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  • @llli*carmofrap's Avatar
    Today, 04:14 PM
    I'm hoping someone can help me or have some ideas. About four days ago my nipples were a little sensitive and one was a little painful, my 19month son also abruptly stopped nursing that day. He nursed twice in the morning and then once in the entire night that followed. which is very rare for him, he nurses about every three hours in the day and every two at night. The next day he was right back to normal only my nipples got worse. The left got quite painful but only during latch on, after he nurses for a bit it goes away and just feels like he's tugging or sucking extra hard, The other one was a little slower but is now almost as sensitive right at latch on and for a lilbit of nursing then goes away, as the other one. There is no pain when he is done. they are a little red but not itchy or shiny like they say thrush is. There is no pain deep inside my breast either. They feel maybe heavier but I've taken three pregnancy tests in the last week and half and all were negative. I'm still experiencing lactational amenhorrea and really have no idea where in a cycle I would be so could this be a sign of my period returning? I've been taking raw garlic since my spouse got sick with a cold and I didn't want to get it and I've also been taking probiotics so I'm not convinced it is thrush or bacterial since that sounds like it should be a much stronger, lasting pain and should have responded to both from what I understand. I'm just dreading latch on every time he wants to nurse and...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 02:30 PM
    Wow that is really hard. I am sure both you and your daughter are struggling with the new normal. I have a couple of suggestions. My first thought is, you have been trying to wean for a year, but the weaning is not working and seems to be stressful. What if you temporarily stopped trying to wean? What if, when you and your daughter are together, you nurse as much and as long as she wishes. Maybe it is the being encouraged to wean and the fear of losing something at something other than her own timetable is causing her to cling to the nursing and insist on nursing more than she would otherwise. If you don't like that idea, have you tried limiting the length of nursing sessions? This worked well for me when my son was about this age. I told him he could nurse for the time it took to sing one of two short songs. I let him choose the song. Or a count of 20, and he chose 'what' I counted (trains or dinosaurs) or I would say 'we can nurse until I count to 10 or 20' and again, he would choose.
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  • @llli*mango.lily's Avatar
    Today, 02:02 PM
    To ruchiccio, Thank you very much for the suggestion! After seeing your post, I brought up this question in our most recent visit to lactation specialist. She checked using her finger and said our baby has neither tongue tie nor lip tie. Although the specialist may not be an IBCLC, since Stockholm area only has one IBCLC according to their website.
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  • @llli*mango.lily's Avatar
    Today, 01:56 PM
    I tried both size of nipple shield (20mm and 24mm). Nipple still looks flat after nursing 5-10min, and will get wounds if nursing too long and too often. It seems that nipple shield is not helping much to reduce the pain in my case.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 01:20 PM
    I forget-did you ever try a nipple shield? Or tried one lately?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 01:16 PM
    First off, this is completely normal. I do not know if that helps any, but when oldest was 17 months old and nursing very frequently day and night it helped to know it is normal and I was not doing anything "wrong." There are many techniques to try to partially wean baby or to move the weaning process along. I would suggest your child is very young so not all these ideas are going to work in your case. You may find trying to wean or cut down on feeding frequency far more trouble than it is worth, or it backfires, as you found with the day/night situation. Some moms find teaching nursing "manners" helps them feel more in control of the situation and comfortable with nursing again. Again I think your son is a little young but ymmv. There is no reason for a 15 month old who is nursing to drink anything aside from water. IN fact he might not even need the water. Many 15 months olds eat very little. A wonderful book about kids and eating I suggest for all parents is "My Child Won't Eat" by Carlos Gonzalez. If you think your child is nursing so much due to need for calories, have you considered trying to increase your milk production with galactagogues? This might lead to less nursing if he really is needing more calories.
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  • @llli*boogabbalucky's Avatar
    Today, 12:45 PM
    Also - she takes 14 ounces while I am gone 10 hours, so it doesn't seem like we are overfeeding with the bottle while I am gone.
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  • @llli*boogabbalucky's Avatar
    Today, 12:43 PM
    Hi. Up to now, my nursing/pumping and bottle feeding relationship with my baby has been really great. I went back to work at 5 months and have been able to pump and bottle feed breastmilk only (with the help of my freezer stash) and nurse while I am at home. It has always been important to my supply to nurse extra on the weekends. The difference between my Monday output and my Friday output is marked. This is ok - I have enough in my freezer to make up for it until she is 12 months. However, the weekend nursing is essential. All of a sudden, except for first thing in the morning - this kid is not interested in nursing. She bites me (no teeth, but the gum clamp can be amazingly painful) and won't even latch for a second. I have tried to get up in the night and nurse her (she sleeps through the night), but she DOES NOT dreamfeed, and instead I have woken up my peacefully sleeping baby to wage a nursing war that I lose... She fights and screams and won't nurse and it takes me an hour to get her back down. Any advice? If I have to just pump bottles I won't make it to 12 months with BM only (this is what I am doing right now). I sit in a dark, silent room with her and she just refuses, and makes a statement with the clamping. :(
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 12:41 PM
    You may find that your skin clears up after having baby. I had serious acne and something that looked like rosacea for years prior to having my first child, and after wards my skin completely cleared and I only get the occasional outbreak around my period. Well the safest forms of birth control hormonally speaking are barrier methods such as condoms that use no hormones. Any woman using any hormonal birth control may experience side effects, and sometimes the side effects are very serious. But if a barrier method is out of the question, here is some info about hormonal BC and the possible effect on milk production. http://kellymom.com/bf/can-i-breastfeed/meds/birthcontrol/ Since there is no way to be sure how a bc might affect an individual, daily pill form contraception that can be easily discontinued are probably safer for milk production than implanted devices or shots. But again, this will depend on what will work or not work for you and your lifestyle. For details about a specific medication and breastfeeding including all hormonal bc, you can call these folks : www.infantrisk.com
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 12:34 PM
    well you are right 99 is not considered a fever. I think it has to be over 100. But if your instincts are telling you something is not right, maybe call the doctor? http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/health-concerns/childhood-illnesses/fever Sometimes an overbundled baby gets overheated.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 12:08 PM
    pumping every nursing session? this sounds very odd, who told you to do this? Unless you expect to have some serious issues with very poor milk producition, this is terrible advice. Pumping with some frequency might be an appropriate protocol for a mom with low milk production or if a baby cannot nurse or nurse well. But this kind of frequency of pumping is not only usually unneeded for building a stash for work, it is potentially going to cause many serious breastfeeding issues especially if done in the early weeks. A newborn is likely to nurse as often as 12-15 or more times a day. So trying to pump every nursing session is not really realistic anyway. As pp says, the best way to get nursing off to a great start is to nurse, and nurse only, for as long as you possibly can. There are many other things to think about, as far as birth goes, early mother and baby togetherness (meaning mom holding baby, against her bare chest, as much as possible) Avoiding unnecessary separations in the hospital (for baths, etc- bathing baby after birth is not needed, and most needed procedures and tests can be done while mom holds baby) and positioning ideas that seem to help breastfeeding get off to a good start. Unless there are serious breastfeeding problems, pumping is NOT needed and may cause many issues if done when not needed. You do not have much time, but I suggest order or have someone get you the book The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (8th edition) ASAP. It is available as a...
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 11:38 AM
    And seeing as the improvement was noticeable and immediate, the damage for the delay is to you more than to baby, baby will recover now with your diligence. Good job for being persistent.
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  • @llli*mrslg's Avatar
    Today, 10:43 AM
    I need some advice. My 15 month old is still nursing every 1-2 hours. I am getting really burned out but I don't want to completely wean him. I just want to get him to cut back some. He was down to twice a night but was nursing every hour or so during the day. I tried making him go longer during the day but then he increased at night. And he was really upset. I really think he needs the calories because he doesn't eat much food. He eats a bite or two per meal and sometimes nothing at all. He will usually take a couple of bites and then ask for nah-nah. I don't know how to get him to eat more table food. He drinks water from a cup but he wont drink anything else. My older son self weaned at 9 months because I was pregnant so I didn't have this issue with him and don't know how to deal with it. Any advice would be appreciated! :)
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Today, 09:56 AM
    I get the impression it varies quite a lot from child to child. My DD would only take EBM from one of those soft lidded type ones and then only a sip. (Ours is a stage 1 Nuby cup) She takes water from a doidy cup which is open but I don't trust her to not throw milk everywhere with one of those. We tried 4 different types before this one worked. That said I only used it a few times ever as am lucky to be a SAHM.
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  • @llli*soblessed's Avatar
    Today, 09:23 AM
    So my little one is nursing well with good dirty diaper output. He felt warmer then usual this a.m so i took his temp (rectal) and it was 99.0 which isnt considered fever evidently but how often should i check it or should i continue since he is nursing fine and is having dirty diapers? Thanks ladies! Sorry its not neccesarily a bf question!
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Today, 09:15 AM
    My understanding is that if they drop a feed your supply adjusts to losing that one feed but doesn't drop completely. I don't have a personal experience to share as my DD is only 1 too, but friends with older nurslings manage nursing just a couple of times a day and have enough milk for the feeds they do do. Is it weaning? Well in a sense as soon as solids are introduced you started weaning. .. but I don't think anything you wrote means you can't just keep on nursing :) Weaning is supposed to be a long slow process!
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Today, 09:03 AM
    You can't offer to nurse too often! A baby will refuse if they don't want it! :) As for nursing and solids I think every dyad is different. I have friends whose babies are down to a couple of feeds by 12 months and others like my DD who despite getting solids 3-5 times a day nurses every 2-3 hours day and night. So following your instincts and your baby's cues is the best thing you can do :) If your instincts say hold off hold off, if your child is stealing food from other kids (to my shame my DD does this) then maybe they want more solids - or maybe I just have a greedy girlie :)
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Today, 08:58 AM
    I would offer the breast at night, often sleepy babies will take it even if they don't want to in the day. I know a couple of mums who have fed at night while weaning during the day (usually because they work daytimes). But the maybe that's because am lazy and if feeding at the breast means I get back to sleep quicker than I would!
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Today, 08:52 AM
    The best way to build a good supply is to feed on demand, offering a second breast after baby has 'finished' the first and not worrying if they don't want it some feeds and do others. With regards to building a stash for when you return to work... I personally wouldn't worry about it in the first 2 weeks, you will have enough on your plate recovering from labour and the two of you learning to feed. Most Mums tend to have extra milk in the first few weeks. You don't want to pump lots and have a huge oversupply that makes it difficult for your baby to feed. The other reason I say this is you don't need a huge stash. To maintain supply and for your own comfort you'll be pumping at work and so give or take each day you'll have enough for the next day. Now having a freezer stash to back this up is a good idea because some days you might not pump enough, or some gets spilt or whatever. So I would gradually introduce pumping after the first couple of weeks when baby is feeding well and things are beginning to settle and start with pumping both sides after the morning feed (it doesn't have to be morning but often women find they get more then). How long do you have before you have to return/are planning to return?
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  • @llli*tifferni's Avatar
    Today, 08:35 AM
    I'm due to have my baby in 2 days, and I want to ensure I'm doing everything necessary from day 1 to work towards building a good solid milk supply. I will be trying to nurse exclusively, but also want to pump to store milk for when I go back to work. For this I have purchased a Medela Pump In Style Advanced Electric Double Breast Pump as well as an AVENT Manual Single Breast Pump. I've been told to exclusively nurse for at least the first 3 wks. Nursing on one side, and then pump the other, flip flopping with every nursing session. But I know the more you nurse/pump, the more milk you make. So, should I nurse on one side, then pump BOTH sides when I'm done, and of course flipflop which side I start on every time?
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  • @llli*tifferni's Avatar
    Today, 08:29 AM
    I'm due to have my baby in 2 days, and I do not want to get pregnant again any time soon. I typically base my birth control choice on what will help with my very acne prone skin. I'm considering Ortho Tri Cyclen as I've taken it in the past, but I want to make sure it's not going to have an effect on my supply. What are my options?
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Today, 03:32 AM
    I don't know a way to change what your baby is doing as mine did this and still does to be honest! What I do do is maximise my sleep around this... I nap when DD naps, I go to bed when she does, we co-sleep to minimise night disruption and if we have a bad few nights DH takes her for an hour when she wakes if he isn't a work so I can have a 'lie in' or I take n hour after he is home and she's just fed. Not sure if this helps or not!
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  • @llli*mommytotwo11's Avatar
    Today, 02:34 AM
    @Mommal, Thank you for your reply. I am so thankful for your knowledge. I will continue to do what I have been doing. I might start pumping to store some milk, just in case and that way we can get rid of the formula. Thank you once again. I truly appreciate your help.
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