Jomo--did the gradual change happen on its own? I'm hoping something like this will happen to Elena.
I actually saw another tooth coming in last night. So, I am wondering if this is part of this constant wakefulness.
Maybe the answer isn't night wean. It's mama - get help with childcare. It's mama - don't try to do it all yourself. Get help.
BTW, he isn't up for the day at 5 a.m. He usually comes into our bed between 4 and 5 and nurses for the rest of the morning, and gets up for the day at 7:30 or 8 a.m.
Okay, so around 18 months, he was refusing the boob and screaming (in my arms - while hitting me the whole time!) for a long time before going to sleep. Since he was screaming himself to sleep anyway, I put him in his crib, which was next to our bed, and laid on the bed shushed and talked to him while he cried. If he got hysterical, I offered the breast, then put him back sleepy. Eventually, he would nurse and then go to bed without screaming. But that was hard, and I imagine, pushing the comfort zones of many moms on here. Let's just say, if he would have nursed to sleep, I would have done that instead. But he wasn't nursing to sleep. He was fighting and screaming himself to sleep every night. So this was not unlike "night weaning" except that I was weaning him into a crib instead of off the boob.
Part 2: When he finally started sleeping the first part of the night in his crib, he did not initially sleep better. At first he would only sleep three or four hours before waking (his first stretch of sleep was always his best - the hard part was getting him to sleep!). Gradually this time lengthened. For a long time he was up between midnight and two. Now it still varies, but he does sleep in there until the early hours of the morning more than half the time.
Hm. This was my question too. I was wondering if night weaning just happens on its own or if I will nurse forever all night if I don't DO SOMETHING. The selfish part of me says to try harder, and then my sensible side kicks in and remembers my lo probably needs it.
Some nights are good, (3 wake ups) and then the LO gets a new tooth and is up every hour. I live for the weekends and napping w the baby.
I have been tempted to night wean, tho we only nurse in the morning and before bed and at night since I work during the day. Also he's not getting all the fluids he needs during the day because he doesn't like his straw cup as much but doesn't want a bottle either (about 8oz of milk and maybe 3 of water in a 9 hour stretch.) . His soft spot is often lowest when he gets home from daycare and only back to normal by morning.
Good to know I can just ride it out, and hang on for now. :shrug I'll think of you ladies at night and know I'm not alone.
I don't remember exactly when my ds2 night weaned. I know sometime around age two. I had hit my wall, I could't deal with the waking every couple of hours and decided something had to change. What I did was nurse my lo to sleep then try to just pat him back to sleep if he woke up before two hours had passed. I also decided that if he fussed too much then we would go ahead and nurse. It took a long time before we were both sleeping all night, but it was the least stressful for both of us and I cannot tell you how amazing just a few three hour blocks of sleep feel.