Well, I see there are quite a few posts out there related to this topic, but they're dated and I don't have time to read through all the responses. Plus, this gives me a chance to air my grievances.
My son had become an ok nurser. In my, not very experienced estimation, it has always been more about food than cuddles. But, we were able to nurse in weird places, and frequently.
Almost 2 weeks ago my 9 month old son started his nursing strike. A week before that his nipple biting had really taken off. He has 4 teeth on top and 4 on bottom, and I believe he is working on the canines, so "biting hurts" is what I would tell him. After one such incidence I calmly set him down, inspected my nipple to show him it hurts and he cried. I picked him up and hugged him reassuring him I was not angry, but it would seem that was the last straw for him.
He has been cleared by doc for any possible health reasons. I've spoken with my lac consultant. I've scoured the web. In the first 2 days I was able to sneakily nurse him on 2 separate occasions while he was very drowsy, now not even that works.
He bucks, he cries, he pushes and he kicks. And when the nipple cleared the lips, he bit.
I should mention I am with him all day. I don't work. I'm pumping and giving him bottles. At first, I always offered to nurse first, but after a week of that, the refusals seemed to be getting stronger. So I stopped being forceful (putting him in a hold with my boob in his face). Also, he loves real food.
I don't know what to do now. I'm going to keep pumping. I'm going to keep giving him bottles and solids. I know some might say these things will take away a reason for him to go back to nursing, and I don't disagree, but I'm torn.
I want him to nurse, but I don't want to go backwards. Solids are the way of his future, and he needs to get milk, even if by bottle I'm not going to let him get too hungry. We experimented with that a little, and all it produced was a very angry little man. It seems like a fools errand to take backwards steps to try to get him to nurse when I don't know if those steps will even work, and if they do, knowing it's all temporary anyway makes me not want to force the issue.
But I'm sad!! And I want him to nurse again. It's how I envisioned ourselves. Nursing until he wanted to stop... at 4 years old or something like that.
So, I repeat, I don't know what to do and I'm sad. I sit around topless. Sometimes he pinches my nipples and grins. Today he banged a stacking cup against my boob. Is this progress? haha ahhhhhh! at least he's not crying.
Will he ever come back? Is he telling me he is independent? Am I still in trouble for telling him he can't bite? Is a bottle just too easy, sorry mom?
While I believe I've tried a lot of things, I am soliciting for advice. Thank you so much for reading this!