Feed on demand, or at least 10-12 times per day in the early weeks. Because milk supply = demand, on-demand nursing is really all that almost all moms and babies require in order to be successful at nursing. Schedules are generally the enemy of nursing success, unless you have a very sleepy or non-demanding baby who nurses less than he/she should.
Originally Posted by @llli*koms1016
I know pumping is suggested by many, many people, but I personally think that early pumping is one of those "booby traps" that tends to undermine breastfeeding rather than support it. When a mom pumps, she runs the risk of stimulating an oversupply problem- and I have dealt with both undersupply and oversupply and while I would much rather have the latter than the former, oversupply is no fun for mom or baby! You end up with a baby who struggles with fast letdowns, spits up even more than average, hates comfort nursing, levers off the breast during letdowns leaving your milk squirting into the air (which is great fun when nursing in public), and has green poop and lots of gas. The other problem with pumping, IMHO, is that it encourages a mom to measure her breastfeeding success based on her output at the pump, and not by the baby's weight gain, diaper output, health and happiness, etc.
I think you should see an otolaryngologist, speech pathologist, pediatric dentist, or simply a different pediatrician. A baby whose tongue "forks" and who has difficulty getting his tongue to protrude past the gum line- that sounds like a tongue tie to me. Not only can tongue ties impact nursing, but they can also impact speech- which is why I would see someone about this even though your difficulties with nursing this particular baby are in the past.
Originally Posted by @llli*mamalump
It's normal for weight gain to be very rapid in earliest infancy, when milk supply tends to be highest and the baby does nothing but lie around and pack all his milk intake on as fat. Once a baby gets more mobile, more and more calories go into things like reaching/rolling/crawling/standing, so the rate of weight gain tends to decline with time. If it didn't, a lot of babies would reach their first birthdays too fat to move- literally. My second kid would have been... OMG, she would have been around 61 lbs on her first birthday! Never calculated that before. :lol
I'm not worried about that. My family DH, MIL, FIL, and my mother (essentially everyone except my dad who is totally hands off) are very very pro-breastfeeding. I have no intention of introducing the bottle until I feel like she needs to learn how use one and breastfeeding is well established. I never even gave my son a pacifier out of fear of nipple confusion. All milk pumped in the beginning would go directly into the freezer or if it turned out to be lots, I'd donate.
There's regulating and then there's regulating. Most moms start out with some degree of oversupply. That's nature's way of making absolutely sure a newborn gets fed- your body figures it's better to have too much milk than too little. By a few weeks in, most moms are still making more milk than their babies need- not so much that they're getting engorged on a daily basis, but enough that they will likely have extra milk to pump out. Her supply has "regulated", but it's not as "regulated" as it's going to get. By the time a mom has been nursing for several months, her supply is going to be extremely well-matched to the baby's demand- and if you wait until that point to start pumping, you're more likely to struggle because you're unlikely to have more than a tiny bit of "extra" milk to pump.
But, if I wait until my supply regulates to start pumping, isn't that dangerous since at least last time I didn't respond as well to the pump, and babe will need all the milk I do pump? Doesn't that lead to a vicious cycle?
I really don't think you need to worry. :gvibes You're in the extremely enviable position of being able to stay home for 6 months. So let's say you start pumping at around 4 weeks, maybe once or twice a day, producing a few oz per day. For the sake of argument, let's say you get 3 oz per day. You feed 2 oz to the baby so she can get used to the bottle, and you store just 1 oz in the freezer. By the time you go back to work, you have around 150 oz in the freezer, just from storing one single oz per day!
I don't want to end up with a huge oversupply problem, but enough that when I go back to work the decrease in my supply that always comes from switching from feeding at the breast to pumping 3 times a day during the day will still be enough to cover her needs without meds or renting an $$$$ pump.