Yeah, Lilah doesn't like it when I sing either. :D
I'm sorry you're in such a rough spot. :hug
ETA: I think the reason Lilah understood that when we got to 10 she had to unlatch is that I had used it for things before. I'm going to count to 10 and then it will be time to take a bath. And then it will be time to get out of the bath, that sort of thing. And I actually had to unlatch her myself at the beginning. But then, at the end, she would stop nursing when I got to 2 or 3. She would just say "I all done."
I'll have to try it agian and see if she's ready for that yet.
Usually when I start counting it's I count to 3 and if you don't do what I told you to I'm going to make you :o :lol
Well, last night wasn't too bad. She nursed for a few minutes before falling asleep and did not nurse at all after that.
I tried the song, still doesn't work. She just wants me to sing, she doesn't want that to be the end of the session. She's one stubborn little girl!
When she was sleepy sucking I just said quietly "OK, all done" and she unlatched and stayed sleeping.
Oh and I was trying to tell her that the milks needed to sleep and she got all :cry but a weird :cry not a tantrum but like really sad. And said "but I still want to drink them."
Oh Katie, that must be hard. I was thinking about you this morning. I was pretty sure that weaning Lilah was going to be the end of our relationship and that I was going to damage her for life. It's such a tough place to be in, wanting them to make a decision one way when they want things the way they have always been. In the end, I was really surprised at how easy it was to wean. I thought it would have been harder. I don't know what you experience will be, but you will not lose that connection with your daughter. And although she may be sad, if you decide to wean her, she will have the gift of that baby brother and they will have each other for the rest of their lives.
...I was thinking that if everynight were like last night, just a few minutes of nursing and that's it, then I'd be ok with it.
Another side wants to be finished because I really don't want her nursing MORE when the baby comes. :sigh
We had a rough night last night. The weekends seem to be the worst because she wants to usually nurse 1-3x and when she gets up in the morning, just hang out on the boob for a while. It makes me extra sore, and so much less patient.
Last night she nursed for a few minutes and I start gettng annoyed because she doesn't latch right. She's not sticking her tongue out anymore so I feel all her teeth.:eye So I ask her to stop a few times. She got hysterical. So then I said we can try again. Same thing. But that time I started crying too.
I don't know if she understands that it's not her fault. I try to explain that she's not the one hurting me that it just hurts. I wish it didn't. I don't want it to have to end like this. I just wish that she'd choose on her own not to nurse anymore.
I still haven't asked DH for help either. I haven't told him how I am feeling about any of this and I think it's about time I do.
I was reading in a book about how different cultures will wean during pregnancy and the one said that the mother will rub bitter herbs on her. Is that so horrible? Another said they would send the child to grandmas for a few nights. That is so not an option.