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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 05:56 AM
    @llli*mommal replied to a thread want to wean in Weaning
    We all live with images like that, of the supermoms we would like to be. I would like to have endless patience and never lose my temper. I want to always treat my kids fairly, and never give one more than the other. I want to spend more time doing fun things with my kids and teaching them instead of being so tired of them that I turn on the TV and let them watch crap for an hour so that I can goof off on the internet. My husband and I would like to have some energy after the kids go to sleep, so that we can do more than just collapse into bed. Etc.! There's a book on the subject of modern parenthood which you might be interested in. It's called "All Joy and No Fun" (http://www.amazon.com/dp/0062072226/?tag=googhydr-20&hvadid=36601037546&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=2442908097408902405&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=t&ref=pd_sl_5ylv2ojbv6_b). I haven't read it but I have heard that it takes in this particular topic in an interesting way. It's always really tempting to think that weaning will make things easier, give you more energy, etc. But that's not necessarily the case. Your kids are going to be the same demanding little creatures whether you wean or not. IMO, weaning just takes away one of your best tools for coping with your baby's demands. If you're really sure that nursing is the part of your life that needs to change, I would start by night-weaning. That may be enough to restore some of your energy and ability to cope. If baby still really...
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 05:37 AM
    I wish I had an answer for you, mama! Nursing strikes are tough. Kellymom has some good suggestions: http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/child/back-to-breast/. A lot of kids seem to lose interest in nursing around this point. If yuan just be very, very, VERY patient, there's a good chance that your LO will eventually pick up his frequency.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 05:30 AM
    Yes, it you are that rare mama-baby pair who can never get rid of the shield, it's okay. Shields have some drawbacks- they can slow or reduce milk transfer- so you might want to keep an extra careful eye on diaper output and weight gain. But aside from that there's nothing to worry about. Don't let struggles with nursing get you down, mama! You are doing a great job and it's not an easy one. A lot of moms feel like breastfeeding should be easy because it's natural, but that's not always how it works!
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  • @llli*rosesmum's Avatar
    Today, 04:38 AM
    Is it okay if she never breaks the nipple shield habit? I mean can I still breastfeed for a year (my personal goal) if she always needs it? I'm okay, wouldn't even say I have the baby blues, it's just breastfeeding that makes me tear-up (when it doesn't work). It's food for my baby and it's upsetting when I feel like I'm not providing like I should.
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  • @llli*podutti's Avatar
    Today, 04:23 AM
    @llli*podutti replied to a thread want to wean in Weaning
    My doctor did investigate other causes for my health problems. I have had a complete physical, full blood works (twice), checked for thyroid, diabetes, kidney function. Everything was normal. My doctor thinks I am just completely run down from lack of sleep, nursing and parenting responsibilities in general. I should say she did not in any way push weaning as a solution, she more suggested it, and not until after all the tests came back normal. In fact, I didn't mention I was still breastfeeding until the results were back because I didn't want her opinion to be adversely influenced by that knowledge. Her response then was like "Oooh that must be it!" I don't eat much processed food and eat more fruits and vegetables than the average person I would think and I take pre-natal vitamins. I just can't seem to keep up. All my clothes are ridiculously big which kind of depresses me, and I don't want to invest in, what I hope, would be a temporary wardrobe. I just reached a point where I feel I want my life back. A few months back I did give DS a few ozs of formula each day for several weeks because it seemed to settle him a little but I phased that out again. So I know he will accept it. I guess for now I will probably take it a day at a time and maybe slowly introduce some more solids. He currently gets solids twice a day, at lunch and dinner. I tried repositioning him a little yesterday, holding him higher up, which seems to help with the nibbling feeling. You know, it's...
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  • @llli*candice111's Avatar
    Today, 02:18 AM
    anyone? he has improved a bit, but we are still struggling to have some relaxed feeding sessions apart from before bed.
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  • @llli*still-learning's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:48 PM
    I wish I had some good advice for you, all I can offer is reassurance that your child is normal. When my kids were little (and 7m is little) if they nursed less in the day they would want to nurse more in the night and the opposite. It's almost like they had a certain number of times they wanted to nurse and would need to make it up at during the other time. I fact one way I would try to get them to sleep longer at night would be to have them nurse more in they day. Also on solids, even if it seems like a baby is eating lots it doesn't make a real difference in their nursing until they're a bit older. And on expressed milk, babies frequently eat more from a bottle than a breast it has to do with the flow of the bottle... Now where I am is still very hot right now. Your baby could generally be getting thirsty that often during the day. You could try a sippy cup with water while out, I wouldn't do this at home, but might try it while out. Each of my kids had a "preferred" way they liked to be out. So you could try and experiment to see if he enjoys a carrier (front/back) or stroller. I'm jealous of those who can nurse is a carrier, I never could, but if you could learn how that would be amazing! The other thing is when out if you could nurse him before he gets cranky that might help. Like if you find a spot that would be good to nurse offer right there even if he hasn't asked yet.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:20 PM
    Yeah, I am also thinking reflux could be a problem here, if only because I know a kid who was very slow to gain despite being breastfed on demand and having an average-sized older sister, and he had severe silent reflux. He just did not want to eat because using his digestive system hurt too much. I wouldn't worry about your LO not taking food from the spoon. Not all kids are interested in solids at <1 year. Mine didn't get interested in eating solids until 14-15 months, and neither one of them would take anything from a spoon. It was self-feeding or nothing.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:15 PM
    Hi Carolsf, welcome to the forum! With a 3 week old, the best gauge of intake is diaper out out and weight gain. If baby is having sufficient wet/poop diapers and is gaining weight at a normal rate, then she's getting enough. If you have offered both breasts and baby is pushing away and refusing to latch, just let her be. If she's hungry, she'll ask to be picked up and nursed some more. Can you tell us more about the rough nights?
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:05 PM
    I think that if you want him to go longer during the day, you might want to feed him more often at night. Terrific solution, right? :duck Seriously, though, I think he needs to get his daily allowance of calories in somehow, and you don't want to encourage him to really stuff himself every time he eats, because that's not a healthy pattern to set up for the long term. I would just roll with it! He'll eventually go longer between sessions- but he's quite young to expect it. FWIW, my kids nursed every 1-2 hours during the day until they were around a year old, and would go longer only when we were out of the house and in some new and exciting locale.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:00 PM
    Welcome to the forum! Some questions for you: - How is baby's weight gain? - Has baby always been like this, or is the fussiness/burping/back arching/etc. new? - Does the fussiness at certain times of day, perhaps in the later afternoon/evening?
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:58 PM
    You could always put it in a smoothie with fresh fruit. Yum! My friends who make yogurt say it's really easy- just stir in a spoonful of a previous batch, and then keep it warm in a water bath. If you are seriously overflowing your fridge, it could be something fun to try!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:53 PM
    :ita Most people give you the benefit of the doubt, particularly if there's a big shawl tossed over you.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:47 PM
    Just a couple of points. Paced bottle feeding does not mean that the caregiver holds baby. It is also not dependent on a particular type of nipple, although generally the slowest flow that "works" is probably a good place to start. But paced bottle feeding is a very specific way of positioning both the baby and the bottle, as well as allowing/encouraging a baby to take natural pauses during a feeding. It is designed to make bottles more "like" breastfeeding in that baby is given more control over milk flow and that is why it helps prevent overfeeding and "flow confusion" . Here is more information: http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/22_bfabreastfedbaby.pdf and video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UH4T70OSzGs Also, daycare is offering a bottle every 2 hours? Is this based on baby's cues or other? Cue feeding remains important even when a baby is bottle fed. Yes it is not always easy for a day care to provide this level of attention to a baby in their care. But sometimes all that is needed is education about how to promote normal feeding. I have also always wondered if the rule of thumb that a baby needs about 1 to 1.5 ounces per hour of separation changes if a baby is not nursing at night. As far as I know, this amount is based on the average total daily intake of a breastfed baby, which is (for a baby living entirely or nearly so on breastmilk) about 25-35ounces per day generally.
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  • @llli*aem307's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:14 PM
    Our first baby was born July 25th. She latched and nursed excellently after birth, and aside from a little difficulty with an inverted nipple in the very beginning, things have been great. In the past week, she's starting being very fussy when feeding- latching on,sucking for a few minutes, pulling off and immediately crying out to re-latch and continue feeding. I've also noticed she's exhibiting signs of silent reflux: hiccuping, coughing, sneezing, arching her back-straightening legs out, thrusting her tongue, wet burps, wanting to feed all the time, and constant crying after feeding especially at night. We have a doctors appointment tomorrow morning. My question is: while putting her to breast calms her, am I perpetuating the reflux cycle? Am I making it worse? How do I know if its hunger or just pain? I'm exhausted, feeling guilty that I could be making it worse, and devastated that my baby could be so uncomfortable. Thanks for any help!
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  • @llli*ngs215's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:31 PM
    Ha ha ha ha... I laughed so hard when I read this. You have severely overestimated my culinary skills. I haven't made any changes yet. She sees the dr next week, and I want to make sure her weight gain is still good before I start cutting back. The donation suggestion got me thinking. I wonder if I could convince my toddler to drink breastmilk again. He could use an immunity boost this winter...
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  • @llli*rainbowgoblin's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:51 PM
    I'm the mother of an 11-month-old boy who's happily eating everything in sight, and seems to have lost interest in breastfeeding. He has never tasted formula, but we started him on solids around 5 months, when he started reaching for whatever we were eating in his presence. We've mostly been using baby-led weaning, although we used a food mill in the early days. Over the last couple weeks, I can get him to latch on, but he quickly loses interest when he sees something he'd like to play with. I've tried moving to quieter locations, but he wants to play with EVERYTHING, so there really isn't a location with little enough stimulation. Over the last three evenings, I've tried expressing, and my production is way down (I used to get 200 mL or more, now I'm only getting about 40 mL). I suppose it could be that he's losing interest because I'm not producing enough milk, but I'd guess it's the other way around... Though it doesn't really matter, anyway. I had planned to breastfeed until he was 2! I know this isn't always something that can be planned, but 11 months seems way too early to wean. Do we need to start giving him formula? Or if I keep pumping, will my production go up again, then I could just give him expressed milk? EDIT: our son is still creeping up the weight percentiles, so I'm not concerned about that. Also, I've started leaving my breast out when he loses interest so that he can play a bit and come back to it, and he does seem to like that, though it's...
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:22 PM
    Have you heard about lactation aids? I used a medela SNS to supplement my LO right at the breast instead of using bottles.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:18 PM
    and if no LLL groups in your area, look here for IBCLCs http://www.ilca.org/i4a/pages/index.cfm?pageid=3901
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  • @llli*melusine's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:53 PM
    My son is 7 months old. A month and a half ago we got him sleeping in his crib overnight--previously he'd been bed-sharing. He went from feeding 4-6 times a night to only 1-2 times within about a week of sleeping in the crib (without any prompting--he just started sleeping longer on his own). Right now he rarely wakes up for a night feed more than once (usual pattern is to sleep 5-7 hours, wake to feed, then sleep until he's done 11-12 hours total). My husband has taken over the first night feed and DS usually drinks about 5 oz of expressed breast milk at that time. All that is great! The problem is that prior to this, DS was usually going at least 2 hrs during the day before he'd get fussy for a feed. Now he often gets cranky after an hour, with an hour an a half being about his maximum. We started him on solids at 6 months (he was EBF before) and he's eating a fair bit, not sure how many calories, but that hasn't seemed to make a difference. I could totally understand him needing to nurse more during the day initially after dropping the night feeds to balance things out, but I wouldn't have expected it to continue this long. It seems too long to be a growth spurt either. I don't mind when we're at home, but it makes outings difficult because I have to keep any time outside the house very short or deal with him getting cranky/finding a decent spot to feed him. Is there any reasonable way to encourage him to extend the time between feedings? I'm trying to get...
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  • @llli*lllmamamia's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:51 PM
    I agree with mommal that weaning is more successfully attempted when mastitis is cleared up. Some moms work with their doctor to test their milk for bacteria to make sure that the antibiotic treatment they are getting is appropriate (strains, resistance, etc). As for recurrent plugs/mastitis, this might be helpful: http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/mother/recurrent-mastitis/ If you do decide to nurse on one side, know that it can and is done routinely by moms of twins! Good luck!
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  • @llli*lllmamamia's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:48 PM
    Here are a few resources you might review A latch video: http://www.ameda.com/breastfeeding/positioning-and-latching-on/bf-your-baby-knows-how-to-latch-on Thrush: http://www.llli.org/faq/thrush.html As far as how much milk to send at daycare, you can see this link which focuses on babies 6 months and less: http://kellymom.com/bf/pumpingmoms/pumping/milkcalc/ For older babies that get more of their calories from solid foods, they may need less breastmilk when they are away from mom.
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  • @llli*lllmamamia's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:42 PM
    It's very common to have just a few drops come out the first few pumping sessions. Your body will learn to make milk for a pump. Breast compressions do wonders for breast pumps! http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&id=8:breast-compression&Itemid=17 Learning to use hand expression can be a wonderful accompaniment to the negative pressure of the pump. It more closely mimics how a baby extracts milk from the breast. http://newborns.stanford.edu/Breastfeeding/HandExpression.html Keep at it!
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:40 PM
    UGH, Having lots of trouble getting DS to eat very much at any one feeding today. How am I ever going to find the courage to cut out the supplementing/pumping if I continue having so much trouble getting him to eat enough to gain much weight? Quite certain my supply is adequate finally since I can pump almost 8 oz in a day where we only supplement 4oz. Doesn't help that we are suffering some teething making him fussy. Daddy is away this week so I can do weighted feedings as much as I please.
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