ill ask if the lc is a ibclc.
calming him is really no issue. either needs changed or fed...once thats done he's a happy baby.
he seems to have a very short transition time between the levels. we caught it at the lip smacking when laying down.....still a scream fest.
Hm, just to throw this out there, has he been evaluated for tongue-tie? Sometimes there can be something physical going on in the mouth that makes latching/suckling difficult or painful. Other possibilities would be seeking out a chiropractor or craniosacral therapist to make sure everything is aligned well within his mouth, skull and spine.
I'm so sorry you guys are having such a challenging introduction to your new family life.
Well, while waiting, keep using a CUP, not a bottle. I struggled with nipple preference and my oldest child for EIGHT WEEKS after just one bottle was given to him; I was transferred to the hospital for emergency surgery postpartum. He developed signs of low blood glucose while I was in surgery and the midwife gave him a bottle of formula. It had to be done, but it set us up for a lot of struggles with breastfeeding for some months. That quickly, he learned that there was an easier way to get milk than by breastfeeding. Things were complicated by the oversupply I naturally have and the bad advice I was given to keep pumping.
And do not give up hope. Just about all babies will start nursing at the breast by the time they are 8 weeks of age IF you keep trying consistently with them. Give up, and you will be EPing. And EPing is about a thousand times harder than breastfeeding is in the long term. So just keep trying.
There are some babies who are unable to nurse from their mother until their mouths are a bit bigger. They grow like crazy at this age, so if that is the case, it won't be long.
A friend's son also had an upper lip tie, in addition to a slight tongue tie. They aren't common, so typically, they aren't evaluated for it. Be sure that it's someone who is familiar with evaluating tongue and lip ties. They're often missed or misdiagnosed.
well we just went in for our 1st check up. Looks like he has lost about 3oz...I think that's what she was trying to tell me. 7.12 @ discharge and 7.95 now. I feel ****ty. I need to find a book or something. She was asking how much we were giving. Honestly, I measure out about 2oz and he takes what he wants. I guess I need to monitor it more closely.
Wife is now in with the LC. I came home. I was not allowed in the room. There were other women in there so I get that. When I cup feed him, he seems to drink it too fast. Last night my wife said something about a medicine dropper and there was something else. I'm going to look into those. I had to give him a bottle last night and today. we were in the car and he needed to eat. This is taxing. I'm not/can't give up 'cause I'm here pillar in all of this. I just wish I was a bit more prepared. We took the classes that were offered to us but I do not recall anything about feeding. I might have missed it in some of the paper work they gave us. I'll have to go re read it all.
If I had hair long enough, I'd pull it out.....
I'll ask the LC about a tongue and lip tie. actually I'll text the wife to ask the LC.
One thing I read last night was about inverted nipples. Her nipples poke out, but they seam to dip in in the middle.
also read about stool softeners. They asked her to take some to help ease the BM's. I think I read that it can affect the milk or something.
Soooo many questions.....
oh well..off to do laundry while I have some time. I'll post up what the LC says when we get back. We have to go to get her some warm boots that fit over her swollen feet.
They ALL lose weight, and if your wife had any IV fluids, they can make baby seem heavier than baby really is. Some very new research suggests using the baby's weight 24 hours post-birth as a starting point because of all the interventions most moderns births have. So things might not be as bad as you think....and some weight loss is normal.
3oz doesn't sound bad at all. You may want to read this: http://www.lactationconsultant.info/neowtloss.html