Re: When you don't feel like nursing..
Here are a few things I recall doing:
*setting a timer or describing after what event(s) he WOULD be able to nurse
*doing something extremely silly and unexpected
*starting off small and keeping my phrasing positive -- instead of, "no, not right now," saying "yes, you can nurse after we do....." and keeping the amount of time he had to wait very short at first, and then increasing it slowly.
*anticipating those time when I was most likely to NOT want to and he was most likely to WANT to, and getting us involved in something as interesting as possible at that time (before the request came).
When he was upset about not getting to nurse, I tried to honor his desire, without stuffing my own feelings -- letting him know that I understood how much he wanted to, and how hard it was to not be able to. He has been a real teacher to me about letting a person have their feelings without trying to make it better out of my own feelings of discomfort or guilt. He would get far more upset if I tried to convince him out of his feelings. If his feelings were strong, I found that just being willing to be there to hear/witness them without inserting myself into them led him to eventually understand that even his strongest feelings come and they go, and neither one of us becomes undone by them.
Mama to Lorenzo, born 4/25/2007. NICU graduate, Gastro-Esohapgeal Reflux, Obstructive Sleep Apnea, Sensory Processing Disorder...alive and thriving thanks to breastfeeding and co-sleeping.
Those who say it can't be done should not interrupt the person doing it.