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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Today, 03:32 AM
    I don't know a way to change what your baby is doing as mine did this and still does to be honest! What I do do is maximise my sleep around this... I nap when DD naps, I go to bed when she does, we co-sleep to minimise night disruption and if we have a bad few nights DH takes her for an hour when she wakes if he isn't a work so I can have a 'lie in' or I take n hour after he is home and she's just fed. Not sure if this helps or not!
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  • @llli*mommytotwo11's Avatar
    Today, 02:34 AM
    @Mommal, Thank you for your reply. I am so thankful for your knowledge. I will continue to do what I have been doing. I might start pumping to store some milk, just in case and that way we can get rid of the formula. Thank you once again. I truly appreciate your help.
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  • @llli*dale's Avatar
    Today, 02:00 AM
    I am a single mother (for about 1yr now) and my daughter will be 4 in February. She has latched well and loved breastfeeding from the very beginning. We have FINALLY worked our way from co-sleeping at least most of the time, which we enjoyed for about 3.5 yrs. I work 12-hr night shifts 3 nights a week and nursing is simply just getting too exhausting for me. I have been trying to gently wean for over a year now. However, all my attempts to wean are severely back firing. Sometimes distractions/food/drink/gently explantions/etc will work, but other times she will have real tantrums including screams in my face, or even hitting/scratching at me. I am feeling really guilty taking this away from her, especially after so much change in her little life, but I feel like I just cant do it anymore. All suggestions welcome.
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  • @llli*dale's Avatar
    Today, 01:53 AM
    I am facing similar issues as a single mama of an almost 4 yo. I would love to hear how this worked out for you and what tactics you used. Thanks!
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  • @llli*zaynethepain's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:38 PM
    http://drjaygordon.com/pediatricks/newborns/scales.html Hmm it's a very consistent weight gain and only slightly under average. I'd look to a lactation consultant first to see if there was any possible milk transfer issue before starting solids. It's entirely possible that everything is perfect and this is just his normal.
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  • @llli*amiga918's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:53 PM
    My LO has had issues with breastfeeding while awake most of her life. She is now almost 9 months old and I no longer have to bounce on the ball to get her to nurse (how fun was that!) but now she still wakes every two hours to feed at night! She also feeds about every 2-3 hours during the day, depending on how long her nap was. She refuses to take a bottle and I am wondering...is there anything I can do to get her to NOT wake so much at night and eat more during the day?!? I haven't slept more then an hour or two since she was born and some nights she wakes every 45 minutes and just wants to comfort nurse. My partner, for the first time the other day, tried to sooth her during her second night waking and she cried for over an hour. She didn't wake up the rest of the night and boy did she have a good nursing session in the am, but didn't really seem to eat more during the day... My partner went back to work and hasn't been able to help at night, so she has slowly gone back to waking about every two hours. Am I depriving her of a much needed feeding by allowing my partner to take a shift, knowing that she most likely will not take the bottle and will end up crying herself into exhaustion? Will she just slowly start to eat more during the day if I slowly have my partner wake with her more and more often....or is this some horrible torture for her b/c she is so used to feeding at night (usually around 20 minutes per wake. During the day, she never even gets close to...
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:04 PM
    It's amazing how heavy a tiny baby can be! When my first daughter was born, I remember being astonished at how heavy a 6 lb baby could feel after holding her for just a few minutes. It's just hard to maintain a baby in one position for a long time! Eventually,mI started nursing her exclusively in the side-lying position. Other positions came in time, as we became more comfortable with each other and her strength, nursing skills, and head control improved. So even if you do absolutely nothing, I think that nursing is going to improve for you. Have you tried reclined/biological nurturing positions? Those can be really great, because they enlist gravity to slow milk flow to the baby and to hold the baby on the breast, rather than pulling her off the breast as happens in the conventional cradle position.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:57 PM
    Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby! If your child is 4 lbs past his birth weight at 5 weeks of age, there is nothing wrong with your supply. Babies are supposed to be back at birthweight by 2 weeks, and then start gaining consistently. Average weight gain in the 0-4 month age range is around 5-8 oz per week, and your child has gained significantly more than that. So put the idea of a supply problem out of your mind! Soft breasts mean nothing when weight gain and diaper output are good. Next, take the formula and put it in the trash or donate it to a needy family. Again, you do not have a supply problem! Your baby ate a large amount from the bottle because that is what babies do when given bottles. When a baby feeds from the breast, milk flow slows or stops when the baby transitions from sucking eagerly for nutrition to sucking gently for comfort. When a baby feeds from a bottle, the bottle delivers the same fast flow regardless of how the baby is sucking, and the baby must keep swallowing or he will choke. This is one reason why bottle-fed babies are often overfed. Not knowing better, I once fed my newborn 7 oz from the bottle- which she then proceeded to puke up! Since your baby's weight gain is above average, he's feeding faster than average, spit-up is frequent and voluminous, and he often wants to feed from just one breast at a time, there's a good chance that you have some excess supply going on right now. When mom has high...
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  • @llli*cupcakemama's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:41 PM
    I need some help/advice. A few days after my baby was born, I started using a nipple shield because I guess she wasn't latching correctly or positioned wrong. After about 3 weeks using the shield, my nipples healed and I began nursing my baby without it. I couldn't seem to hold her without my arms feeling like they were going to fall off, and it seemed like none of my pillows I had could support her and ease my arm pain. I went and bought the Brest Friend, and it really was my best friend up until a few weeks ago. We started co-sleeping/side lying nursing and it WAS going really well. Now that is primarily the only position we use, and we both get frustrated with it at times. She kicks off my legs, twists her head toward the bed... it's crazy. I try holding her in my arms with the cradle position, but it seems like she doesn't nurse as long and empty my breast that way, and usually falls asleep pretty quickly. I also try to hold her head with my opposite arm but it really wears my arm out and she seems uncomfortable. I can't believe its been 9 weeks and I can't even hold my baby to feed her! I am at my wits end. I've tried watching videos, trying to calm down before feeding her, etc. Formula is definitely not an option for me, I want my baby to drink the milk that was made for her. It is also worth noting that she now weighs 13 lbs, I seem to have a lot of milk and a foreceful let down, and she usually nurses from just one breast now. **Also for the last...
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  • @llli*nikitamarlay's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:32 PM
    I do offer to feed him at least every two hours, more if he wakes up during the night or if he seems even slightly interested. He is VERY distracted. i try to take him to a dark quiet room but even there he is distracted most of the time. I think they use the WHO charts, but I'm not positive. Weight History: 7/28 7 lbs 14 oz 7/31 7 lbs 4.5 oz 8/2 7 lbs 7.5 oz 8/5 7 lbs 7.5 oz 8/8 7 lbs 11.5 oz
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:01 PM
    Don't beat yourself up! You can only do what you can do with the knowledge you have at the time! I'm glad the ties have been found and sorted and that feeding is better!
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:07 PM
    YAY and good that your case was one of the ones where an immediate difference was obvious. It is such a shame that so few pediatricians seem to know anything about breastfeeding. It is really hard to deal with some of these issues when the Doctors give less than helpful advice since we are so conditioned to trust the doctors.
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  • @llli*tinamanni's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:54 PM
    Update - 3 pediatricians have said that he doesn't have a lip or tongue tie. Well we were still struggling so I contacted Dr. Kotlow (http://www.mommypotamus.com/how-to-diagnose-tongue-and-lip-ties/) and he said that my guy does. So, I took him to an ENT and he clipped both lip tie and posterior tongue tie yesterday. He is getting milk now! It was immediately different. Now I'm beating myself up for listening to the 3 pediatricians.
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  • @llli*momager's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:47 PM
    Thanks @llli*katienjohnny, it makes me feel much better! I appreciate your reply. She started to go down to one nap per day so I will just keep on nursing and pray that supply keeps up.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:17 PM
    Great news! So to your question, it appears baby is taking much less supplement now. So I think you can definitely reduce pumping frequency. Basically a mom with normal milk production (no need to increase it) only needs to pump enough to meet the amount of expressed milk or formula baby is supplemented. If baby is not being supplemented at all, (is exclusively breasted) then no pumping is needed. It sounds like you may actually have a slight overproduction at this point, so you will probably want to wean yourself gradually from pumping, so you do not get overfull or engorged. And of course if you become concerned about your production again, you can always increase the pumping frequency. One nice thing about not worrying about pumping after every session is that if baby seems to want more, you can simply offer to nurse more, rather than offering the bottle. While it appears to be working well for you so far, and I am not one to argue with success, whether a baby wants a bottle after nursing or not is not considered an accurate indicator that baby is not getting enough. I suggest, use that info, but also watch output and maybe have baby weighed every two weeks or so to be sure all is going well as you wean off the bottle feedings.
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  • @llli*eltrix's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:29 PM
    Radrad8888, you are not alone! I am so glad you commented because this stuff is hard. Your baby is SO young, with so much time to learn, I think the odds of success for you must be very high. You're still at the stage where it seems like almost everyone is trying to resolve some issue or other. Maddieb, thanks so much for your sympathy and advice. I'm happy to update that all of a sudden, on Thursday baby started making SO much progress, being willing to switch sides multiple times, open his mouth to latch, and even start doing full feedings at the breast. (I'm testing whether he gets enough by seeing if he will take a bottle when he seems done, or whether he keeps his mouth shut, and sometimes it's one, sometimes the other.) He went from taking 19-20 oz of expressed milk per day on average, to taking only 11.5 yesterday, and only 3 since midnight last night. I could not be more thrilled! I don't think it's anything I did, either - I went to a support group to get help with laid back positioning and nipple shield use, but he's still not interested in either of those most of the time. It seems to be all him, maybe he did hit that 6-8 week progress and just start figuring it out. I hope this means that an end is in sight. One last question: I'd been pumping after almost every feeding, an average of 9-11 times a day, to keep my supply up and get milk for his bottles, because when he was 2 weeks old he was not transferring milk well and my suply was low. The LC at the...
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  • @llli*mango.lily's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:06 AM
    Hi Maddieb, Thank you very much for the tips on increasing milk production! Yes, I really do want some hands on help to get a good latch. As you said, there's only so much I can try by myself. I've seen lactation specialists in the hospital several times and got some tips from them. But even at the hospital, with her help, we couldn't get a good latch. The nipple still got flat and hurt a little bit. Now I think my last straw will be IBCLC or the group Erin mentioned. I've contacted them and hopefully will hear back soon. :-)
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  • @llli*mango.lily's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:59 AM
    Hi Erin, Thank you very much for the encouraging words! I really need it at this down time! That website looks very helpful. I will try to get in touch with them. I've seen lactation specialists in the hospital several times and got some tips from them. But even at the hospital, with her help, I couldn't get a good latch. The nipple still got flat and hurt a little bit. I'd love to see an IBCLC. There's only one in Stockholm area listed on the website. I've contacted her, but haven't heard back yet :-(
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  • @llli*mommytotwo11's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:59 AM
    Hello. My son is 5 weeks, 4 days old. He is up 4 pounds from his birth weight and has been ebf (on demand) since birth. I have noticed his eating habits are much different than my first; he usually only eats from one side and the feedings range from 7-12 minutes. Sometimes he will nurse from both sides as well. Many times he falls asleep while nursing. I always alternate sides after a feeding too. I know it is normal for breasts to not feel full as your body begins to regulate feedings and I have not experienced fullness in my breasts, and last night, he was very fussy and my husband gave him formula and he ate 4 ounces and slept a good 3 hours (while nursing we are on a 1.5-2 hour schedule and night). I was devastated when he ate so much formula and now am thinking maybe my evening supply is low? He is gaining weight well, has the normal amounts of wet diapers (10-12 per day) and has regular bowel movements. We have also been dealing with some spit up issues. Sometimes is a small amount, but sometimes, he spits up a lot (it almost looks like a whole feeding). He doesn't show signs of any pain when he does and the doctor was not concerned, but sometimes it feels like after he spits up so much, his tummy feels empty quicker. I have not been pumping because I plan on being with the baby and didn't see the need to, but now I'm second guessing my decision. Could my supply be low? Should I be pumping after a feeding? And if so, do I pump after he eats from...
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