Was the weight gain counted from your baby's lowest weight (not her birth weight)? Babies lose can lose between 7-10% of their birth weight in their first days of life. Weight gain should always be counted from the lowest point up. :)
How often are you pumping now? About how many total ounces do you pump per 24 hours?
There are lots of variables when it comes to pumping output. :) Not every mother pumps 4 ounces or more per pumping session.
The first thing I would suggest is to get her latched on well, assuring she is far back on the areola. Once there, watch her sucking pattern. When the sucks slow, use breast compressions to keep her sucking longer. You can read a description of the technique here:
And you can watch videos of the technique here:
You seem to be worried that you won't be able to eat or sleep if your baby is nursing. How would you feel about having some "one handed" foods available so you can eat while baby nurses? You could sit down to nurse with a cold glass of ice water, a sandwich, and an empty bladder. ;) Then, you and baby would have time to practice the art of breastfeeding without you becoming overly hungry. If you need both hands to nurse, your partner could help you eat while you nurse the baby.
Another thing that might help is to learn how to nurse while lying down. Once you get baby latched on and into a good sucking pattern, you can doze while baby nurses. Just be sure not to try this on a waterbed or on top of a comforter. Lie directly on top of the sheets.
Does the hospital or birth center where you gave birth have an IBCLC on staff? If so, it's possible that you could get help that way. Many times, a lactation consult is included in your birth cost.
If your county health department has an IBCLC on staff, you might be able to get help from them.
If nothing else, call around to some of the IBCLCs in your area. Ask if they offer a sliding scale fee. Sometimes they do!
And, if you have a local LLL Leader, do call her! She'd be glad to help. :)
1) C-section. My stomach is still tender in some spots and no matter how I lay on my side it bothers me.
2) It's cold. We have to have the AC on in order for my hubby to be able to sleep. Otherwise he gets too hot and can't sleep. I just toss more blankets on my side and we make sure to layer the little one. We use a sleep positioner (she keeps rolling onto her side) and we put her in a onsie, swaddle her, then take a blanket and put it over the positioner and tuck it under her. She doesn't seem too hot that way -- she's never sweaty when I take her out.
3) I've slept with one of her blankets (family member suggested doing that to get my scent on it so she'd sleep better because she'd fall asleep snuggled up against me with my robe covering her) and I'll wake up in the middle of the night and at first I think the bundle is her and I panick that I've squashed her. I just don't feel comfortable with her in the bed with me, especially since our bed is fairly soft (we have 2 inches of memory foam on the top of our mattress).
I am so sorry that you have been having such problems. Maybe your LLL leader could show you what to do if you go to a meeting and the LO gets hungry. All I can do is give you a big hug :hug and I am sure that the rest of people posting want to give you a :grouphug
Don't feel like a failure at all. My LO was in the same place when he was born. I had to pump right after nursing and give him what I pumped. If you need to supplement with formula while you pump so someone else can feed, do it. Feeding your baby comes first and this comes for someone who believes in breastfeeding.
In time your LO will get only breastmilk or more of it. Hang in there and don't be hard on yourself. You're doing the best you can!
Also check to see if your LO has a tight frenulum or tongue tie. It was the reason why my little one wasn't gaining fast enough. Email me with any questions.