Hi - new to this board - my name is Erica. I have a 7.5 month old son. He nurses roughly 12 times a day. I know from pumping for a friend in need, that I produce roughly 2 ounces per let down. He rarely lets me feed him from both sides anymore. If he wants more than 2 ounces he usually stays on one side and triggers a second letdown, but more often than not he falls asleep after the first 2 ounces or stops altogether. I don't know how to get him to take more at one time so he's getting more milk during the day and less at night.
He wakes up roughly every two hours throughout the night to nurse. Not only is this schedule exhausting me, but my husband and I would like to start trying for #2 and because of the on-demand nursing I have not yet resumed my cycle.
I bought and have read Pantley's The No-Cry Sleep Solution because I am not interested in CIO and I've repeatedly read through The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. That on top of the pressure I get from "outside influences" to do things the way everyone else does them - I'm flipflopping between thinking:
1) He should be sleeping through the night, in his crib, in another room from me. He should be getting all his breastmilk (aside from maybe one night feeding) during the day. This is normal. He may not LIKE sleeping alone, but no one does. It's merely something he has to learn to do like all people have to learn to do. Not to mention I could really use more sleep to be 100% for him.
2) He's just a baby. He doesn't NEED to be doing anything but learning and growing and I NEED to do whatever I can to facilitate that. And that means, breastfeeding as much as he wants for as long as he wants, co-sleeping, nurturing. And he's only nursing this much at night because he's teething (for the last 3 months with no teeth yet).
But I feel just as much pressure to conform as I do to fight conformity. I can't find my happy medium that makes both he and I happy. I could really use some guidance and reassurance to be able to hear my momstinct and I just don't know where else to go. Please help? TIA