Hi there (sorry this is going to be long)
So my DS has really been weird the last few weeks - basically since he got a cold - pretty much refusing to eat during the day... so much speculation as to whats going on here - distractibility, teething etc etc... Overall a very happy baby still though.
Anyways, I was worried b/c he NEVER tells me he is hungry now - going on for over 3 weeks now - only eating well in the middle of the night. So I took him to the doctor mainly to get him weighed.. He was gaining weight just fine, however the doctor told me he has his days and nights mixed up. Now I am home with him all day long, and I am not really sure if this is actually reverse cycling or whether my dr just wanted us out of her office in a hurry (since he is obviously healthy). He was getting up ALOT in the middle of the night to feed (like 4 or 5 times) when he wasn't feeling well, so maybe thats whats caused this issue. However, now he is only getting up about twice - sometimes three times between 9pm and 8am - getting back to normal (previous to this, he still always got up about once or twice). However, he is still refusing to nurse during the day. I am able to get him to eat enough, but its brutal and the hugest struggle ever just to get him to take one gulp. I have to catch him when he has just woken up from a nap, otherwise its like a gulp here a gulp there all day long - just will not nurse for a decent period of time.
So the dr told me to just wait it out another week and then i'd have to get tough with him. However, she said not to force him. I dont know how to get him back on schedule. How do you get tough without pi$$ing him off and getting angry at me - this has only seemed to make it worse lately? I dont see how only eating 2-3 times at night can satisfy him all day long... If i wait for him to tell me he's hungry he never will - i tried yesterday and after 4.5 hours of absolutely no sign of hunger, i gave in and struggled to try to feed him again.
I've tried every position under the sun, every room in my house, dark, light, white noise, music, nursing necklaces, different chairs, different pillows, skin to skin, blankets, walking around etc etc... but nothign seems to get him very interested in nursing. It has gotten SLIGHTLY better since yesterday, but I am getting desperate for suggestions on how I can get his appetite back on track, or even just a 'I've been there -he'll grow out of this' response... Honestly, he just really does not seem hungry at ALL during the day now. SO weird.
This is taking over my life (it feels like the first 6 weeks all over again when he wouldnt latch )
I previously posted about the exact same issue thinking it was a nursing strike, or weaning or something.. unforutnately there hasn't been much improvement.
Sorry for the novel...