I can see A wanting a lot of attention once the baby is born!
Last night was day 3. It went as ok as day 2. She asked before bed. Kept saying she wanted too. Then she got all bent out of shape. She didn't cry or throw a tantrum but she does this thing (that's actually quite humorous - she does it other times too when I tell her she can't do/have something) where she just rants on and on and on and does not shut up. So she's saying stuff like when the baby comes out she's going to drink all the milk and that the baby will have none. She's not sharing. She wants milk, she likes to drink milk. I'm going to open up mommy's dress and take milks. And it's just this huge rant that I had no idea she was capable of.
Then she eventually just starts gabbing on and on about something else and wants to lay on my arm, gets quiet and we both fall asleep.
I'm feeling alot better about weaning too.
Well....this weekend was a little rough as I thought it might be.
Friday was ok.
Saturday in the am she likes to snuggle and nurse when she wakes up. She started freaking out. Then Dh started freaking out like "what is wrong with you? What do you want". I talked to him later that day about my having a hard time with weaning. But he didn't really say anything. Nothing besides "ok, uh huh". As much as I figured. He just doesn't know what to say. I'm really so glad I have everyone here to talk to.
Saturday night was fine. She asked once, that was it and went to sleep.
Now Sunday is where I messed up.
I didn't want another freak out in the am. So I gave in and nursed. And it was so sweet. :love That was fine, but then she needed a nap later and needed to nurse to sleep. Alright, so I'm thinking what did I start? Now I have to start all over. She was not happy when she wanted to stay on the boob after she woke up and I couldn't tolerate it. She wanted to go back to sleep.
So I'm expecting the worst Sunday night...and she didn't even ask to nurse :yikes
So here I am all upset again.
I think I'm just generally having a hard time with being unhappy as it is. I can't stand our opposite schedules. I can't stand not seeing DH and then when I do spend time with him it's so stressful - like I just want it to be Monday again. DD is pretty good when its me and her but when it's all three of us she likes to test us. And I feel like I have to constantly manage.
We are going to register her for one in the fall 2 days a week. See how it goes - maybe we can move it to 3 or 5 depending on how it goes.
Daycare is so darn expensive. I don't even know if we can afford it. But it's not really out of my mind. I think he's more against it than I am.
I agree. I think it's admirable when a family works it out like that so the kids don't have to be in day care, but it's so hard on all of you to not really have much cohesive time as a family.
Weaning isn't an all or nothing thing. It's a process. You didn't make any mistakes. :hug
I'm sure it's pretty hard to get on the same page too, since you are both basically single parents most of the time.
What does he think about going on days (with health insurance at HIS job) and you staying home? Can you swing it if he has the health insurance?
Just catching up on this thread! My DH and I are both a little restless with our work situation too. DH is a SAHP, but he'd rather be working outside the home. I'm a working parent, and I pay all the bills and keep us all insured, and the pressure is a killer, and of course I'd rather be at home more, but you know, it's simply not an option. And with DH at home, we can't afford daycare, but it would be hard for DH to get a job that even broke even on the cost of daycare in our area, because it is INSANE.
Both DH and I constantly remind ourselves that we need to try to make the best of our less-than-ideal situation. But it's a constant challenge. I hope you guys can figure out a way to have more family time, because the split-shift parenting thing is HARD.