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  • @llli*snl's Avatar
    Today, 04:05 PM
    Thank you for responding. Sad time :( Hopefully in time I won't be so sad about it! Here I was worrying about how I would eventually wean if I had to because she loved nursing so much! Never thought she would quit on me! How long did the sadness last for you? I am wondering if much of it is really just my hormones.
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  • @llli*mumtothomas's Avatar
    Today, 03:49 PM
    My son did the same thing, at the same age. He was ready to be done (I wasn't!), so I didn't push it, but I was so sad about it. I don't have any insight to share, but I remember how hard it was to let it go. :hug
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  • @llli*snl's Avatar
    Today, 02:49 PM
    I am new to this site. I decided to search for answers to better understand why my 21 month old decided to no longer nurse. I have been solely nursing since she was born. was able to nurse her without any pumping/bottle feeding since I am a work from home mom. I introduced food and whole milk when she was one and we continued with nursing before naps, bedtime and in the morning. She also nursed throughout the day every now and then when she wanted it. Back about 2 months ago she wouldn't nurse on one side and would say every now and then it was yucky.. so I would still try that side and she would nurse occasionally on the yucky side, but primarly I nursed her on my right side. Three days ago she told me my right side was yucky and now won't nurse at all. She hugs them and will touch them but doesn't want to nurse. As much as I wanted nursing to end with her soon, I am really sad it ended so abruptly. She has no interest in nursing now.. going on day 3. Is this normal behavior for a child that no longer wants to nurse? I always said I would be nursing her forever because I have never had a problem nursing and she has always loved it. :) I think I am struggling with it all more than she is. I am very emotional and sad that it ended this way and I wish I had more signs so I could've better prepared myself emotionally for it. She is teething (working on 2 year molars), wondering if that could be the cause. Sad though because the time she decides to nurse again (if she...
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  • @llli*chivislh's Avatar
    Today, 02:00 PM
    have you try Straw? how it was?, I taught my baby like this: I put straw in the mouth of my baby, then i squeeze the bag, the liquid should arrive to the mouth and then stop to squeeze, then baby will start to soak up :clap i bougth a straw Bottle easy to clean, i don't like non spill trainer. sorry for my english
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 01:54 PM
    Either. A mom may decide to pursue mother-led weaning, in which she pushes weaning to happen faster than the child would choose, or she may decide to pursue child-led weaning, which proceeds at whatever speed the child wants. There are a lot of in-between approaches, too, like choosing mother-led weaning for nighttime sessions and allowing the child to self-wean from daytime sessions. He will cut back on his own. But you may also set limits if you choose! Nursing a toddler can be really demanding, and you can feel free to set limits on when, where, and how nursing proceeds. Maybe you want him to nurse after the baby, or only until you count to 20, or only in the house, or only before bed, or to not twiddle, etc. Whatever limit makes nursing more pleasant for you is fine! You can't know when he will ease up. It's so individual! It could happen tomorrow or not for a few months or not for a few years. But you can be confident that he will eventually self-wean. He's not going to be coming home from middle school asking to nurse!!!
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Today, 01:51 PM
    Congrats on the new baby! Weaning can be mother-led, child-led, or some combination. My guess is that your son has upped his nursing in response to the big change in his life, ie the arrival of his sister! If you do nothing, he will eventually nurse less. But if you're overwhelmed, it's okay to set limits, too. Some strategies are: don't offer; or tell him you will nurse for a set amount of time (for example, until you count to ten, or for the amount of time it takes to sing "Twinkle Twinkle" twice, or whatever). Personally when I've had enough I tell my toddler she can have one more sip. Lately she's started negotiating with me around that ("no, five more sips!") but for a while that strategy worked really well for us. You can also discuss with him the fact that sister needs to nurse first, for example. But perhaps have some special time where it's just you and him, whether nursing or some other activity he enjoys (cuddles, a bedtime story). The other thing is that while your baby is still a newborn and not distractible, baby nursing sessions are a good time to read a book on the couch with your older child, or have him bring over a toy that you play with with him while he sits next to you. My younger two are 22 months apart so I know it's hard with a newborn and a toddler!
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  • @llli*filmmommy's Avatar
    Today, 01:29 PM
    That sounds like great advice!! :angrypin My first baby was about average for her weight, off-the-charts for height. But my son is just not a very hungry guy and he's been on the lower end of the carts (high for height, also). I feel like having a healthy baby is the most important thing.
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  • @llli*manomeesmommy's Avatar
    Today, 01:14 PM
    I feel for you OP! I'm having the same problem. Going to a lactation consultant this week to see if they can offer advice, I have stubborn plugs on my left side that have been there for 3 weeks now and won't go away. Have you tried taking lecithin?
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 01:09 PM
    In my experience, people only know how to say 2 things about babies: 1. "He's so big!" 2. "He's so small!" For some reason, hearing #1 makes people feel good and hearing #2 makes them feel bad. But just wait a few years! Once kids graduate out of toddlerhood and into childhood, everyone starts to praise the slender kids and ask pointed questions about the chubby ones- "Does he get exercise?" "Does she eat her vegetables?" "Do you have to buy plus sizes?" Believe me, if you can get through infancy and toddlerhood without losing your confidence, you're going to get nothing but positive feedback for having a slender kid! All that being said, please don't be afraid to see someone if you feel that there's something not quite right!
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  • @llli*skyanne's Avatar
    Today, 12:47 PM
    Thank you! Everybody looks at me like I'm crazy when I try to explain that though, especially DHs family. They brag so hard about my nephew, he's two and a little over 50lbs. :yikes FIL is convinced that she would gain more if I ate more cheeseburgers, meat, donuts, exc. They all think I'm weird for BFing anyway, its pointless to try and use logic or science with them. :gg Old ladies at the grocery store are bad about it too.
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  • @llli*petersmommyjessi's Avatar
    Today, 12:28 PM
    I don't want to wean my son but I'm curious how it works. Do parents guide it at all or does the child? I am tandem nursing my newborn and 26 month old. After her birth he started nursing just as much (actually more) than her. I expected this but now I'm nervous he won't self wean until he's much older. i want to let him do it when he's ready but I'm also a little overwhelmed by his constant need to nurse. When will he ease up? Will he cut back on his own or will I need to set limits? Can I let him nurse when he wants and then have him cut sessions on his own? I just need to know when I can expect this to ease up.
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  • @llli*midnightsangel's Avatar
    Today, 11:53 AM
    Keep in mind there has to be some babies in the lower end of the spectrum to make it a spectrum. If she's consistent in her weight gain (staying in or near the same percentile) then there's probably not much you can do. I would still see a specialist just to make sure there are no issues. If there aren't then you just have a smaller baby and that's that. if people give you crap either ignore them or come up with something sassy to say like "big things come in small packages" I don't understand the thinking behind a small baby being unhealthy. As long as they're eating then who cares? My son is smaller than average right now but I'm glad because he's easier to carry and I don't want him to be called the Michelin man like everyone did with my niece and nephew. Keep on keepin' on :)
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  • @llli*skyanne's Avatar
    Today, 11:45 AM
    Hey yall. I mostly just need to vent I think. At her 1 month checkup DD was 7lbs 7oz and in the 5th percentile. At her 2 month checkup yesterday she was 8lbs 2oz, still in the 5th percentile according to her doctors charts. According to the WHO chart i have shes dropped to .5%, and the CDC chart says shes 2%. I offered to take her to see a LC because I have this weird feeling that something is off, like she's not transferring milk well. She told me to definitely do that because it couldn't hurt, but as long as shes still in 5% according to her charts she was fine with it, especially since she's gaining hight and head circumference and is hitting her milestones early. She wants us back in for a weight check in a month. I'm stressing so hard about this right now, I'm afraid shes not going to keep up with that 5%. On one hand her daddy is on the small end of average for a man, 5'7 and has been trying to gain weight his entire life. The army actually made him put on a few lbs before they would let him join. DS had horriblle weight gain issues too, but he had severe reflux. Poor child hardly gained anything at all until we started solids, ans now he's two years old and 50%. I think its mostly muscle weight though, because people still stop us and comment on how skinny he is. But I'm fat, so is most of my family, so you would think my kids would be pretty big too.:shrug I have an appointment with a LC tomorrow, but I'm still wigging out about it. What if the LC doesnt...
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  • @llli*midnightsangel's Avatar
    Today, 11:22 AM
    We Co sleep so I guess by first morning feed I mean the first one out of bed. We get up between 6 and 7 (whenever he finishes eating) and I feed him again around 8 or 8:30 or when ever he cues. I don't think it's let down because I've never had him pull off over and over like that before this week and he does it to the side I just fed him on while we were in bed. I've tried side lying, cradle. I've not found a laid back position that I like. Maybe I'm mistaking his cues. Maybe tomorrow I'll try waiting until after 9 to feed him.
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  • @llli*jtmmh's Avatar
    Today, 11:17 AM
    I pump twice a day, three days a week. Once in the morning before I leave for work and then once at work. I work for about six hrs those days. My son takes the expressed milk in the morning, but the pumped milk during work I donate to a local family. I hate to give that pump up for selfish reasons when I'm providing for another family in need:( should I or do you have any other ideas? Thank you sooooo much for you guys' thoughtful replies:)
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 11:11 AM
    Has it been a while since the last prior nursing session? When you say first morning feed, what do you mean- Isn't baby still nursing overnight? The timing would indicate fast/forceful letdown to me, if it has been a while since the last nursing session. It seems odd that distraction happens only in the morning, plus 9 weeks is a little on the young side for bad distraction. How do you know it is not due to a fast letdown? Do you use a different position at this time? Have you tried other positions? If my baby was pulling and pulling at my nipple so much it hurt, I would take him off and try again a little later. Is there a reason baby has to nurse at this time- work schedule or something?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 11:03 AM
    The way to increase supply is to increase the frequency with which milk is removed from the breast. That means 1) nursing more often and 2) Pumping more often. Galactagogues like fenugreek may help but first and foremost the frequent milk removal must be happening. Every time your baby gets any supplement, I would suggest pumping. Pumping directly after nursing sessions may help as well. Obviously, continue to pump at work as much as you can. Don't let pumping interfere with nursing frequency or length of feedings, however. Don't let it wear you out, either. There is no magic number. Pump as often as you can. And pump even if you only get a little. Every drop helps with your production and can be fed to baby. Supplements should be given in a breastfeeding supportive manner. This means small, frequent feedings using paced bottle feeding or supplementing at the breast with a lactation aid. The latter may not be appropriate if milk transfer( babies ability to nurse) is not where it should be. Baby does not need to sleep "though the night." It is unusual for a baby this age to sleep longer than 5 hours or so on a regular basis. If baby was gaining great it would not matter. But since baby is not, I suggest wake baby to nurse overnight. If you cannot wake baby, pump overnight. If baby has been getting a pacifier stop or cut back on that. Pacifiers are linked to slow gain because they can stop a baby from waking and cuing to nurse with a normal pattern. If baby has...
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  • @llli*alysandrasmom's Avatar
    Today, 10:43 AM
    I agree and that is the last thing I am wanting to have to deal with... I've tried many things to try and increase my supply but it doesn't seem to be helping. And this recent added stress of the weight situation hasn't helped at all. Im just going to have to keep trying and try other things. Besides Fenugreek, what other supplements are there to increase supply?
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  • @llli*ariawillrich's Avatar
    Today, 10:25 AM
    Thank you to the people who volunteered! I have gotten some great information and insight for my assignment and that I will take with me into my future practice! (i am not sure how to delete this thread, if anyone can help I would be very appreciative)
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  • @llli*midnightsangel's Avatar
    Today, 10:06 AM
    My 9 week old has recently started to pull off very frequently during our first morning feed. He won't release the suction so he pull my nipple as far as it'll go until it slips out of his mouth :( it's not die to let downs. He just lives looking around. I've tried going into a dark quiet room and he still does it lol. He loves looking at everything and while it is adorable my nipple hurts so badly. Amy tips or do I just have to suck it up until he grows out of it?
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