This sounds like what we have been doing. I enjoy cooking and we usually eat healthy foods, so my approach to solids has been to give my little foodie-in-training some of whatever we are eating and let him decide what to do with it. His solid food consumption has certainly improved since we started solids, but I'm not comfortable relying on solids alone for complete nutrition quite yet as I never know how much he will decide to eat at any given meal. I'm not too worried about it because he's still pretty young and he is making progress, albeit fairly slowly. My plan is to continue to take a "hands off" approach so that he doesn't feel pressure to eat and associate mealtimes with tension/stress/anxiety as a result. My only real concern with this is that he gets enough milk to fill in the blanks, particularly when we are apart as I would really like to cut down on some of the pumping.
The main take-away is that kids will self regulate based on their awareness of their own hunger, and that parents are responsible for providing good foods, but not for making their kids eat.
:idea Good thinking! I tend toward low hemoglobin myself, so an iron supplement for me is an excellent idea. My levels were good during pregnancy so I didn't really think about it, but I've had two surgeries since then, both involving significant blood loss and pretty intensive recovery, so I wouldn't be surprised if my hemoglobin has tanked.
are you taking iron, too? When I get worn out like you sound, I pretty routinely show low hemoglobin levels, and a few weeks of Floridix can make a big difference in my energy levels. B12 helps, too. I wondered bc your LO needs the iron; you might, too.