I would loan mine too (I have both) but I just loaned them to another pregnant friend last week!
No worries, either I get Erin's or I search our local library.:gvibes
Tiff, I've been explaining to Joshua this (every single day) "babies are born without any teeth in their mouth, all they drink is mommies milkies. You have lots of teeth, and you can eat all kinds of big boy foods that baby can't eat." He still snuggles with his milkies, and asks to nurse maybe once a day for a few seconds. While he is snuggling he says "baby no teeth, Joshua teeth" so I know it is registering.
I agree with you...I really don't want to tandem. I was talking with my midwife about it, and she actually brought up alot of good points to tandem nursing (not what I wanted to hear, but)...she agreed to set limits from the start. She said that it made her older one feel as if they were still just as important, and therefore there were far less jealousy issues, helped with engorgement, and here is the best one...she lost a TON of weight :)
However, I am still hoping by that point he will be fully weaned. You have a good shot seeing it is has been 3 months so far! It's not like you are suddenly cutting her off. Just keep on explaining why baby needs the milk just like she did when she was a tiny baby. Make her feel proud about being a big girl now with all those nice teeth, and talk to her about all her favorite foods that she gets to enjoy...that baby can't have.
Keep us posted on how it goes!!!