Re: Afraid on how to pump wean and on how to wean a baby. Help
Based on the information given, it's kind of hard to answer your question about pump weaning. If you're close to being able to meet your baby's breastmilk needs without pumping, I'd say you could just stop pumping now and make up the deficit with solids and donor milk or formula. But if you're really far from meeting your baby's needs, then I'd recommend continuing to pump until you're closer to a year.
One thing that strikes me is that you're planning to wean at a year. That's fine if you really are feeling done with nursing, but if you're still getting some enjoyment from it there's plenty of reason to continue to nurse past a year, not least of which is that after a year it gets really easy. You don't need to pump- you just nurse and feed solids and let it ride. As long as the baby is nursing 4-5 times a day, you don't need to worry about offering dairy, and you can think of breastfeeding as a nutritional crutch that's keeping your child's diet balanced, rather than as the mainstay of his diet.
Regarding your nursing frequency, it sounds like you're doing just what you should. You can't offer too much, and nursing before solids is the way to optimize breastmilk intake. Don't worry about not offering enough solids- until a year, they're just for fun and you want to have your baby eating predominantly milk until the first birthday.
Now, on to weaning in general. The key to gentle weaning is to go slow. You drop one feeding, replace it with solids, wait a few days, then drop another. That minimizes the baby's upset and your potential discomfort from engorgement. Most moms drop the least favored feeding of the day first, increasing distraction (like a trip to the store, a snack, a trip outdoors) during that time. Often the last feedings to go are the ones associated with sleep- before/after naps or bedtime.
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