Proud mom of 2:
DD 5/2008 nursed for 3 years and 3 months.
DS born 8/2011 nursing like a champ
Sorry for the short responses...always, always, always NAK or holding a baby
It sounds like both of you are in a difficult place right now. I just wanted to agree with the other moms that having your dh help will make a big difference. Early on I forced dh to give ds a bath and put on pajamas, he (dh) whined about it for months, but now it is their special time together. Ds cries when I have to give him his bath. I know my dh too feels like when he gets home he just wants to wind down and not help, but it really is not fair to you.
Ds 9/09 nursed for 20 months
Dd 12/11 nursing a toddler again
Wife to Nick, m. May 2005
Mommy to Gabriel (b. January 2007, 8lbs. 15oz.), nursed 18 months.
Isaac (b. August 2009, 9lbs. 1oz- naturally), nursed 22 months, through PPD/PPA and emergency gallbladder surgery.
and Corban (b. March 2012, 11lbs. 6Oz.- naturally in the water), my NICU baby, still nursing strong at age 2!
Daughter of God
Nursed my sweet daughter 3 years, 3 mos.
You can call me JoMo!
Mom to baby boy Joe, born 5/4/09 and breastfed for more than two and a half years, and baby girl Maggie, born 7/9/12.
Momma how do you deal with this? I would be stabbing myself in the eye if my children were up this late. I'm sort of skimming through this thread so I apologize if I'm repeating other posters.
How long is he napping for? I wonder if he is napping too long and so it keeps him up this late at night?
And at 21 months, you HAVE to set boundaries. Even if there are tears! You are the mommy and have to lead the way. It will be so much better in the end.
You have a lot of options. But at 21 months distraction is the best. Getting outside (regardless if your laundry and house goes to crap....) will work. Even if you do this for 2 weeks to establish a routine, so what!
You can try timing the sessions. He might understand. Tell him that you will sing a song and when you're done nursing is over. I am not sure this will work for 21 months though.