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  • @llli*seattlemama's Avatar
    Today, 03:06 AM
    My 9.5mo boy has been very distractible since about 4-5mo and has gotten worse - I get it, all new milestones makes them that way. My problem is that nursing him has been a constant challenge since then and keeps getting harder. It became harder to nurse him without getting distracted and so I made his room darker and boring while nursing. It was still hard to nurse him without playing latch on latch off during the day and slowly he reduced the amount of time he would stay latched. Ok, I get that they get more and more efficient at nursing, but latching for just 2-3 min only at times? I mean c'mon how much could you be getting in that much?. Then a point came when he would only nurse before naps and during midnight wake-ups. And I learned to be ok with that as I'm a sahm. But now he's not giving me that either! He sometimes wakes up in the middle of the night and I wake up to go nurse him, and guess what - he doesn't want it! He just plays around and falls back to sleep sometimes after an hour or two, and then I have to wait till he wakes up again so I can feed him. And if he wakes up in the morning after that, then he doesn't want it either, or might take for just a short session! I'm losing it here, as I passionately want to breastfeed him for a long term, and this way its stressing me out. I mean every nursing session, I'm crossing my fingers that he stays latched on, and then I'm stresses as I never know when his next nursing session would be. He's not on a lot of solids...
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  • @llli*nursingmama1020's Avatar
    Today, 02:15 AM
    Thank you so much for all of the advice! I will look into safe co sleeping for sure!
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  • @llli*lvander's Avatar
    Today, 01:24 AM
    As of right now, she's in a cosleeper right next to our bed. I usually pull her into bed when she wakes at 4-5am and doesn't want to go back in her cosleeper. She'll sleep in my bed with me till about 8:30am so that's nice. I dont mind feeding her that often if that's normal for a three month old. When she was younger she would sleep for a 5 hour stretch at night. When do they usually go a little longer?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 01:18 AM
    This is normal sleep cycle for a three month old. If you are not bedsharing, is that something you would feel comfortable considering? Make sure you know the issues of safety. See: http://www.llli.org/sweetsleepbook/thesafesleepseven and http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000001Tear_offs/bedsharing_quickstart.pdf and http://www.llli.org/sweetsleepbook/tearsheets and the book Sweet Sleep for more info. Other ideas for getting more sleep: Nap when baby naps. If you have someone else there at night, ask them to take baby once or twice overnight to see if baby will settle without nursing. Even if baby will not, them being comforted for a bit by someone else may get you a slightly longer sleep stretch.
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  • @llli*lvander's Avatar
    Today, 01:09 AM
    I nurse my 3mo(15 weeks) on demand all day. I am ebf and rarely use bm bottles unless leaving her with my parents. She eats every two hours for about 5 minutes at a time. My question is.. Is there anyway to get her to sleep longer hours at night? She goes to sleep around 830-9 and wakes up every three hours to eat. Again, she's very quick to eat and goes right back to sleep but once I'm up, its difficult to go back to sleep knowing she'll be back up in a few hours. TIA
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 01:05 AM
    I think the problem is the idea of suddenly stopping all bottles (and pumping?) You do not mention how much (ounces) baby is supplemented currently, but based on that schedule it appears baby is at least half supplemented if not more? If this is all with your own breastmilk that you pump in a day, then the nursing vacation ideas MIGHT be fine, assuming baby is capable of nursing normally at this point. But you don't really know that...if you see a lactation consultant and she does a weighted feed (or a couple) and sees nothing wrong with baby's ability to latch and nurse effectively, that would be more reassurance about this. Until you can see the IBCLC, maybe take things more gradually, starting with nursing ONLY (no pumping or bottles, just nursing) for some of the feedings. I would also suggest, aside from adding additional meals that are "nursing only" sessions, nurse every time baby feeds even if baby is also getting some milk in a bottle and/or you also pump. Paced bottle feeding with proper positioning and pauses is VITAL as over supplementing is death to breastfeeding success, so go over it again with your husband. Also, maybe rather than waiting to fill up before nursing sessions, try breast compressions and switching sides frequently to keep baby more actively nursing. For optimal milk production, you want to have milk extracted from the breasts as frequently as possible.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 12:43 AM
    As far as: I don't know the answer to this. I DO think you without a doubt have some overproduction and forceful letdown going on. But need you DO anything about it, even if the blood in stool IS caused by baby getting an abundance of foremilk? I don't really think so. As pp says, your production should begin to calm down on its own soon assuming you are not overpumping. I do think you and your baby will be happier while actually nursing if you keep doing things that seem to help calm down the fast letdown- and what seems to work best for that, typically, IS to nurse more often, let baby take one side at a time if baby prefers, nurse sidelying or laid back or in any position you can figure out where you are letting gravity hold back the flow a bit... and (when needed only) hand express a little milk before offering the breast and/or take baby off the breast right at letdown to help baby avoid the fastest flow.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 12:30 AM
    Your baby is healthy and gaining. So the blood in the stool is almost certainly not a sign of a severe medical issue and is in no way a reason to stop nursing!= or give your baby anything besides your milk (although one study suggests probiotics may help.) You are only a few days into the dairy elimination. Since the ONLY sign of any issue that is not entirely explained by overproduction and forceful letdown is the bloody stool, I would suggest, keep up the dairy elimination for at least two weeks total before eliminating anything else- and put dairy BACK in your diet before eliminating anything else! Also, be aware that even if they DO stop, that does not prove the blood was caused by dairy or anything else you eat! From Breastfeeding Answers Made Simple, lactation textbook, Nancy Mohrbacher, 2010. On bloody stool: "If a baby has bloody stools and eliminating dairy from the mother's diet does not resolve them, they will most likely clear in time with continued breastfeeding." p. 520 (Italics mine) After description of a study of both breast and formula fed infants with bloody stool the results of which are too complicated to explain here:
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  • @llli*ciantarah's Avatar
    Today, 12:14 AM
    Thank you ladies SO MUCH for reading my ridiculously long post and replying! OK, so yes... I feed DD right before and after work (or as close as I can come), but I'm gone a total of 10 1/2 hours with my commute and the extra time I have to stay to make up for pumping. At work, I pump the first time at 11:30, again at 3 and then again at 5:30. At 11:30 I get about 5-6 oz from each breast, at 3 and 5:30 I get 2-3 oz from each breast, but I'm pumping for 10-15 mins max for 2 of the 3 sessions, maybe 20-25 max at 3. I could get more, especially during the first session. (My work is pretty strict on scheduling.) I'm pretty sure DD can get more out of me than that, too... part of the problem, I think, is that I have a lot of storage capacity. If it's been a few hours, there's just a lot there. Feeding more often may be part of the solution, at least on the weekends, but would that increase my supply? I think I had a little bit of a breakthrough today -- I was always BFing on a recliner and I think maybe the positions I was taking there, no matter how much I was trying to keep DD more vertical to prevent spit-up, were actually causing more spit-up because of the way she was curled around/under my breast and sort of propped up on the recliner arm. I tried today with a boppy pillow and nursing stool on our couch and things went much better. I got her to take the nipple without the nipple shield, even! I also followed the suggestion about letting the milk spray into a...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:11 PM
    I agree with pp. The point of paced feeding is it give baby control- if baby wants milk "faster" baby can indicate that and pauses can be shorter if that is what baby wants. but trying to mimic how milk actually flows from mom's breast when baby nurses, is probably impossible as well as totally unneeded. The physiology of bottles and breast are so utterly different, it is impossible to replicate really, so the issue is more about allowing baby to control the feeding-amount of milk and "pace" of the feeding, more like baby does at the breast- even if mom has fast letdown, baby has more control over how much milk comes at once than when a baby is fed bottles in the "traditional" prone position.
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:01 PM
    And just like that, as if in the blink of an eye, DS and I have been nursing for 3 years! :D My little lactivore is, by my calculations, only just in the last 2 or 3 months getting a little over half of his nutrition from fresh, mostly organic, whole foods. For anyone nursing a child who refuses to eat, this is my sweet boy who effectively only nursed until 2.25. The transition to solids will happen on your child's time. I managed to fill in his nutrition with a perfect food I make in my own body (that's a superpower, if you ask me!) thanks to domperidone from 13 months until the transition began in earnest. We now nurse anywhere from (I'd hazard) 6 to 8 times per day, sometimes as many as 10 times, with a few feeds overnight for good measure. DS has yet to STTN. Tonight, before going to bed, DS hugged my breasts and said, "I love you boobs!" I feel incredibly proud and empowered when I look at my amazing 3 year old (!) son because: A) I see a thriving, happy boy
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  • @llli*tomzgirl's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:31 PM
    Hi, there! I'm reaching out to see if there are any like-minded gals on this page. I've never been pregnant, but we are hoping to adopt a newborn soon, and I want to BF. I've read encouraging things about adoptive moms having success with induced lactation, so I plan to start pumping soon and see what happens. I'd be grateful for any advice, support and/or experiences you've had to help me on this journey!
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  • @llli*liz.g.autry's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:42 PM
    My pumping/feeding schedule is as follows: 3am - breastfeed and bottle-feed, then pump at about 3:30pm 6am - Daddy gets up and bottle-feeds her 8am - breastfeed, then hand off to Daddy to bottle-feed while I pump 9:30am - pump, then bottle-feed at 10am Noon - breastfeed and bottle-feed, then pump at 12:30pm 1:30pm - pump, then bottle-feed at 2pm 4pm - breastfeed and bottle-feed, then pump at 4:30 6pm - Daddy bottle-feeds while I pump
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:55 PM
    Tclynx obviously has better reading comprehension than I do! ;) 20 oz in just 3 pump sessions is a lot of milk. Average daily intake for a breastfed baby, per the reliable kellymom.com, is 19-30 oz, and that would generally be spread out over 8-12 nursing sessions per day. You're getting 20 oz in just 3 sessions, maybe 6-8 hours of separation? Definitely suggestive of oversupply.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:51 PM
    :ita Such a good question! Most people would say that weaning should start at 12 months, not be complete by 12 months. Of course, there's ideal and then there's life, so you do what you have to! If you choose to wean, start by eliminating a single feeding and replacing it with a bottle. Wait a few days, allowing your supply to adjust to the new, lower level of demand, and then cut out a second feeding and replace it with a bottle. Continue until all unwanted sessions are gone. As you wean, enlist lots of help from friends and family. A happily nursing baby doesn't understand why her mama is suddenly denying her the breast, and that can lead to a lot of upset and tears. Being able to hand baby off to grandma or daddy can really help when baby wants the breast and mom doesn't feel like she can offer it.
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  • @llli*m11612's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:48 PM
    I had over active letdown and oversupply so my lo was used to fast milk, but we stuck with slow flow bottled. I think this was ultimately more breastfeeding supportive. In part, this was because my mother in law found it easier to actually do paced bottle feeding and control the flow with the slow flow bottles. It seemed to cause less confusion for baby too. One time a nipple sort of wore out and became faster flow without us realizing and it was not good. Thankfully we figured it out quickly and tossed the nipple.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:40 PM
    Here is my experience. When my middle child was 2 years old I took a four day out of town trip. I most definitely did NOT want him to wean, but knew it was a risk. Or rather, I knew it was a risk that the separation would cause a nursing strike and that might lead to a scenario where I could not get him to nurse again. I believe natural weaning occurs when a child decides they are done, and if a child is unable to nurse because mom is not there, and the trauma of that leads to baby no longer nursing, that is not really natural weaning. This is entirely my opinion. I took a small hand held electric pump and pumped in the morning and the evening, in my hotel room, and maybe one more time, I forget. No more than 2 or 3 times each day for about 10 minutes a side. I did not save the milk. It was simple and did not cramp my style at all, and I was sharing a room (luckily my roomie had also breastfed.) I did this so I would not get full or leak, but I also wanted to be sure milk production was not overly impacted. When we got back he started nursing again without a hitch, and I was very relieved.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:26 PM
    yes you are right this sounds odd- It sounds like incomplete advice, rather than actually incorrect.... But even incomplete advice can be very harmful. I am glad the more frequent nursing suggestions helped. It is my favorite suggestion because it is simple and it helps with so many breastfeeding issues. Of course, it does not always help with latch pain but it often does help with that too! BTW once you wean off formula you can start weaning of the breastmilk supplements- you do NOT necessarily have to give baby everything you pump each day...even breastmilk supplements cause feeding problems if baby is getting more than they need.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:14 PM
    Can you explain the situation more? Why are you breastfeeding only 4 or 5 times per day? And why does pumping at exactly two hours affect when you can next put baby to the breast? I would think you should be pumping after nursing, and nursing at least 12 times per day. Is the lip tie getting cut? Have you sought another opinion on the tongue tie? Are the bottles being given via paced bottle feeding? Are they being kept small? Premies often have small mouths and latching can be challenging while they are still tiny. Have you sought help from an IBCLC?
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  • @llli*liz.g.autry's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:57 PM
    Well my ongoing adventure in pumping and breastfeeding continues. My little girl is almost 2 weeks adjusted (15 weeks actual) and I'm getting to the end of my rope as far as pumping goes. I'm just so sick that every two hours I have to put her down to spend 30 minutes pumping. She'll be wide awake and looking around and I have to put her down. I can't delay because that will mess up when I can try to put her to breast next. I've read about some mom's who have had success setting aside a couple of days where the baby just breastfeeds, no bottles. Basically a breastfeeding boot camp. I'm debating whether that is something I want to try with my little one. I still struggle with low supply, pumping a total of 350mL in addition to 4-5 breastfeeding sessions a day. Her latch is rather lazy, she won't open up wide and once she's on milk is constantly dribbling out the side of her mouth. I managed to get her to latch properly yesterday for the first time, no leakage and a good 5 minutes of good deep swallows. She has an upper lip tie. I was concerned she might also have a posterior tongue tie, but our pediatrician said no. He just went by looks though so I'm not so sure. She's still young and has only just started really letting us know if we're late to a feeding. She's also showing nipple preference, if I offer her my breast first she'll chomp and pull and fuss. I have an SNS system but I've only used it a handful of times, it's just so fiddly. I'm just reaching a...
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:44 PM
    If nursing more seems to be helping, nurse even more if you can. We had issues with my LO and my supply if I let him sleep as long as he would overnight, so there was a stretch of time where I was setting the alarm for 3 hours at night since it made a difference over setting the alarm for 4 hours. Now you probably don't need to do this indefinitely, probably only till you can wean off supplements and weight gain is good. Nursing more often will bring your supply up and help baby learn to nurse without biting/clamping down on you. Now days I just set one alarm for as close to the middle of the night as I can to make sure we don't both sleep too long and wind up with me engorged and in pain by the time we do wake up. Normally we have already nursed some before it goes off but I just use it as a cue to switch sides then.
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  • @llli*jazztpt's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:30 PM
    I do track exactly how much I pump, how much breastmilk we give him in a bottle, and how much formula. I pump 5-6 oz per day, so thanks for letting me know that is normal -- yay! We give him all five of those (or 4 or 6 or however many I have that day). The formula is harder to say, because it has varied a lot. At its peak it was 14 I think, but I have been trying to get it down and had gotten it to 6 or 8 until the other day. Thanks to all who said to nurse more frequently. I have been for the past few days, and it has made such a difference! As it turns out, the reason it was so painful is because he was "hangry" at every feeding. I have nursed him 13 times each of the last two days, and aside from the middle of the night feeding (which happens after a longer break) he now sucks instead of biting. Hallelujah! I have to nurse him before he shows any signs of being hungry, but so far it seems to be working like a charm. I didn't even know he knew how to nurse properly. During the night I might let my husband give him breastmilk in a bottle while I pump until our son sorts out his biting issues. We had already seen two IBCLCs before posting to this board. Their advice I suspect caused some of the issues we were having, because they advised me to take him off the breast if he didn't appear to be swallowing or if it was too painful, and also suggested that it is never necessary to leave him on for more than 20 min on a side. So I was constantly pulling him...
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:50 PM
    (The reason I ask is because if it were me, and if I weren't matched yet, I'd be disappointed if i weaned my daughter earlier than necessary. If you are eligible to be matched at Feb 2015, and even if you were matched right away, I would think any acceptable family would be / should be cool with waiting 2-3 months due to you breastfeeding your own baby-- I would think that this would be a huge plus for a family, in fact, because it would show the care and concern and commitment you have for health and for children, which would bode well for how you would care for their baby in utero, you know? And if you aren't matched with a family right away, then you get to enjoy a longer nursing relationship with your baby. But if you are already matched with a family, and that is the hard and a fast start date for the meds, that's a different story!)
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:05 PM
    Ok, tried the back carry. Will probably use that when going outside to work some. Started a low grade fever last night (between 100-100.9), not sure why. Gave some Tylenol last night and again this morning and then afternoon when he was really fussy and felt hot to me. Not sure what is going on other than being hot and a bit fussy and napping just a little more than normal he isn't showing any new symptoms. He does do some ear pulling but he has always done that when tired. He was ear pulling more than normal a few days ago but not much yesterday or today so not sure if the ear pulling is related to it at all or not. If he isn't all better by tomorrow morning I'll call the Ped office.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:57 PM
    Once you get the TT dealt with, since it is happening so late, you may also need some physical therapy for baby since with tongue immobility muscles will need re-training how to work in order for his latch to improve and him be able to breastfeed without hurting you. If you can get the appointment to fix the TT moved up, DO IT. Call and ask if they get any cancelations that might let you get in sooner. My LO got his TT and LT cut when he was 8 weeks and we still needed 6 weeks of work with a speech therapist before he was able to transfer milk well. (Of course I had issues with low supply instead of over supply and instead of my nipples getting raw and cracked he just tended to clamp down on me causing bruising and inflamation. I didn't respond well enough to the pump to have managed to EP) The bottom link in my signature has some links in it that might be helpful to you. I agree with PP that babie's poop problems could be because of overfeeding via bottles. If that isn't the case, then look to allergies, milk is the first thing they usually recommend mom try eliminating.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:42 PM
    I expect that if you Don't pump/express for 3 1/2 to 5 days, it will really hurt your milk production and if baby isn't ready to wean it could be kinda hard on you to deal with if you are conflicted about weaning at this point. In any case, take a pump just in case if you do become uncomfortable you don't want it to turn into illness. If you don't want to push weaning abruptly at this point you should probably pump at least once or twice a day, like either in the morning or before bed.
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