My bottlefed baby still wakes a lot at night :shrug
I had that problem when my ds was 9 weeks (now 12 weeks).. I was trying to get him to sleep longer at night to prepare for my return to work. So, like most are saying... feed more during the day and do activities that will be stimulating, that way they will sleep better at night. Another thing I did, which seemed to help, was instead of nursing before bed, I would bottle-feed my milk instead. That way I knew for sure he was getting what I know would fill him up and keep him satisfied longer. It has worked for me. He only wakes once now and I just bring him in bed with me and fall back to sleep while he is nursing. :love
RE: "stimulating activities", I assume you mean between naps, which can be quite lengthy (1-2 hours). He's taking one in the morning and one in the afternoon, most of the time. Otherwise, it seems like we've been doing this - get him into the daylight (as much as we have here in MN at this time of year!) ASAP in the morning, do tummy time and other stuff for playtime, feed him, let him nap, then start all over again.
We had a horrible night again last night - seems to fight the swaddle, so switched him to PJs at 2am, but then were up until 3am trying to get him settled. He wouldn't even feed to sleep!! Ugh. I hope this is a growth spurt.
I don't know if this would help, but I found that mine wakes up a lot when I change his diaper at night, since I have to go into the other room, and end up turning on the light and everything. And then he's awake like he's ready for the day, and it's 3 am... So I just got a little basket with enough diaper stuff for the night, put that by my bed, and just change him on the bed (we cosleep and I already have a rubberized mat or towel or fleece blanket down on the bed for leaking issues). He wakes up a lot less since I don't have to really pick him up or anything. And I put a nightlight in the room to be able to change/latch on by, rather than having a bigger light waking everyone up.
I DO kind of feel like we're doing everything "right" after reading all of your sage advice. (THANK YOU, BTW!) We use a nightlight, avoid changing the diaper more than once/night - and sometimes not even that - I sometimes express milk and feed him a bottle AFTER his last nursing of the evening so we know he's "full" before he goes to bed, etc. etc. I do feed him in bed w/us, but we are not co-sleeping. I go and get him and bring him into bed, then put him back in his crib in the room across the hall. Or, if that doesn't work, in his swing in the living room (then I sleep on the couch), or in the napper in the pack & play in our room.
So maybe he's just the way he is and we just need to wait and hope for the best.
My parents commented over Xmas that they just couldn't believe how he stayed up all day (yes - he avoided napping entirely over that wkend). I was dreading how our nights would go, but he actually slept pretty well over that particular w/e, even being out of town! Figures, eh?
Anyway. Thanks again. I will keep trying what I'm trying and gently suggesting to him that he sleep more. Hopefully, one fine day he will get it. He's on his first (substantial) nap today again (4pm), so we'll see what tonight brings.
Wow, that is crazy. Yeah an infant's wants and needs are one and the same in the first year of life. Comfort is a need.
my daughter was up every hour for 7 months nursing ...it was so hard!! we co slept cause it was the only way i slept at all. she eventually learned to latch herself and i hardly ever woke up. now 4 years later she nursed till she was 3 and was exclusively bf never had a bottle ...now at age 4 she still never sleeps lol!!!! my new baby ...now 5 weeks has a 4 hour stretch at night ...i was like WOW!!! so i think it is also temperment:) it will get better!
Cosleeping didn't help my baby sleep any better - it was for my own survival. Getting up and down with a baby wakes mom up a lot more than just rolling over to nurse. If I had tried to put Joe down in a room across the hall, that would have done me in, because once I'm up, it's much harder to settle back to sleep. I know bed sharing isn't for everyone, but what about keeping the crib right by your bed for a while. Once you're up and the blood starts flowing, etc., it's a lot harder to go back to sleep. When you're doing everything "right" and your child is still waking up a lot, you need to start thinking about what YOU could be doing differently in order to feel better rested. For me that was going to bed earlier (hard for me!) and sleeping close to my child. We've bed-shared, used a cosleeper, side-car crib, and used a crib in our room. With the crib, I always made DH put the baby down in it, since (a) he falls back to sleep better than I do; and (b) I'm nursing so it's only fair. :goodluck