer.

    Awesome about the not nursing though.
    I know, I know, I'm stuck.
    Proud mom of 2:
    DD 5/2008 nursed for 3 years and 3 months.
    DS born 8/2011 nursing like a champ

    Sorry for the short responses...always, always, always NAK or holding a baby

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