Re: On the verge of giving up
OMG. So true. Those attractively-dressed moms in the formula commercials with their immaculate McMansions and time to cuddle their adorable, sleeping babies and fix and drink a relaxing cup of tea- I wanted to KILL THEM. Because the first few weeks/months postpartum, I've always been sitting in a house that looks eligible for Red Cross disaster aid, with my hair unwashed, milk stains on my cloths, barf in my hair- and when we had a dog she was lucky if she got a trip to the backyard to pee.
Originally Posted by @llli*amy.marie
I really, really sympathize with your situation. I had similar problems with my first baby. Flat nipples made it excruciating to nurse, and because my baby couldn't achieve a good latch, I ended up pumping 8X per day trying to build my supply. I just about went crazy. I was crying every day, multiple times a day, wondering where my magical bonding experience with my baby was going- how could I possibly bond when I had to choose between holding her and pumping for her?
What the books and commercials don't tell you is that sometimes having a baby is a magical, rosy experience where everything goes perfectly and feeding the baby is like falling in love. And other times it's more like you and your baby are going through a war together. It's hard, you're scared, you're stressed- but in the end you generate an unshakable bond anyway.
Here are a few things that helped me:
- Take it one day at a time. Don't think about making it to a year or whatever. Just make it through today.
- Save time when pumping by leaving your pump screwed onto a bottle of milk, and pop the whole thing in the fridge. When it's time to pump again, re-use the set-up, pumping new milk on top of old. My LC said I could do this 1X before washing everything again.
- Instead of doing multiple little washing-ups per day, do one big one. Throw used bottles and pump parts into a big basin of soapy water and leave them.
- Remember that breastfeeding doesn't have to be all or nothing. I am that pumping just 2X a day isn't going to maintain a big supply, but if that's all you can do it's better than nothing! If pumping 8X per day is too much, pick a different number that works for you.
- Remember that flat or inverted nipples often do get corrected when you nurse/pump! Mine used to be flat- but it only took about 6 months for them to evert completely and permanently. (Looks slutty under a t-shirt, but so what?! )
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"