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  • @llli*mommele's Avatar
    Today, 11:05 PM
    Problem is when I offer when she's not hungry she gets upset withme....she'll latch for 3 or so minutes then get upset and refuse....then I don't know if I start counting from that super short feeding or the previous. And the whole day is thrown off because I keep on trying throughout the day and I never get a good feeding from her. Today I let her ask me (when I say that I don't mean crying...I never wait till that point....I mean a little complaining)...one stretch went 5 hours!...but I got a good feeding from her when she was ready. Feedings were at 8:30pm, 3am, 7:20am, 12noon, 5pm, 8pm (being this last one). Does this sound ok?
    2 replies | 82 view(s)
  • @llli*laurennn's Avatar
    Today, 08:33 PM
    I've heard that drinking a beer will increase milk... I feel uncomfortable doing that, but would a nonalcoholic beer do the same thing?
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  • @llli*ccb52914's Avatar
    Today, 07:50 PM
    No, unfortunately we can't do a mid-day feed at work (although I would love to!).
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  • @llli*valentina0813's Avatar
    Today, 07:48 PM
    ohh okay, no discomfort before or after spitting up. Actually she smiles. Thanks!! I was getting a little worried.
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 07:44 PM
    Okay, this is likely not possible otherwise it probably would already have been happening, but just in case-- would nanny be able to bring her to you for her middle meal during your lunch break?
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 07:38 PM
    "First of all, in posting this, I presume that the baby is gaining weight well and is generally a happy baby. If that’s the case, spitting up and aspirating are not a bad thing. In fact, probably they are a good thing. Breastmilk is full of immune factors (not just antibodies, but dozens of others as well that all interact) that protect the baby from invasion by bacteria and other microorganisms (fungi, viruses etc) by lining the baby’s mucous membranes (the linings of the gut, respiratory tract and elsewhere). A baby who spits up has double protection, when the baby drinks the milk and it goes to the stomach and then when he spits it up. I frequently use this example of how breastfeeding is so different from formula and bottle feeding. Spitting up formula, if all else is going well, is probably not bad. Spitting up breastmilk, if all else is going well, is probably good." Dr. Jack Newman, found here: https://m.facebook.com/LLLAndover/posts/571889979565552
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 07:32 PM
    Does your little one seem in pain or discomfort during or surrounding the spitting up? If not, I believe that spitting up is really normal and not to worry about. My little one is alms of seven months old has been spitting up from the start, though it decreased in amount and frequency around three months.
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  • @llli*valentina0813's Avatar
    Today, 07:16 PM
    My 1 month lately has been spitting up. She is EBF, Their has been no change in my diet. Is it thats she's over eating?! :confused::confused:
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 07:15 PM
    :ita with the PPs. The most common reason for evening fussiness is just the baby being a baby. They get tired and cranky just like adults do! The best thing you can do is get a stack of novels or a Netflix subscription, and spend the fussy time glued to the couch, nursing and nursing and nursing....and nursing some more! That's what I had to do with baby #2, and while it was frustrating at the time it was nevertheless infinitely easier than trying to soothe her in other ways. 6 weeks was the maximum fussy time for both my kids. But it gets better, I swear! By around 3 months they start turning into little people, who interact with you and have more predictable rhythms.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 07:10 PM
    Don't let anyone tell you that you'll regret it if you quit. Only YOU can judge whether or not this is true. Yes, a lot of women do regret it, but there are a lot who don't. I agree with the PPs that hands-on help from an IBCLC is a really good idea right now. Maybe the problem here is something simple. Or maybe it's not, but help from a LC will enable you to see a clear path forward. It sounds like your biggest issue right now is sleep, or rather lack thereof. Since that seems to be the case, I would think about dropping some or all of the nighttime pumps. If you get some more sleep and are better able to function during the day, maybe the whole pumping and nursing thing will seem more doable. And maybe you'll have more energy to focus on getting baby to nurse more.
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  • @llli*valentina0813's Avatar
    Today, 07:10 PM
    First try and relax, I have a 1 month old and BF, i from time to time bottle bf and have given her formula, only thing was that she seems to not be satisfied with the formula and was drinking wayy to much like 5oz and was still fussy, it wasn't gas either.:shrug She needed that comfort from nursing. I am no longer pumping unless i need to. ( going out and leaving her with daddy). Try different positions to BF her , that might help her latch better. I put her to bed around 10:30-11pm, change her diaper and i make sure she's in a milk comma :) . She wakes up one time around 3-4am. feed her again and straight back to sleep until 8-10am. Also i find that going to bed as soon as she does works for me. She even has gone thru the entire night without getting up. I couldn't imagine pumping so much. its too much time consuming. Most babies adapt well to formula, all my friends BF for maybe 1 week or 2. They couldn't take it anymore. They are on formula and doing great. Try and pump as much as u can now and freeze it if you would still like to give bm and introduce more formula, this way once you go to work u don't have to worry about pumping as much. Good luck!
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 07:04 PM
    Provided all weight gain and medical is good. Get a sling or carrier and wear him during the afternoon/evening during these days when he wants to comfort nurse or be touching mamma all the time.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 07:04 PM
    Some babies do well with few feedings per day. I don't think I know of any who have spontaneously dipped below 5-6 nursing sessions per day, but they do exist. So it's possible that your baby will do just fine with widely spaced feedings. If you decide to simply feed on demand, watch her diaper output and weight gain carefully. If they are on track, then she's getting enough. My preference, in this situation, would be to offer before she demands it. Nursing is a two-way street, and it is okay for mom to offer in advance of baby's request, just like it's okay for baby to request when mom isn't ready. This would go for any baby, but I think it is particularly a good idea when you have a smaller baby and therefore less margin for error.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 07:01 PM
    I agree that you should get some help. Preferably some hands on help. Have you looked into taking medication that can help with your milk supply? How is babies latch now, did it improve? Have you looked into physical therapy to help improve milk transfer? http://forums.llli.org/showthread.php?120631-Resources-for-Milk-Transfer-Issues and IBCLC may be able to help you figure out if it is possible to wean off the supplements or not. http://www.ilca.org/i4a/pages/index.cfm?pageid=3901 Have you looked into using an at the breast supplementer instead of the bottles? This would at least save you one step in the nurse, supplement, pump treadmill. And Rest assured, breastfeeding need not be all or nothing. If you need to use formula to make up the difference, especially when you go back to work, then it is what you need to do. Think of formula like medication, if it is needed, it is needed.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 06:59 PM
    Wow, that is persistance! If he exhibits that same determination throughout his life, he'll go far. Maybe that's cold comfort right now, but still, wow! It sounds like the issue isn't nursing per se, but rather his attachment to the breast. He's using it the way other kids use a blanket or a stuffed toy- as a source of comfort during his most stressful moments. I would try taking him to the store and letting him choose a stuffed toy or blanket, no limit on price or theme, with the stated intention that the item he chooses will be his comfort item (or lovey or whatever term you want to use) when he's upset. Then when a tantrum hits, have him go and get said item. You could also try allowing him to come in for cuddles, but interspersing some item, like a pillow, in between him and the breast. One of my friends swears by the glitter bottle- see http://www.instructables.com/id/Calm-Bottle-aka-Glitter-Jar/. When a tantrum strikes, the bottle gets a good shake, and then the kid has to wait for the glitter to settle before negotiations for whatever it is he wanted are resumed. By the time the glitter settles, the unreasonable urge has usually passed.
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  • @llli*seoid's Avatar
    Today, 05:27 PM
    Just going to add that my little one dislikes the taste of coconut oil. He will eventually latch but he pulls all sorts of faces before doing so. That being said- it's wonderful for sore nipples and healing.
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  • @llli*ashley.s's Avatar
    Today, 05:09 PM
    I stopped nursing at 18 months also. We were down to 1 or 2 feedings/ day. My situation was a little bit different. I think my body stopped producing milk making it painful for me to keep nursing. One day I decided we were done because it was painful to nurse him. So I just stopped offering it. If he asked, I would distract him. If that didn't work I just simply said no, he got upset but was content just cuddling on my bosom. My son also has his alternative comfort (his thumb) it was easy at this age for him to forget about "booby". He didn't ask me past a week. I didn't deal with engorgement but I would only pump to relieve engorgement. The less you pump/nurse the less you will produce.
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 05:07 PM
    I agree with mommal. I definitely have a higher producer (also the same side that holding her in is more comfortable for me--- chicken or the egg!?!?...), but I feel like keeping both going at *their* own best is a necessary insurance against something happening to one. (So much personification!)
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  • @llli*vanne's Avatar
    Today, 05:04 PM
    I'm so sorry, thrush is horrible! I was on antibiotics for the last 3 months of pregnancy, and you bet we got thrush BADLY! First pediatrician (male) was very reserved in treating it. Second pediatrician (female, and a momma) treated it very aggressively. We were both on topical and systemic treatments. You need effective treatment. This is serious stuff because it is SO PAINFUL that it affects baby's ability to eat and momma's ability to feed! Pumping with thrush was horrifically painful. Expressing by hand worked much better for me.
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 04:58 PM
    Has his weight gain trajectory been satisfying to your pediatrician thus far? Does he have a sufficient number of wet and dirty diapers? If both of these are "yes", then I would say that it sounds like you have a baby that loves to be near his mama! And if so, congrats! I think, barring any outlying medical condition, babies tend to know what they need, and to be good at asking it of us. Are you using any of the lying-down nursing positions? Are you practicing safe co sleeping? Even if you aren't intending cosleeping to happen, if you nurse baby in bed, it can be good to make it a safe place just in case. Side-lying was truly a eureka moment for me in those early weeks (and still a favorite!).
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 04:50 PM
    "I've started to feel incredibly anxious/depressed and something needs to change." I am so sorry to hear that you're hurting, and that things have gotten off to a rough start. This all is really rough. You're mental health is indeed really important. Whatever you decide to do in re: breast/pump/formula, I would urge you to seek out some help, whether that be touching base with your family physician or just rounding the wagons and making sure you're surrounded by loved ones, who will be an extra set of hands to hold a baby, to make nourishing food for you, take dogs on a walk, etc. I hear you- that what's going on right now is Not sustainable for you, that you need for something to change. I hope some more experienced mamas will chime in, maybe some mamas with combo feeding first hand knowledge, to help you have options to consider for that change. Babies are also changing all the time, too, so there might be some of that just around the bend that could help too. Are you working with any in person help? An IBCLC, a WIC peer counselor, a La Leche leader?
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  • @llli*anaduralia's Avatar
    Today, 04:48 PM
    Would pumping help? Perhaps once a day just to empy out anything in there? You could do it after she goes to bed or during nap this way you won't feel like you are stealing milk from her. Then she could drink it from a cup when you usually offer a cup.
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  • @llli*ccb52914's Avatar
    Today, 04:41 PM
    This is my fourth week back at work, and my 16 week daughter is at home with a nanny. I'm away from her from 7am - 4pm and on a "normal" day, she's drinking three bottles of EBM - two 3oz and one 4oz. Recently, we're having some issues with her taking the bottle, but it only seems to be happening during her middle of the day feeding (she takes the bottle with no issue in the morning and afternoon). Our nanny waits for hunger cues, but then when she offers the bottle, my daughter refuses and often becomes quite upset. Our nanny has been able to persuade her to eat eventually (by taking a break, calming her down, etc.), but I want to get to the bottom of the issue before it becomes more of a pattern. We can't figure out what would cause this refusal behavior only during this feeding - it's the same bottle/nipple, same temperature, same milk, same feeding location. She also definitely seems hungry. Does anyone have any ideas as to why she would consistently be upset during this feeding, but take the other two feedings well? Thanks!!
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  • @llli*seoid's Avatar
    Today, 04:12 PM
    Thank you. I appreciate the suggestions and will try the hand expression/pumping if I feel full. Today seems to be a little better regarding feeling full/tender areas. I'm not sure why but I'll take it! Thank you again!
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  • @llli*jaykrysten's Avatar
    Today, 03:21 PM
    My son is six weeks and all he wants is to be on my breast or chest. He'll nurse for about 30min and fall asleep when I try to put him down or move he'll start to cry so I put him back on and he sucks for about a minute falls asleep for like five and sucks for a minute, we'll do this multiple times and it usually starts around late afternoon/evening (3-5) and last all night, he's fine in the mornings and early afternoon though. I've tried offering him a pacifier and putting him in his swing but he rejects that now and that would usually sooth him. Is he sucking for comfort or is he just not getting full as the day goes on I've heard that some women have supply issues later in the day. Thanks for any advice
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  • @llli*ramom's Avatar
    Today, 02:34 PM
    My daughter is 7 weeks old. She had latch issues in the beginning, which resulted in us pumping and bottle feeding, in addition to bf'ing. So I've been pumping every three hours around the clock, and I just can't do it anymore. We've tried to wean her from bottle+breast to all breast, but it hasn't worked and just resulted in a lot of stress and screaming. Between the pumping and bf'ing, I get at most 1 hour of sleep at a time (usually less), and I'm to the point where I think the lack of sleep has taken a major toll on my parenting and mental health. Everyone keeps saying bf'ing gets easier and you'll regret it if you quit, but right now the only thing I regret is that I haven't been able to be a mom and haven't been able to enjoy the first 7 weeks of my daughter's life. I've started to feel incredibly anxious/depressed and something needs to change.I'm also going back to work in 5 weeks, and this is obviously not going to work any more at that point. My question: is it possible to start sustainable combo feeding (some breast milk and some formula) by dropping some pump sessions, or will my milk just dry up completely if I do that? I'd like to continue to provide *some* breastmilk if possible. For example, what if I pumped 5-6 times a day instead of 8?
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  • @llli*mommele's Avatar
    Today, 02:19 PM
    My girl is 2 month 4 weeks. She all the sudden doesn't feel like eating as much. She used to do every 3 during the day with a long stretch at night ( approx 5-7 hrs). Now it's more like 4ish during the day. I feel like close to 5 sometimes. When I try to feed her around 3 hours if she's fussy, she will nurse for a quick amount of time...maybe 3 min, then get fussy and jerky....give her a pacifier and she's happy. Yesterday I did this and she got pissed again...I decided to pump after the attempt because I could feel a plugged milk duct and I'm also scared of a decrease in milk. A attempted to give it to her an hour later and she took it VERY well. You might think she's preferring the bottle because of overuse....but the last time she had a bottle was a couple days ago (for a football game I pumped)..and before that, it had been a month. At night feedings are good though. Can she possibly be getting enough if I just go on demand?? I piss her off when I offer too early :/. Also: I'm not one of those people who has an oversupply...basically just enough to feed. The most I've ever pumped from both boobs for a feeding (NOT after feeding) was 4 oz total. Not sure if it's because I had breast augmentation through the nipple 12 years ago. My first daughter had to eventually be supplemented but this time around no supplementing yet, but did do one series of apply basil essential oil which worked great for me. I'm just concerned about my baby getting enough nutrients...
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  • @llli*hw's Avatar
    Today, 02:13 PM
    I weaned my 2.5 year old a few months ago (32 months old now). He would probably have liked to keep nursing, but I am pregnant again and nursing was starting to be excruciating for me, so it had to stop. "Weaning" itself was successful. He hasn't nursed since June. The problem is that he still keeps asking for it! When I was actively weaning I told him Mommy had ouchies on her nipples so he couldn't nurse and that seemed ok. When he kept asking, we started telling him that big boys don't nurse, he's all done with nurse now. He seems to accept this... but it doesn't stop the asking. When he's in a good mood, sometimes he will ask in a not-serious, sing-song way and it doesn't bother him if I just ignore it, which I usually do, or sometimes I remind him that no, he's all done nurse and he's a big boy. It's much more problematic when he's upset, he wails for more nurse and he doesn't want to hear me offer other ways for him to calm down. When I say he can have hugs and cuddles instead it makes him more upset. (Well, that's typical of his tantrums, offering alternatives to what he really wants always upsets him more.) He doesn't ever seem to actually want to latch on (thank god), but he does really want to tug down my shirt and get his head near my boobs, which I don't like at all. I don't want him pulling my shirt, and I don't want him touching my boobs anymore. I'm just not sure how to get him to stop this behavior, and the asking. They both drive me nuts. I put...
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