The pre-nap one is the hardest to let go. She does not nap unless she nurses so the last few weeks have not been fun. Bedtime changed from nursing to sleep and became nursing then sleep or not. So that was the first one to go.
Nasty heifer? Nah. Don't talk bad about yourself and don't feel bad about being a bit touched out, or more than a bit. Toddlers. So demanding!
IMHO, you can push the weaning clock a bit and still have it be a mostly child-led process. I know I did. I actively cut out the feedings that were driving me nuts, and let DD lead the way with the ones that weren't driving me nuts.
I totally agree.. I didn't offer to nurse on some of the feedings and they slowly went away.. and the naptime one was my own doing. I was tired and needed it to be gone.. I was okay with the night one for awhile because I was chill that time of day. It was easier loading up my son and nursing him.. but it had a gradual feel to it. But once I saw the signs I didn't offer to him unless he asked..
But totally agree I hated that feel of dread for some of the nursing sessions like lunch for me. It was easier at that point to just let it be gone.. but he was also 2.
So far today they have both nursed 3 times. My nipples are killing me. If I wasn't so sore all the time I might be able to tough it out longer. I really really want to be done. But then the guilt kicks in.
How do you do what's best for you when it feels wrong for them? :cry
:ita That sounds like what I've done, as well. We're down to just the before bed one. I think I can keep going with that one for a while, even though I am pretty much over it. It still means a lot to Wyatt. But if he still wants to be nursing when he's four, I think I will need to be the one to pull the plug on it.
About 3 months ago we night weaned because I couldn't take it anymore. Then we dialed it back to twice a day for the same reason. Then a few weeks ago I cut out the morning session because it was starting to drive me nuts too. So I was doing the don't ask, don't refuse for the last feeding (though I actively cut out the other ones).... and then tonight no asking for it. Which was great, on one hand, because I am ready to be done (they tend to have lazy latches these days, they also tend to fight with one another - poking, kicking, generally irritating each other because honestly, there's just not enough space for everyone to be comfortable, and I never get to have one on one snuggles because neither will allow the other to nurse without joining in). But... I also cried and still feel like crying because the twins are probably going to be my only babies....
All this to say that I hear ya, it is hard, but I take comfort from Dr. Sears who says that, "if you resent it, change it."