January 23rd, 2015, 10:05 AM
Hi, my son is now 3 years and almost 3 months, and I need help with how to take the final steps in weaning him. We nursed on demand until around age 2, then gradually dropped sessions. For the past several months, since September, we've been nursing just once, at bedtime. Now I am trying to figure out how to cut that session.
My husband really, really wants me to wean and honestly, I am also ready for that to happen. I have tried several things: counting to 20 or 30 (this didn't go well and led to wails of protest when I said it was time to stop); offering him a choice between extra stories at night and nursing (he chose extra stories a couple of times and skipped nursing those nights, with some protest but no trauma; but now he pretty consistently chooses nursing); and offering him a trip to Disneyworld once he weans (we live in southern CA so this isn't that big a deal for us).
So far, none of it is working, and my husband is impatient. He thought DS should have been weaned by 3 years at the absolute latest. He would've preferred he was weaned by age 2. Some of you who have been here a long time may remember that this has been a source of discord between DH and I for at least a year. I have persisted because I felt DS wasn't ready and needed to nurse.
Now, though, I look at my tall thin boy, who plays soccer and is starting to add and subtract, and I think "this is not a child who still needs to nurse". My own feelings about it are different. I have started to...