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  • @llli*rosesmum's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:22 AM
    My baby will be 3 months in 5 days and in a week and a half I'll be returning to work. I'll be gone for 10 hours a day 3 days a week. For the next two months she will be cared for in my house by my mum. We use the tommee tippee bottles and were wondering if we should continue using the slow flow nipples or up it to the medium flow 3month ones? Also, right now she tends to eat every 1-2 hours, do you think it will be fine to just leave 5 3oz bottles or do you think I should leave more bottles or milk or both? (I currently do not have any supply issues and have a large freezer supply (100+ozs)- so no worries there if you think I should leave more). Thanks!
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  • @llli*liz.g.autry's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:57 PM
    Well my ongoing adventure in pumping and breastfeeding continues. My little girl is almost 2 weeks adjusted (15 weeks actual) and I'm getting to the end of my rope as far as pumping goes. I'm just so sick that every two hours I have to put her down to spend 30 minutes pumping. She'll be wide awake and looking around and I have to put her down. I can't delay because that will mess up when I can try to put her to breast next. I've read about some mom's who have had success setting aside a couple of days where the baby just breastfeeds, no bottles. Basically a breastfeeding boot camp. I'm debating whether that is something I want to try with my little one. I still struggle with low supply, pumping a total of 350mL in addition to 4-5 breastfeeding sessions a day. Her latch is rather lazy, she won't open up wide and once she's on milk is constantly dribbling out the side of her mouth. I managed to get her to latch properly yesterday for the first time, no leakage and a good 5 minutes of good deep swallows. She has an upper lip tie. I was concerned she might also have a posterior tongue tie, but our pediatrician said no. He just went by looks though so I'm not so sure. She's still young and has only just started really letting us know if we're late to a feeding. She's also showing nipple preference, if I offer her my breast first she'll chomp and pull and fuss. I have an SNS system but I've only used it a handful of times, it's just so fiddly. I'm just reaching a...
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  • @llli*chandy.ferren's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:40 AM
    Hi Everyone I am trying to wean my daughter by her first Birthday if possible She is 8 months at the moment and I just started her on solids. I am trying to become a Gestational Surrogate and was told I needed to have her weaned before I start the medsbbecause they could harm her. She is still going to be getting breast milk from amazing Doners and from the bottle I hope to keep her on breast milk as long as possible just can't ebf her after Feb any help would be amazing!!!
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  • @llli*lvander's Avatar
    Today, 01:09 AM
    I nurse my 3mo(15 weeks) on demand all day. I am ebf and rarely use bm bottles unless leaving her with my parents. She eats every two hours for about 5 minutes at a time. My question is.. Is there anyway to get her to sleep longer hours at night? She goes to sleep around 830-9 and wakes up every three hours to eat. Again, she's very quick to eat and goes right back to sleep but once I'm up, its difficult to go back to sleep knowing she'll be back up in a few hours. TIA
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  • @llli*jhoff's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:04 PM
    I am exclusively pumping for my son- he is almost 7 weeks old. He has trouble extending his tongue past his gums while nursing due to a tongue tie (which is getting fixed in 3 weeks so we can try breastfeeding again). We tried breastfeeding for 4 days and he would demand to nurse every 15 minutes or so and he literally gnawed the skin off of my nipples. It took 3 weeks for them to heal and I used pumping to keep feeding him and to help with the engorgement. I am currently pumping about 10+ oz a session roughly every 4-5 hours. If I pump more then my supply easily goes to 12+ oz a session. My son drinks around 4 oz every hour or 2 hours, depending on his mood. He has gone from 7 lbs 5 oz to almost 12 lbs in 6 weeks. We always have issues with gas after feedings and he gets explosive orange - ish to yellow - ish poops that are kind of slimy looking (they also have specks of what I presume is the milk fat in them). When he's not blowing out his size 2 diaper 2-3 times a day, he has totally watery yellowish poop that is sometimes streaked with a little bit of watery dark green. The constant poop leaking out means he has a persistent diaper rash that started from around 3 weeks. He also pulls away from the bottle and cries, arches his back, and constantly dribbles milk. Recently he's started to have bubbling drool on his lips. I've kept the diaper rash under control with cream and constant changing, but the redness won't go away. I'm also currently being treated for thrush...
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  • @llli*sprocket's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:03 AM
    I nurse my 2.5 year old upon waking and down to sleep at night in weekdays and at night and naptime on weekends. I have been away from her overnight before. When she was one I would pump before bed and in the morning but since she turned two I have been away for 24 hours with no pumping a couple of times and have not felt uncomfortable. I have to go away for 3 or 4 nights soon and I am afraid that my daughter will stop nursing. It is for a work trip and I would feel bad if a stupid work trip ended our breastfeeding relationship. I also wonder though if she stopped nursing due to being apart for a few days, maybe it would be because she was ready to and would have soon anyway? I do have thoughts about being ready to stop myself mainly because her latch has become shallow and it is a bit uncomfortable for me. I just wondered if anyone had an thoughts or experiences to share. I am wondering--if I want to keep my milk going is it important to pump? It didn't seem to matter the other times I've been away but this is a much longer trip by comparison. If I don't feel uncomfortably full after 24 hours without nursing is is still possible that I will after two or three days and need to pump for comfort? I think about the possibility of pumping while I am on this trip and I just cringe!!
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  • @llli*lulamb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:16 AM
    I would like to recommend the book "Nursing Strike - when your baby refuses to breastfeed", available on Amazon. It's short and to the point. It contains tips on alternative breast milk feeding methods and maintaining milk supply.
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:01 PM
    And just like that, as if in the blink of an eye, DS and I have been nursing for 3 years! :D My little lactivore is, by my calculations, only just in the last 2 or 3 months getting a little over half of his nutrition from fresh, mostly organic, whole foods. For anyone nursing a child who refuses to eat, this is my sweet boy who effectively only nursed until 2.25. The transition to solids will happen on your child's time. I managed to fill in his nutrition with a perfect food I make in my own body (that's a superpower, if you ask me!) thanks to domperidone from 13 months until the transition began in earnest. We now nurse anywhere from (I'd hazard) 6 to 8 times per day, sometimes as many as 10 times, with a few feeds overnight for good measure. DS has yet to STTN. Tonight, before going to bed, DS hugged my breasts and said, "I love you boobs!" I feel incredibly proud and empowered when I look at my amazing 3 year old (!) son because: A) I see a thriving, happy boy
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  • @llli*seattlemama's Avatar
    Today, 03:06 AM
    My 9.5mo boy has been very distractible since about 4-5mo and has gotten worse - I get it, all new milestones makes them that way. My problem is that nursing him has been a constant challenge since then and keeps getting harder. It became harder to nurse him without getting distracted and so I made his room darker and boring while nursing. It was still hard to nurse him without playing latch on latch off during the day and slowly he reduced the amount of time he would stay latched. Ok, I get that they get more and more efficient at nursing, but latching for just 2-3 min only at times? I mean c'mon how much could you be getting in that much?. Then a point came when he would only nurse before naps and during midnight wake-ups. And I learned to be ok with that as I'm a sahm. But now he's not giving me that either! He sometimes wakes up in the middle of the night and I wake up to go nurse him, and guess what - he doesn't want it! He just plays around and falls back to sleep sometimes after an hour or two, and then I have to wait till he wakes up again so I can feed him. And if he wakes up in the morning after that, then he doesn't want it either, or might take for just a short session! I'm losing it here, as I passionately want to breastfeed him for a long term, and this way its stressing me out. I mean every nursing session, I'm crossing my fingers that he stays latched on, and then I'm stresses as I never know when his next nursing session would be. He's not on a lot of solids...
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  • @llli*tomzgirl's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:31 PM
    Hi, there! I'm reaching out to see if there are any like-minded gals on this page. I've never been pregnant, but we are hoping to adopt a newborn soon, and I want to BF. I've read encouraging things about adoptive moms having success with induced lactation, so I plan to start pumping soon and see what happens. I'd be grateful for any advice, support and/or experiences you've had to help me on this journey!
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 05:36 AM
    I agree with the PP Suddenly cutting out all bottles and only breastfeeding seems a bit premature and probably not safe for baby or maybe even you until you can confirm that baby is ABLE to get enough milk by breastfeeding and that your supply is enough. I would quit trying to "fill up" before breastfeeding. Nursing at every feeding is going to be better for your supply. What pump are you using? how much do you get at each pumping session? How long do you pump at each session? Are you doing massage, compressions and hand expression as well? Doing the feed/supplement/pump at most if not all feedings is going to be exhausting so you may not be able to keep it up for long but if you can manage it for three days, you may well see an increase in your supply. And if Daddy can handle the bottles while you pump it will be a little better. Or if you can manage to use the SNS it will save a step. Then hopefully if you are able to do the nurse/supplement/pump thing for a while and get to the point where you can pump enough to fill all the bottles, then you might be able to start reducing the amount of bottles and just let baby nurse more while you reduce the pumping sessions. The Idea of a nursing vacation to increase supply is generally geared for working moms who are having trouble keeping up with their supply while pumping at work and since baby is generally better at removing milk, having baby nurse lots over a long weekend can often boost supply back up since...
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 03:56 AM
    One website that I and others have found helpful in understanding normal infant sleep behaviors is the blog Evolutionary Parenting. This particular set of articles was written with a few coauthors, and was dually published in psychologytoday. Here is a link to the first article, and I'm pretty sure links to the next are at the bottom: http://evolutionaryparenting.com/normal-infant-sleep-part-i/ In terms of 'when do babies...' and particularly in re sleep, I think there might just be way too much variation in between kiddos and circumstances to say. For what it's worth (and I think comparisons in this arena are unfortunately not worth much!), my baby started having one 4-5 hour stretch somewhere around 3-4 months. This has not stayed constant, with there being a RARE allthewaythrough, and much more frequent upmorefrequently's. What has worked for me was just trying to roll with it... Best of luck, mama!
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  • @llli*nursingmama1020's Avatar
    Today, 02:15 AM
    Thank you so much for all of the advice! I will look into safe co sleeping for sure!
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  • @llli*lvander's Avatar
    Today, 01:24 AM
    As of right now, she's in a cosleeper right next to our bed. I usually pull her into bed when she wakes at 4-5am and doesn't want to go back in her cosleeper. She'll sleep in my bed with me till about 8:30am so that's nice. I dont mind feeding her that often if that's normal for a three month old. When she was younger she would sleep for a 5 hour stretch at night. When do they usually go a little longer?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 01:18 AM
    This is normal sleep cycle for a three month old. If you are not bedsharing, is that something you would feel comfortable considering? Make sure you know the issues of safety. See: http://www.llli.org/sweetsleepbook/thesafesleepseven and http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000001Tear_offs/bedsharing_quickstart.pdf and http://www.llli.org/sweetsleepbook/tearsheets and the book Sweet Sleep for more info. Other ideas for getting more sleep: Nap when baby naps. If you have someone else there at night, ask them to take baby once or twice overnight to see if baby will settle without nursing. Even if baby will not, them being comforted for a bit by someone else may get you a slightly longer sleep stretch.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 01:05 AM
    I think the problem is the idea of suddenly stopping all bottles (and pumping?) You do not mention how much (ounces) baby is supplemented currently, but based on that schedule it appears baby is at least half supplemented if not more? If this is all with your own breastmilk that you pump in a day, then the nursing vacation ideas MIGHT be fine, assuming baby is capable of nursing normally at this point. But you don't really know that...if you see a lactation consultant and she does a weighted feed (or a couple) and sees nothing wrong with baby's ability to latch and nurse effectively, that would be more reassurance about this. Until you can see the IBCLC, maybe take things more gradually, starting with nursing ONLY (no pumping or bottles, just nursing) for some of the feedings. I would also suggest, aside from adding additional meals that are "nursing only" sessions, nurse every time baby feeds even if baby is also getting some milk in a bottle and/or you also pump. Paced bottle feeding with proper positioning and pauses is VITAL as over supplementing is death to breastfeeding success, so go over it again with your husband. Also, maybe rather than waiting to fill up before nursing sessions, try breast compressions and switching sides frequently to keep baby more actively nursing. For optimal milk production, you want to have milk extracted from the breasts as frequently as possible.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 12:43 AM
    As far as: I don't know the answer to this. I DO think you without a doubt have some overproduction and forceful letdown going on. But need you DO anything about it, even if the blood in stool IS caused by baby getting an abundance of foremilk? I don't really think so. As pp says, your production should begin to calm down on its own soon assuming you are not overpumping. I do think you and your baby will be happier while actually nursing if you keep doing things that seem to help calm down the fast letdown- and what seems to work best for that, typically, IS to nurse more often, let baby take one side at a time if baby prefers, nurse sidelying or laid back or in any position you can figure out where you are letting gravity hold back the flow a bit... and (when needed only) hand express a little milk before offering the breast and/or take baby off the breast right at letdown to help baby avoid the fastest flow.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 12:30 AM
    Your baby is healthy and gaining. So the blood in the stool is almost certainly not a sign of a severe medical issue and is in no way a reason to stop nursing!= or give your baby anything besides your milk (although one study suggests probiotics may help.) You are only a few days into the dairy elimination. Since the ONLY sign of any issue that is not entirely explained by overproduction and forceful letdown is the bloody stool, I would suggest, keep up the dairy elimination for at least two weeks total before eliminating anything else- and put dairy BACK in your diet before eliminating anything else! Also, be aware that even if they DO stop, that does not prove the blood was caused by dairy or anything else you eat! From Breastfeeding Answers Made Simple, lactation textbook, Nancy Mohrbacher, 2010. On bloody stool: "If a baby has bloody stools and eliminating dairy from the mother's diet does not resolve them, they will most likely clear in time with continued breastfeeding." p. 520 (Italics mine) After description of a study of both breast and formula fed infants with bloody stool the results of which are too complicated to explain here:
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  • @llli*ciantarah's Avatar
    Today, 12:14 AM
    Thank you ladies SO MUCH for reading my ridiculously long post and replying! OK, so yes... I feed DD right before and after work (or as close as I can come), but I'm gone a total of 10 1/2 hours with my commute and the extra time I have to stay to make up for pumping. At work, I pump the first time at 11:30, again at 3 and then again at 5:30. At 11:30 I get about 5-6 oz from each breast, at 3 and 5:30 I get 2-3 oz from each breast, but I'm pumping for 10-15 mins max for 2 of the 3 sessions, maybe 20-25 max at 3. I could get more, especially during the first session. (My work is pretty strict on scheduling.) I'm pretty sure DD can get more out of me than that, too... part of the problem, I think, is that I have a lot of storage capacity. If it's been a few hours, there's just a lot there. Feeding more often may be part of the solution, at least on the weekends, but would that increase my supply? I think I had a little bit of a breakthrough today -- I was always BFing on a recliner and I think maybe the positions I was taking there, no matter how much I was trying to keep DD more vertical to prevent spit-up, were actually causing more spit-up because of the way she was curled around/under my breast and sort of propped up on the recliner arm. I tried today with a boppy pillow and nursing stool on our couch and things went much better. I got her to take the nipple without the nipple shield, even! I also followed the suggestion about letting the milk spray into a...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:11 PM
    I agree with pp. The point of paced feeding is it give baby control- if baby wants milk "faster" baby can indicate that and pauses can be shorter if that is what baby wants. but trying to mimic how milk actually flows from mom's breast when baby nurses, is probably impossible as well as totally unneeded. The physiology of bottles and breast are so utterly different, it is impossible to replicate really, so the issue is more about allowing baby to control the feeding-amount of milk and "pace" of the feeding, more like baby does at the breast- even if mom has fast letdown, baby has more control over how much milk comes at once than when a baby is fed bottles in the "traditional" prone position.
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  • @llli*liz.g.autry's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:42 PM
    My pumping/feeding schedule is as follows: 3am - breastfeed and bottle-feed, then pump at about 3:30pm 6am - Daddy gets up and bottle-feeds her 8am - breastfeed, then hand off to Daddy to bottle-feed while I pump 9:30am - pump, then bottle-feed at 10am Noon - breastfeed and bottle-feed, then pump at 12:30pm 1:30pm - pump, then bottle-feed at 2pm 4pm - breastfeed and bottle-feed, then pump at 4:30 6pm - Daddy bottle-feeds while I pump
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:55 PM
    Tclynx obviously has better reading comprehension than I do! ;) 20 oz in just 3 pump sessions is a lot of milk. Average daily intake for a breastfed baby, per the reliable kellymom.com, is 19-30 oz, and that would generally be spread out over 8-12 nursing sessions per day. You're getting 20 oz in just 3 sessions, maybe 6-8 hours of separation? Definitely suggestive of oversupply.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:51 PM
    :ita Such a good question! Most people would say that weaning should start at 12 months, not be complete by 12 months. Of course, there's ideal and then there's life, so you do what you have to! If you choose to wean, start by eliminating a single feeding and replacing it with a bottle. Wait a few days, allowing your supply to adjust to the new, lower level of demand, and then cut out a second feeding and replace it with a bottle. Continue until all unwanted sessions are gone. As you wean, enlist lots of help from friends and family. A happily nursing baby doesn't understand why her mama is suddenly denying her the breast, and that can lead to a lot of upset and tears. Being able to hand baby off to grandma or daddy can really help when baby wants the breast and mom doesn't feel like she can offer it.
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  • @llli*m11612's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:48 PM
    I had over active letdown and oversupply so my lo was used to fast milk, but we stuck with slow flow bottled. I think this was ultimately more breastfeeding supportive. In part, this was because my mother in law found it easier to actually do paced bottle feeding and control the flow with the slow flow bottles. It seemed to cause less confusion for baby too. One time a nipple sort of wore out and became faster flow without us realizing and it was not good. Thankfully we figured it out quickly and tossed the nipple.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:40 PM
    Here is my experience. When my middle child was 2 years old I took a four day out of town trip. I most definitely did NOT want him to wean, but knew it was a risk. Or rather, I knew it was a risk that the separation would cause a nursing strike and that might lead to a scenario where I could not get him to nurse again. I believe natural weaning occurs when a child decides they are done, and if a child is unable to nurse because mom is not there, and the trauma of that leads to baby no longer nursing, that is not really natural weaning. This is entirely my opinion. I took a small hand held electric pump and pumped in the morning and the evening, in my hotel room, and maybe one more time, I forget. No more than 2 or 3 times each day for about 10 minutes a side. I did not save the milk. It was simple and did not cramp my style at all, and I was sharing a room (luckily my roomie had also breastfed.) I did this so I would not get full or leak, but I also wanted to be sure milk production was not overly impacted. When we got back he started nursing again without a hitch, and I was very relieved.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:26 PM
    yes you are right this sounds odd- It sounds like incomplete advice, rather than actually incorrect.... But even incomplete advice can be very harmful. I am glad the more frequent nursing suggestions helped. It is my favorite suggestion because it is simple and it helps with so many breastfeeding issues. Of course, it does not always help with latch pain but it often does help with that too! BTW once you wean off formula you can start weaning of the breastmilk supplements- you do NOT necessarily have to give baby everything you pump each day...even breastmilk supplements cause feeding problems if baby is getting more than they need.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:14 PM
    Can you explain the situation more? Why are you breastfeeding only 4 or 5 times per day? And why does pumping at exactly two hours affect when you can next put baby to the breast? I would think you should be pumping after nursing, and nursing at least 12 times per day. Is the lip tie getting cut? Have you sought another opinion on the tongue tie? Are the bottles being given via paced bottle feeding? Are they being kept small? Premies often have small mouths and latching can be challenging while they are still tiny. Have you sought help from an IBCLC?
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