Hi everyone, I have a three month old daughter. Her birth was very quick and traumatic and as a result, I was too stressed out and tired to try bf for more than a day. As with any new mam, I didn't know what to do when the baby was crying and didn't know if she was getting any milk so I just decided to give her a bottle. I really regret it now, it's actually making me feel a bit low. I'm considering trying to reintroduce baby to breast. My lo is a fussy eater n is on a 210ml bottle seven times a day. Normally she doesn't drink the full 210 but when she was on 180 she was drinking all of it and looking for more. I don't know if she'd be more or less satisfied with breast milk esp if she is hungry so much n it might take a while to get my supply up snd running again. My phn suggested I could start weaning her at 17 weeks because she's so hungry n I'm planning on going back to work in jan (if I can't take unpaid leave). I'm afraid also I won't get support, Ive already told one friend and she's saying how bf isn't popular anymore and it won't make a huge difference to me and baby's bond.. but I think it would. . I know you'll support me but honestly, would it be a waste of time? I don't think I could bf in public either and that was another factor as to why I went for formula feeding.
Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the baby! I'm sorry her birth was so difficult. It must have been a very overwhelming experience.
Your friend was absolutely wrong about breastfeeding. It happens to be increasingly popular, and for many moms is a really vital aspect of their bonds with their babies. But what matters here is how YOU feel about nursing- if it's something you want to try, and something that you think could help you bond with your child, then that is all that matters.
If you want to nurse again, I suggest simply offering the breast to the baby as often as she is willing to take it. After 3 months of bottles, there's a good chance that she won't really know what to do with it. If that is the case, the suggestions in this link http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/child/back-to-breast/ may help encourage her to give it a try. The skin-to-skin and instant reward techniques are said to be especially helpful for reluctant nursers.
Since you have done bottles for 3 months, you're going to need to work to rebuild your supply. That means either getting baby to nurse a lot, and/or pumping as much as possible, using a high-quality double electric pump with correctly sized shields. A hospital-grade rental would be ideal. You're going to want to pump as much as possible. 8-12 times per day, for 20 minutes at a time, would be ideal. But that's not possible for all women, so don't feel like you're failing just because you can't achieve perfection. Every little bit you do will help build supply. Milk supply = demand, so the more you pump and nurse, the more you'll make.
Now, in the US there is no way we'd recommend introducing solids to a 4 month old baby. I believe the recommendation in the UK is the same- that babies should be exclusively on the breast or on formula for the first 6 months.