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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mommy2lilah View Post
    She wants to nurse, but then if I let her try to, she laughs and runs off. What she REALLY wants is attention... and she thinks that's how the baby is getting attention.

    She did latch on one time and got some of my milk in her mouth. She hasn't even pretended to nurse since that day.

    And as exhausting as it is sometimes, I can't imagine nursing both of them.
    Thats cute though
    I can see A wanting a lot of attention once the baby is born!
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    Sorry for the short responses...always, always, always NAK or holding a baby

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    Last night was day 3. It went as ok as day 2. She asked before bed. Kept saying she wanted too. Then she got all bent out of shape. She didn't cry or throw a tantrum but she does this thing (that's actually quite humorous - she does it other times too when I tell her she can't do/have something) where she just rants on and on and on and does not shut up. So she's saying stuff like when the baby comes out she's going to drink all the milk and that the baby will have none. She's not sharing. She wants milk, she likes to drink milk. I'm going to open up mommy's dress and take milks. And it's just this huge rant that I had no idea she was capable of.
    Then she eventually just starts gabbing on and on about something else and wants to lay on my arm, gets quiet and we both fall asleep.

    I'm feeling alot better about weaning too.
    Proud mom of 2:
    DD 5/2008 nursed for 3 years and 3 months.
    DS born 8/2011 nursing like a champ

    Sorry for the short responses...always, always, always NAK or holding a baby

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    Tracie

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    Lilah 10/08 nursed 25 months
    Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months

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    Well....this weekend was a little rough as I thought it might be.
    Friday was ok.
    Saturday in the am she likes to snuggle and nurse when she wakes up. She started freaking out. Then Dh started freaking out like "what is wrong with you? What do you want". I talked to him later that day about my having a hard time with weaning. But he didn't really say anything. Nothing besides "ok, uh huh". As much as I figured. He just doesn't know what to say. I'm really so glad I have everyone here to talk to.
    Saturday night was fine. She asked once, that was it and went to sleep.
    Now Sunday is where I messed up.
    I didn't want another freak out in the am. So I gave in and nursed. And it was so sweet. That was fine, but then she needed a nap later and needed to nurse to sleep. Alright, so I'm thinking what did I start? Now I have to start all over. She was not happy when she wanted to stay on the boob after she woke up and I couldn't tolerate it. She wanted to go back to sleep.
    So I'm expecting the worst Sunday night...and she didn't even ask to nurse
    So here I am all upset again.
    I think I'm just generally having a hard time with being unhappy as it is. I can't stand our opposite schedules. I can't stand not seeing DH and then when I do spend time with him it's so stressful - like I just want it to be Monday again. DD is pretty good when its me and her but when it's all three of us she likes to test us. And I feel like I have to constantly manage.
    Proud mom of 2:
    DD 5/2008 nursed for 3 years and 3 months.
    DS born 8/2011 nursing like a champ

    Sorry for the short responses...always, always, always NAK or holding a baby

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*sixyearplan View Post
    Your schedules are very hard. I know you guys can't do one income, but could one of you drop a day of work and go more part time? Have you found any preschools that would give AM a little time outside of the house with other kids? I know you were looking around, but I wasn't sure if anything has come of it. If worse comes to worse, could you find a DCP for both kids and get you and DH back on a day work schedule so you are both home together?
    I don't know. When I first went back to work with A I was doing 4 days. I'm not sure if I can swing that this time. Things are kind of uncertain here at my job. I don't really know what's going to happen. Hopefully in another month I'll have a better idea. I have a few things going on in my head but things need to get calmer here first. Whatever happens, I need to keep the insurance. BUT DH has been talking about looking for a new job - so maybe he can have the burden of carrying the insurance - I'm sick of it.

    We are going to register her for one in the fall 2 days a week. See how it goes - maybe we can move it to 3 or 5 depending on how it goes.

    Daycare is so darn expensive. I don't even know if we can afford it. But it's not really out of my mind. I think he's more against it than I am.
    Proud mom of 2:
    DD 5/2008 nursed for 3 years and 3 months.
    DS born 8/2011 nursing like a champ

    Sorry for the short responses...always, always, always NAK or holding a baby

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    I agree. I think it's admirable when a family works it out like that so the kids don't have to be in day care, but it's so hard on all of you to not really have much cohesive time as a family.

    Weaning isn't an all or nothing thing. It's a process. You didn't make any mistakes.
    Tracie

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    Lilah 10/08 nursed 25 months
    Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mommy2lilah View Post
    I agree. I think it's admirable when a family works it out like that so the kids don't have to be in day care, but it's so hard on all of you to not really have much cohesive time as a family.

    Weaning isn't an all or nothing thing. It's a process. You didn't make any mistakes.
    thank you. I felt like I screwed everything up.

    I feel like all our time together is spent yelling and correcting. I'm just getting sick of it. We have different parenting styles and I think that is what causes a lot of problems.
    Proud mom of 2:
    DD 5/2008 nursed for 3 years and 3 months.
    DS born 8/2011 nursing like a champ

    Sorry for the short responses...always, always, always NAK or holding a baby

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    I'm sure it's pretty hard to get on the same page too, since you are both basically single parents most of the time.

    What does he think about going on days (with health insurance at HIS job) and you staying home? Can you swing it if he has the health insurance?
    Tracie

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    Lilah 10/08 nursed 25 months
    Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*sixyearplan View Post
    with Tracie

    I know your DH is against daycare, but if you are so unhappy you need to tell him how you feel and have those feelings factored in. It sounds like AM may be missing having that connection as well.
    I know. I'll be on leave soon. I might even get laid off. I really don't know what's going to happen. I'm just trying to wait it out a little longer...
    He knows I'm unhappy. But he just feels as though we have no other option.
    Proud mom of 2:
    DD 5/2008 nursed for 3 years and 3 months.
    DS born 8/2011 nursing like a champ

    Sorry for the short responses...always, always, always NAK or holding a baby

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    Just catching up on this thread! My DH and I are both a little restless with our work situation too. DH is a SAHP, but he'd rather be working outside the home. I'm a working parent, and I pay all the bills and keep us all insured, and the pressure is a killer, and of course I'd rather be at home more, but you know, it's simply not an option. And with DH at home, we can't afford daycare, but it would be hard for DH to get a job that even broke even on the cost of daycare in our area, because it is INSANE.

    Both DH and I constantly remind ourselves that we need to try to make the best of our less-than-ideal situation. But it's a constant challenge. I hope you guys can figure out a way to have more family time, because the split-shift parenting thing is HARD.


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