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  • @llli*lllmeg's Avatar
    Today, 10:35 AM
    Does breastfeeding ever get easier or more enjoyable? What was your experience with your daughter? I will say that yes, assuming there are not major continuing difficulties that can make breastfeeding actually difficult, in most cases it does. But of course every mom is different and every experience is different. Barring cases of severe breastfeeding difficulties, in my personal observations, the moms who never really enjoy what is basically 'normal' breastfeeding fall into two main categories. 1) They are uncomfortable with the entire idea of breastfeeding for any number of reasons (poor body image, lack of familial or peer support, not comfortable nursing in public etc.) The other group are moms who are overly worried or concerned about things that are actually fine and normal. I see a few things in your post that I wonder about, such as the needing to burp baby so much, the idea he does not eat enough despite being hungry, and the too forceful letdown that turns into a too slow letdown and then back again in a matter of days. Could you tell us more about that? What are you doing to 'fix' the forceful letdown? What happens if you don't do so much burping or baby does not burp? What are you trying for the burping? How do you know baby does not eat enough? If you already addressed these issues in other threads you can direct me to those if you like. I think that any issue is serious if you think it is! Nursing takes lots of time and is a huge part of mothering...
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  • @llli*alyfaye's Avatar
    Today, 10:05 AM
    I finally found a doctor (actually, a nurse midwife) who was willing to hear my breastfeeding struggles and offer some support. My milk basically dried up when my lo was tongue tied until 6 weeks old. I have been working my tail off to bring it back since then, but during that time my cycle returned. There is about 2 weeks each month now that I have an extremely low supply. I went in with the idea that I would ask about domperidone. I have always had heart palpitations and have had them checked out. EKG's say I'm fine and they're benign. However, domperidone can interfere with heart rhythm and I have been too nervous to try it without being under the care of a doctor. The midwife agreed that we should avoid the domperidone and suggested Reglan. I wasn't even considering that as an option because of all of the nasty side effects that I have read about here. My LC also isn't a fan of Reglan. In the end though, the midwife convinced me that it was my best option and started me on a low dose. That brings me to my questions for you all: For anyone who has taken or who knows about Reglan, how much were you prescribed? I am taking 3 10mg tablets a day and have noticed a small increase in supply now after taking it for two days. When can I expect to see a significant increase if I am going to? The midwife gave me enough for two weeks and said I could just stop when they're gone without tapering down. That doesn't seem right to me. Should I worry that my supply will vanish once I...
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  • @llli*fshah's Avatar
    Today, 10:05 AM
    My younger son is almost 3 months old & he is EBF. I BFed my older daughter, who is 4 now, for 18 months. We had a rough start with my daughter as she was very tiny & her Ped advised to supplement with formula on her one week appointment as she didn't gain enough. I had work really hard for a month or two to up my supply but once that was done we never looked back. With my son though things are different. We had a good start as I nursed him within half hour of his birth & almost every hour the first 2 days & 2 hours for the coming weeks. We have had many bumps after that. I have fast letdown & when that is fixed, my LO gets upset for the next letdown to come & pulls off almost every 2 secs. Of course, fast letdown comes back within 2-3 days & he seems hungry but doesn't eat enough. He also requires a lot of burps as he inhales a lot of air with fast letdown & I spend half of my time getting him to burp. Sometimes it is hard to tell if he is not hungry or he is upset because the milk is not coming in fast enough. I know that my issues are pretty non-serious compare to some mamas but I am just tired of constantly dealing with one or the other thing & not enjoying BFing at all. Am I the only one who feels it that way? I know it gets easier, but when does it get easy? Am I constantly going to deal with fast letdowns or that will get fixed once & for all?
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  • @llli*modestguineapig's Avatar
    Today, 09:46 AM
    My son had an undiagnosed mild tongue tie, which was caught and clipped at 8 weeks (this past Thurs.). Prior to this, nursing was going okay. I had some soreness. He nursed 10+ times a day, but he tired out easily, usually after the first let-down. I didn't think there was a problem until he stopped gaining weight around 5 weeks. Doc suggested I supplement and referred me to a specialist to clip the tongue tie. I have been giving 4-6oz in 1 oz increments via SNS prr day (here and there I have been giving a bottle). My older daughter also stopped gaining weight around 6 weeks, which makes me wonder if I have insufficient glandular tissue (I have some of the outward signs). Or if she had an undiagnosed tongue tie as well. Anyway, my question is- is there a window of time, up to 8 weeks, where your milk glands are stimulated, and if they aren't, you can't produce past a certain amount? I believe my son wasn't effectively removing all my milk due to the tongue tie, so I wonder if my max capacity, so to speak, has been set at a lower level. When I saw an LC with my daughter, she told me this, and encouraged me to supplement. Now that my son is latching deeper and I feel no soreness post clipping, I wonder if I can try weaning the supplements. But I don't want to try it if it is probably too late to build a bigger supply. Here are the weight checks, if it matters- He wasn't a fast gainer before I supplemented either. birth 7lb 12 oz 3 days 7lb 6oz 10 days...
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  • @llli*undergroundmuse's Avatar
    Today, 09:18 AM
    An open-minded one, I feel very discouraged now... I will bring it up but I really doubt anyone here would even cosider it as an option. No, I agree, I buy only organic and free range for LO. I will try with iron fortified oatmeal porrige, beans and egg yolks too. The other day we gave her 1/2 oz formula to see how she reacts. We found blood on her dipers later :/. I now think she might be both allergic and sick. That's what makes me feel stressed, I don't know if I will always have enough EBM and there is no backup option. I barely know anything about formulas and I hate having to give them. What to feed my LO then? I have a very humble freezer stash, had to discard the old one since it was possibly contaminated with antibiotics and milk protein :(. If only we could last until I can rely more on solids, that would be great. But pumping is driving me literally insane, and breast refusal during the day extremely sad.
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  • @llli*karrieperry's Avatar
    Today, 06:00 AM
    and this increase in nursing could be a way for your son to confirm that he is still loved if he does something he's not supposed to, like color all over the brand new furniture with markers (like my kids!). In my experience children are always looking at us to see if we still love them no matter what they do. And being a toddler is all about figuring out "what happens if I do this?"
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 05:59 AM
    I am sure that he does have something emotional going on when he wants to nurse more than usual. Distress might be too strong a word for it. You say that he's been distracted and resistant to direction- that's normal for a 2 year-old. Especially when holidays and general changes to routine are in the mix. We all have to find our way through the terrible twos. The nice thing about nursing is that it usually works better than any other other technique, when it comes to resolving these normal frustrations. It sounds to me like your major issue is that you think you shouldn't be using nursing in this way- that somehow it's wrong to do so? Developmentally unhealthy? If that's what you're worried about, then maybe it would help to examine where that idea comes from. It's not something that emerged from research. It's a purely cultural bias. This is a nice article, originally published in Mothering Magazine, about how different the cultural lens can be, when it comes to breastfeeding and to using nursing as conflict resolution: http://www.incultureparent.com/2011/02/breastfeeding-land-genghis-khan/ Add my :ita to the idea that weaning is a non-linear process. My kids gave me upticks in nursing frequency, but the overall trend was down.
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  • @llli*karrieperry's Avatar
    Today, 05:55 AM
    My friend and I were just talking about this the other night over dinner...that with your first child, they turn 1 year and you think they are huge and so grown up. Then with your second child and so on, a 1 year old seems like a tiny baby compared to what you had thought! I think you are 100% a normal mom of one child. I was the same exact way with my daughter. If some day you have another, you will see how much it changes the way you think about age related milestones. I get silly comments from even my dad (MY DAD!!! are you kidding me! how in the world would he know!), about how my 16 month old is a big girl now and shouldn't be nursing. So I say that I won't bug him about smoking and he doesn't bother me about nursing my child. :) I totally understand what you are saying though, that you are seeing the extra nursing as a sign that something is bothering him. If the extra nursing seems to help and you don't mind (sometimes) then that makes sense to keep helping him in that way. Soon enough he'll be older, and in a few years he'll probably want a hug instead or even be able to tell you exactly what he's thinking and what's bothering him. It is so, so much more fun to be a parent without putting those age limits on milestones. It sounds like your DH does that, and to be honest I'm sure it would be hard for him to change that about himself. My DH was kind of like that, and then now he's the opposite. Now he cosleeps on the floor with us when before he was...
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  • @llli*lllmeg's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:25 PM
    hi jrob 327. I am sorry you are having such a struggle. I want to assure you all is not lost as far as breastfeeding goes. Clearly your body is capable of making milk, since you became engorged after your baby was born. Because your baby was not nursing and you were unable to pump frequently, your body was given the signal to stop or slow down on the making of milk. So it did. OK. But now you can give your body the signal to START making milk (or more milk.) Yes it really is that simple, which does not mean it is easy or will not take some work! I can offer sympathy with the difficulty of C-section recovery. I have had 3 cesarian births. They are major abdominal surgery and can really, really mess with your entire system. And yes the pain meds as typically prescribed can make a mom feel utterly exhausted and even disconnected from her baby, depressed, etc. It's really really hard! Hopefully you are no longer needing the narcotics for pain management. Getting off the narcotics and getting some freedom of movement back helps in so many ways. Please check out the information bfwmomof3 has offered. And get in touch with local support like LLL if it is available. It sounds like you saw a good IBCLC, if you agree, keep in touch with her as well. With the above info and the advice from your IBCLC, You will know what you need to do to increase your milk production and get baby nursing again, and we and your local LLL or other breastfeeding support can give you the...
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  • @llli*joshuas.mommy's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:29 PM
    Bfwmom, yes, I am confused/conflicted. On the one hand, I don't want to do anything to cause DS to wean. I'd feel guilty about precipitating it. On the other hand, I do hope he'll wean on his own within the next year or so. I think what really bothers me about this behavior is I feel like maybe it's DS' way of showing he's in some emotional distress about something. If that's the case I want to help him with whatever is bothering him. I also feel guilty about being gone a lot (although nowhere near as much as plenty of other working moms). He seems to really miss me right now and not be handling it very well. As far as the nursing itself--sometimes it's annoying, like when he won't let me cover my boobs even though he's not actively nursing, or when he wants to nurse right when I want to get in the shower, and other times I still really enjoy it. As for him, he unequivocally enjoys it. And that's great. But I have wondered if maybe I wasn't doing what I should be doing to help him move along, developmentally, to the next stage. Or if his sudden clinginess indicates distress that I need to address somehow. Nothing has really changed so I don't know why he'd be distressed now when he was fine before. But, it seems you and KatiePerry are saying that weaning is not linear and that toddlers just act like this sometimes, for no particular reason (thanks, KatiePerry, for your input! Much appreciated!). DS is my first child and I don't have much experience with toddlers this age...
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:14 PM
    My untested opinion is that maintaining equilibrium is about creating a number of meaningful "wins" for a child. Life is tough for toddlers: they have just enough competence and independence to long for freedom, but they're still aware of how inextricably they rely on us. In your shoes, I'd evaluate how much of your undivided attention your son is getting when you aren't nursing. Moving to part-time work will definitely give you an edge in being able to meet your son's need for dedicated mom-son time. I would focus first on activities he values most that bring you physically close with lots of eye contact, like reading while snuggling, wrestling, piggy-back-rides, making up riddles/jokes, etc. Based on my son's approach to nursing, a large part of nursing is the physical closeness and intimacy, not the milk per se. I'd also support the extra nursing. My guess is it's a short-term need that will pass if met.
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  • @llli*avesnovuelan's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:30 PM
    :ita In fact I have heard that a healthy mom who has milk that has turned soapy can sometimes donate it to a milk bank, since premies are often tube fed and therefore won't notice the taste. It is just as good as any breastmilk except for the flavor.
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  • @llli*karrieperry's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:10 PM
    I agree, it seems like weaning/nursing the whole experience can be very circular at times, definitely not a gradual linear process as I expected. And it is totally normal for a 2.5 year old to be uninterested in potty training. Just yesterday my friend was changing an almost 4 year old's diaper. And she's not uncommon in my group of friends. I would say by age 3 or 3.5 maybe a definite interest would emerge. My daughter is almost 4, and she is just now entering what I would call a "big girl" phase. She's extremely smart and has the vocab of a much older child, but that doesn't really mean anything. There will be plenty of time to be a big boy! So little time to be a very little boy! Even my potty hating daughter uses the potty now for the most part, she naturally realized that she didn't want that stuff in her pants. Same thing with my 16 month old who has a new desire to sleep in her own space vs. right next to me. Children grow when they are ready...but of course if nursing so many times is really starting to get annoying there is nothing wrong with saying "later" or after lunch, after nap, etc. My daughter went through a similar phase where she requested to nurse non stop for about a month. It was hard but she got past it and I didn't limit her too much except when I was really starting to get a little touched out. :)
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:00 PM
    Sounds like you'll be okay.
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  • @llli*lcmpdx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:42 PM
    LO is 8 weeks, and if anything I have an oversupply that is beginning to regulate.
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:31 PM
    Here's a link from kelly mom about herbs to avoid while breastfeeding: http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/herbs_to_avoid/ It looks like lemon balm can affect supply. But how old is your baby? And do you have any supply issues? If your breastfeeding relationship is well-established and you have no worries about supply, I doubt a single cup of tea will have any significant impact. Hope you feel better soon...
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  • @llli*lcmpdx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:23 PM
    Traditional Medicinals Organic Chamomile with Lavender, it also includes lemon balm. I have a terrible head cold and want a cup of tea, this is the only thing I have on hand. Are these herbs safe while breastfeeding? Here is a link to the product: http://traditionalmedicinals.com/products/chamomile-lavender/ Thanks in advance for any help!
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:23 PM
    Hi mama, sorry you've had a rocky start to breastfeeding. At this point, how much formula is baby taking in the day? Is he still nursing at all? Are you currently pumping? Are you still working with the lactation specialist? From what I understand from your post, your baby is still latching, even if only for a few minutes, so that's great, and also you are still making some milk - is that right? So what you have to do now is to increase your supply by more nursing and pumping, and then gradually wean off the formula supplements. Here is an article that explains this process in a step-by-step fashion: http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/basics/decrease-formula/ The key is that you need frequent stimulation at the breast - by baby nursing, pumping, or some combination - to build your supply back up. A normal newborn nurses very very frequently to build up milk supply - 10-12 times or more in 24 hours, often nursing for hours at a time at times (cluster feeding). Also, it's important to use paced feeding techniques when bottle-feeding baby, so that bottle-feeding is more similar to breastfeeding. And not to overfeed baby with the bottle. Baby shouldn't be getting more than 2 or 3 oz at a time with the bottle, less if baby is also nursing in that feeding session. Breastfed babies eat frequent, small meals, and with the bottle it's easy to give large, infrequent meals - once baby has a lot of formula in his belly, he will not want to nurse for a long time afterwards. Also,...
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  • @llli*usafreat's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:19 PM
    my baby girl has an upper lip tie and we never revised it. I went through a lot between cracks, pain, latching issues, in the first weeks, month, better at 2 months and now at 4 it's fine. If there's no issues I don't see why you would need to. Even with my issue we outgrew it
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  • @llli*jrob327's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:15 PM
    Last drops of breastmilk? My son is 3 weeks old (born on March 27) and it seems like I have ran out of breast milk. I had an emergency c-section. My son was NICU for ingesting meconium and jaundice. Three days post-delivery, my breasts were engorged with milk. Yet, I found it very difficult to pump and my son couldn't latch on. Once we were released from the hospital, I manage to pump up to three times a day. I knew this was clearly not enough pumping sessions but I was in too much pain from the c-section and engorged breast. At best, I was able to pump 30-40ml per breast but he still didn't latch. One week later, I contacted Lactation Specialist for home consultation. She suggested renting hospital grade breast pump, showed various breast feeding position and gave me nipple shield to help my son latch on since he been drinking and formula in a bottle. All of her suggestions worked, but I was having difficulty my appetite, energy level, and physical limitations of c-sections coupled with taking pain pills (OxyContin and Ibuprofen). Some days I simply didn't pump. I tried to breast feed but my son seem not patient enough for breastmilk and wanted the fast flowing formula. As we entered the third week of being home, I notice my milk supply dropped drastically. I no longer felt the heaviness of being engorged. I pumped less than 20ml per breast and after 5min of breast feeding my son seem to lose interest or stop sucking. The irony was as I started to physically...
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:10 PM
    I don't really see weaning as a linear process, where children steadily nurse less until one day they stop. I mean yes, on average that is what happens but day-to-day, week-to-week, month-to-month - probably not. There could be many reasons that DS wants to nurse more this week than last week, all of which are developmentally appropriate. I think a lot of this is about your expectations of what DS should or should not be doing at this age. Because really, he's NOT a big boy, he's a very young boy! For example, potty training - my older two kids could be induced to sit on the potty at 2.5, were not interested in getting rid of diapers until after 3. And, as you know, many children who wean at their own pace do not do so until much later than 2.5. I certainly don't think it's in any way harmful for DS to be nursing at this age, whether a little or a lot. Whether and how much to limit that nursing I think depends entirely on how much it bothers you. So does it bother you that he's nursing a lot? Or is it more that you feel pressure to wean from DH, family members, society? Because you seem a little conflicted - just a couple weeks ago you were worried about DS weaning prematurely if your supply dropped....
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