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    Some days or sessions are more enjoyable for us than others. If my daughter gets really wiggly (almost 22 mos) I say she needs to tell the wiggle worm not to bother her. If she persists, I delatch and say we're done. She doesn't twiddle. She did a few times and I move her hand and I told her that bothers mommy (it drives me crazy so I had to deal with it right away). Sometimes she wants to nurse right before bath but nurses after bath every night so I usually make her wait. She can handle it. She still nurses often but I do have to set limits to avoid resenting nursing all the time or whatever else I'd find annoying.
    Nursed my sweet daughter 3 years, 3 mos.

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    I started to feel that way around the time I got my cycle back (around 21 months). The twiddling drove me nuts too and I had to put a stop to it. Once that got under control it was better. But I still had the agitated feelings, espcially during certain times of the month.

    It didn't get bad again until I got pregnant.

    I know what you mean about feeling conflicted because that's exactly how I feel right now. My DD will be 3 in a few days and I really want to wean her. Her brother is due in about 12 weeks. As much as I want to wean and as irritated as I get, when she didn't nurse to sleep 2x this week I got all upset about it. It's weird/hard to explain.

    I think that working on the manners would help alot also it's OK to distract your LO or say later.
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    Babygirl05, that's awesome that you are still nursing during pregnancy!! That's another thing DH and I were thinking about. We would like to start trying for another LO but I don't think I could handle nursing through a pregnancy. When I was pregnant my nipples were soo sensitive it was the worst feeling to have anything even brush up against them. So I think you are doing a great job.
    So I guess I'm just gonna take it each step at a time because I know I don't want to take away his source of comfort before he is ready.
    Thanks again to everyone it's nice to hear I'm not alone.
    Mom to T September 10 2009 - BF for 20 months

    Due with baby #2 December 31st 2012!

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*daydreamer View Post
    Babygirl05, that's awesome that you are still nursing during pregnancy!! That's another thing DH and I were thinking about. We would like to start trying for another LO but I don't think I could handle nursing through a pregnancy. When I was pregnant my nipples were soo sensitive it was the worst feeling to have anything even brush up against them. So I think you are doing a great job.
    So I guess I'm just gonna take it each step at a time because I know I don't want to take away his source of comfort before he is ready.
    Thanks again to everyone it's nice to hear I'm not alone.
    Aww...thanks
    It's not the same for everyone. Not everyone gets irritated, but it's probably more common than not. Some kids will just wean because you are pg too. But you never know what type of kid you're going to have, right? I figured mine would be done by now since I haven't had milk in a long time.
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    I haven't read each response closely, but I agree with PP who said it is okay to set limits. I don't think it is too much to expect him to remain in your lap and calm during nursing sessions, or else the session ends. It may take a few days but if you are consistent it can get better. I am only nursing my almost-20-month-old once in the morning now, so I can't totally relate to the toddler nursing habits that come at this age. But, I do know I've read a lot of other mamas on here who have gone through those same feelings of being irritated and frustrated with nursing a toddler. My guess is setting some limits will help those feelings.


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    I didn't really read all the responses, but are SURE you're not pregnant? That is exactly how it felt when I was pregnant and nursing. In fact, that is why I did end up weaning during pregnancy because I could not take that feeling every single time I touched my child. It is heartbreaking to feel that way when you are doing the one thing that makes you and your child feel closest, but wanting to scream at them and hide your breasts isn't that great either.

    I kind of felt like that was my body's way of telling me it was time to wean. I have heard of other moms feeling like this when their children were toddlers and they were not pregnant as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mommy2lilah View Post
    I didn't really read all the responses, but are SURE you're not pregnant? That is exactly how it felt when I was pregnant and nursing. In fact, that is why I did end up weaning during pregnancy because I could not take that feeling every single time I touched my child. It is heartbreaking to feel that way when you are doing the one thing that makes you and your child feel closest, but wanting to scream at them and hide your breasts isn't that great either.

    I kind of felt like that was my body's way of telling me it was time to wean. I have heard of other moms feeling like this when their children were toddlers and they were not pregnant as well.

    Pregnancy was my VERY first thought when this started happening a couple months ago. Because the feeling while nursing is so similar to tye nipple sensitivity i had while i was pregnant. Since then I have taken 2 tests just tobe sure. Both negative. My cycles are very regular as well.
    Maybe I'll test again this month. But it reAlly does feel like it's my body saying. Enough already!!!!! But I know I really don't want to wean yet.
    Mom to T September 10 2009 - BF for 20 months

    Due with baby #2 December 31st 2012!

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    I've had that feeling while nursing while pregnant. And oddly, now while EPing at least once a day for the last week or so. I just want to rip the horns away and run.

    I would totally agree on setting limits and expecting manners. If you are just fooling around, you don't need to nurse, KWIM. Let's do something else. That's how I approached it with my toddlers. But if they settle in, I would cope with that creepy-crawly feeling by really looking at and focusing on the toddler and thinking about how important it is for the kid to continue, and usually I could overcome it after a few minutes. Toddler nursing is not easy.

    Sometimes changing positions helped, like to lay down, so I could relax instead of thinking about how it's the 5000th time that day the kid has wanted to nurse and now nothing is getting done around the house.

    It seems to have a hormonal basis, and it may ebb and flow.
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    Default Re: Conflicting feelings about weaning (kinda long)

    toddler antics are no fun, especially when you feel that way. My DD is only nursing at night, but there are rules that I have to go over every.single. night. Maybe I'm hoping she'll get sick of my rules and quit
    Every night I tell her she must "Come in close, STOP MOVING AROUND, and open her mouth WIDE" I won't even offer unless she's still. And she needs to unlatch and relatch when I tell her to or no more.
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    Default Re: Conflicting feelings about weaning (kinda long)

    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*babygirl05 View Post
    toddler antics are no fun, especially when you feel that way. My DD is only nursing at night, but there are rules that I have to go over every.single. night. Maybe I'm hoping she'll get sick of my rules and quit
    Every night I tell her she must "Come in close, STOP MOVING AROUND, and open her mouth WIDE" I won't even offer unless she's still. And she needs to unlatch and relatch when I tell her to or no more.
    This is exactly what was going through my mind today. He was nursing like a starved savage beast last night. and that's putting it mildly...he was frantically nursing making grunting noises and smacking. It was almost like he knows that I'm getting frustrated with him and knows nursing might be coming to an end. i unlatched him and told him he is hurting me and has to be gentle. ha was a little lighter after that. I'm thinking what's bothering me is how strong his suck/latch is now that he is such a big person.

    And I thought I would update to let you ladies know that I went to the doc today to order bloodwork to see if I'm pregnant. I thought I should make sure and not mess around with any more pee sticks. I should get the results on Tuesday hopefully, so I'll keep you all posted.
    Mom to T September 10 2009 - BF for 20 months

    Due with baby #2 December 31st 2012!

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