JH is 23 months old...I let the twiddling get a bit out of control, and I'm looking for ways to stop it or lessen without weaning him. He associates nursing with having both sides (totally my fault, but he was such a difficult nursling for the first year that I did whatever it would take to get him to want to nurse)...now he needs to have both sides out when he nurses (which is quite embarrassing in at playgroups and such) I try to cover one side and he freaks out "mama both sides out" As he is falling asleep he needs to be grabbing the other side as well. I always pull his hand off and place it back on gently everytime he twiddles. However, he just goes right back to doing it (kind of like a habit). I've tried putting a small toy in that hand, he just reaches over with the other hand. He associates it as part of nursing. He is one persistent little fellow! Any suggestions?