Yesterday, 11:51 PM
I will answer last post first. "Normal" latch and nursing is often described as a "gentle pulling." It's a good description, but how intense the sensation is will vary from nursing pair to nursing pair.
What to look out for is PAIN when nursing (or in between) or very strong discomfort, and of course, any actual nipple injury, bleeding, cracks, scabbing, or bruising. These things do happen and are pretty common, but they do usually indicate that latch is not quite what it could be.
It is pretty universal that newborns HATE to be laid down. This is a biologically mandated response. Your baby is driven entirely by instinct, and biology has not caught up to babies r us. For most of human history, a fragile human infant who was put down by it's mother died rapidly by being eaten or of exposure. Think about it, Primate mothers NEVER put their newborns down. Baby knows where baby is safe, and that is in mom and dad's arms.
So many new parents find baby settles best while being held closely by mom or another trusted adult. Snuggled against mom or dad's or a grandparent's chest is where you will find most newborns happiest to sleep. If caregiver is also tired and may fall asleep, there are several precautions that can be taken so baby can sleep safely beside mom on firm bed surface. But if you are doing baby duty, and are sitting up on the couch, (leaning against the back, just not laying down) for example, and have baby snuggled to you against your chest, this should be...