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    Mom to T September 10 2009 - BF for 20 months

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mommy2lilah View Post
    Katie, I can't remember if you said, but what about counting to 10 or something? Tell her that she can nurse until you count to 10. Then, if it's a good nursing session, count really slowly. If it's a bad one, count really fast. Or sing 3 repetitions of a song or something.

    What was so hard for me with weaning Lilah while I was pregnant was/is that I truly believe in child-led weaning. But there just wasn't any way I could continue.
    I had tried that...a few months ago, I think and it just didn't work for us. I should try it again. She just wanted me to keep singing and didn't really get the stopping singing means stopping nursing. She then kept asking me to sing every time. On a side note, yesterday I was just singing (not nursing) for no reason and she told me "Mommy, please stop singing, it's annoying"
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    Yeah, Lilah doesn't like it when I sing either.

    I'm sorry you're in such a rough spot.

    ETA: I think the reason Lilah understood that when we got to 10 she had to unlatch is that I had used it for things before. I'm going to count to 10 and then it will be time to take a bath. And then it will be time to get out of the bath, that sort of thing. And I actually had to unlatch her myself at the beginning. But then, at the end, she would stop nursing when I got to 2 or 3. She would just say "I all done."
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    I'll have to try it agian and see if she's ready for that yet.

    Usually when I start counting it's I count to 3 and if you don't do what I told you to I'm going to make you
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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*sixyearplan View Post
    At bedtime for K I have played a CD for her since she was a toddler. I gave back scratches through one song. By three they do understand a little more. Maybe that would work? And telling her no more ma milk when it's dark. That is has to sleep until the sun is up. I know E is really into day and night right now.
    I forgot about that one!
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    Well, last night wasn't too bad. She nursed for a few minutes before falling asleep and did not nurse at all after that.
    I tried the song, still doesn't work. She just wants me to sing, she doesn't want that to be the end of the session. She's one stubborn little girl!
    When she was sleepy sucking I just said quietly "OK, all done" and she unlatched and stayed sleeping.
    Oh and I was trying to tell her that the milks needed to sleep and she got all but a weird not a tantrum but like really sad. And said "but I still want to drink them."
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    Oh Katie, that must be hard. I was thinking about you this morning. I was pretty sure that weaning Lilah was going to be the end of our relationship and that I was going to damage her for life. It's such a tough place to be in, wanting them to make a decision one way when they want things the way they have always been. In the end, I was really surprised at how easy it was to wean. I thought it would have been harder. I don't know what you experience will be, but you will not lose that connection with your daughter. And although she may be sad, if you decide to wean her, she will have the gift of that baby brother and they will have each other for the rest of their lives.
    Tracie

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    Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mommy2lilah View Post
    Oh Katie, that must be hard. I was thinking about you this morning. I was pretty sure that weaning Lilah was going to be the end of our relationship and that I was going to damage her for life. It's such a tough place to be in, wanting them to make a decision one way when they want things the way they have always been. In the end, I was really surprised at how easy it was to wean. I thought it would have been harder. I don't know what you experience will be, but you will not lose that connection with your daughter. And although she may be sad, if you decide to wean her, she will have the gift of that baby brother and they will have each other for the rest of their lives.
    Thank you
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    ...I was thinking that if everynight were like last night, just a few minutes of nursing and that's it, then I'd be ok with it.
    Another side wants to be finished because I really don't want her nursing MORE when the baby comes.
    Proud mom of 2:
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    We had a rough night last night. The weekends seem to be the worst because she wants to usually nurse 1-3x and when she gets up in the morning, just hang out on the boob for a while. It makes me extra sore, and so much less patient.
    Last night she nursed for a few minutes and I start gettng annoyed because she doesn't latch right. She's not sticking her tongue out anymore so I feel all her teeth. So I ask her to stop a few times. She got hysterical. So then I said we can try again. Same thing. But that time I started crying too.
    I don't know if she understands that it's not her fault. I try to explain that she's not the one hurting me that it just hurts. I wish it didn't. I don't want it to have to end like this. I just wish that she'd choose on her own not to nurse anymore.
    I still haven't asked DH for help either. I haven't told him how I am feeling about any of this and I think it's about time I do.
    I was reading in a book about how different cultures will wean during pregnancy and the one said that the mother will rub bitter herbs on her. Is that so horrible? Another said they would send the child to grandmas for a few nights. That is so not an option.
    Proud mom of 2:
    DD 5/2008 nursed for 3 years and 3 months.
    DS born 8/2011 nursing like a champ

    Sorry for the short responses...always, always, always NAK or holding a baby

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