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  • @llli*jessiesmum's Avatar
    Today, 03:27 PM
    It's perfectly okay! We nurse to sleep and cuddle for naps. We do it at 9 months. What you've read is rubbish peddled by sleep "experts". It is the biological norm for babies to nurse for comfort and sleep, and the biological norm for babies to be held by Mom at times when they would have been vulnerable If you try to sleep train, particularly this early, you'll make yourself even more crazy. Go with the flow, enjoy putting your feet up and having special cuddles, and get some good books or dvds in. As you already know from the first time around, this stage won't last forever. But it will last a good while yet. Have you tried babywearing? A good sling or carrier can be great for nap times so you can get things done or go out and about, and perhaps with some practice you may even be able to feed in one as well.
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  • @llli*csmf's Avatar
    Today, 01:52 PM
    My first born was nursed to sleep for every nap and evening because he had reflux and would only nurse while sleeping. That confined me to my dark bedroom for an entire year. My second LO is 12 weeks old this week and I'm thinking if I should stop nursing him to sleep. I'm concerned that I'm actually teaching him that nursing to sleep is how to fall asleep. Everywhere I turn, everything I read says not to nurse them to sleep. Or if nursing them to sleep, put them in their crib once asleep. Well for the past few days, I have tried and continued to fail at transferring him from my arms to his crib for every single nap. I spend 20-30 mins first to make sure he is in deep sleep, then try to put him down. He wakes up within a minute or two. Then we start all over again. It's just driving me insane. Can someone tell me that it's perfectly okay to nurse their baby to sleep and continue to hold them when they nap, and that this will end?? He will sleep in his crib at night, waking every few hours which is expected.
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  • @llli*cupcakemama's Avatar
    Today, 01:06 PM
    Just as an update, I am indeed pregnant! I got a positive test today, which puts me right at about 8 weeks. I was going to stop testing, but last night my husband said he really thought I was preggo. This morning I didn't think it'd hurt to take a test, and what do you know.... Positive!
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  • @llli*babybraz's Avatar
    Today, 01:03 PM
    It's SO annoying. I'm not overly concerned about her nutritional intake as she seems fine otherwise, it's just very frustrating trying to nurse her when she's literally clawing my face off! I have to take care to pull my hair back, take off any sweaters or extra fabric, and remove my glasses each time just to minimize the damage. Can any moms with more experience reassure me that she'll outgrow this charming phase?
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  • @llli*jessiesmum's Avatar
    Today, 12:28 PM
    I'm guessing that this behaviour is the norm. We're going through the exact same thing and my daughter is only a month older. She's always been a slower feeder, maybe 20-25 minutes, but now it's about 5 minutes with the same sort of behaviours. We're nursing more at night and gain is fine so I'm not worried with regards to her health. It's pretty frustrating at times though isn't it?! I'm trying to just go with the flow. If she doesn't want to latch back on I usually leave it 15 minutes or so and then try again. Sometimes she'll take it, sometimes she'll leave it. If I get uncomfortable I express and use the milk with her solid meals.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 11:51 AM
    I think that if your production is normal, your baby is going to just learn to live with the new normal as far as milk flow goes, as this change is typical. In the meantime, I would suggest keeping bottle feeding to a minimum or not doing it at all. For pumping, how much milk are you wanting to store up before you go back to work? Many moms way overestimate this number. If you could get to where you want by pumping once a day or so, then you can pump at times milk production tends to be highest, like mornings or overnight. Conversely, you could pump right after or very shortly after baby nurses. You might not get much each time, so you might have to do that several times a day. This type of pumping is also considered an effective way of increasing milk production. Assuming your baby has been gaining normally (or quickly) until now, and you are not taking anything or doing anything that is likely to reduce milk production unnaturally, (such as Sleep training, meal scheduling, pacifier overuse, taking hormone based BC) I think you are probably ok as far as your production goes. Milk production does tend to reduce on its own over time if mom makes too much, but it would be very unusual for it to reduce lower than baby needs on it's own. But if you are concerned baby is not getting enough milk, offering to nurse more often is not going to hurt anything and may well help. Since baby seems to like a 'faster' flow, maybe try offering more often but only one sided so...
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  • @llli*jessiesmum's Avatar
    Today, 11:50 AM
    One other thing that may be worth considering. I recently bought an Ergo carrier and I have found feeding in it relatively easy, and also very discreet as a bonus. Is there perhaps a sling library, or try before you buy type setup near you so you could see if something like that might work for you both? My daughter enjoys the cuddles, knows I won't put her down when she's done and to be honest I usually leave a breast uncovered the entire time I'm wearing her so that she can help herself.
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  • @llli*babybraz's Avatar
    Today, 11:42 AM
    I should add that this behaviour is the norm whether we're alone in a dark, quiet room, or if there are understandable distractions present.
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  • @llli*jessiesmum's Avatar
    Today, 11:37 AM
    First of all, the biting. At nearly 9 months we still have no teeth but I did go through a period of a couple of months where my little one would clamp down with her gums. I tried everything you have, and finally I found the only thing that curbed the behaviour was to ignore it completely. It's difficult to ignore without teeth so I can only imagine how difficult it would be with, but I mean literally no reaction at all. After a couple of days she got bored of no reaction and gave it up. It may be worth considering if you can bring yourself to do it. As for exclusive pumping, it can be extremely hard to maintain milk supply this way, which is something to bear in mind. Although some moms do so with great success. Additionally if you wanted to resume nursing at a later date it could prove very difficult to get baby back to the breast, although again, there are moms who are very successful at doing so. As for bottling, have you tried literally leaving the house and having someone else offer the bottle? Babies will often prefer to take a bottle from anyone apart from mom initially, as mom is easier and breastfeeding is a skill baby has mastered already by this time, whereas taking a bottle is a new skill to learn. I'm sure others will have other suggestions.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 11:36 AM
    Do you think you might be over producing? How frequently is baby nursing? Have you tried encouraging more frequent nursing especially on the side with plugs? If you feel baby is not "emptying" the plugged and sore breast well enough, are you pumping or hand expressing after baby nurses? This may help, although it is a bit tricky as if OP is involved, pumping in particular is likely to act to increase production. But often that has to be risked temporarily so you can deal with the more immediate issue of plugs and mastitis be getting milk out of the breast frequently and reasonably effectively. Mastitis symptoms typically come on very fast, and symptoms often abate only to reoccur. I am unclear if you have been put on antibiotics or not? Sometimes mastitis can go away and not reoccur without them, but probably most of the time they are needed to completely clear up the infection and it is important to take the whole course. If you are on antibiotics is that why you are concerned about thrush? Or do you have a history of thrush? If you are having a hard time breaking up and eliminating a plug or plugs, I would suggest adding vibration to what you are already doing- a personal massager is what worked for me, but some moms use an electric toothbrush. "Bag of marbles" indirect massage may help more than direct massage, because direct massage may increase inflammation. Same with heat. I would suggest direct heat to your back, neck and/or shoulders rather than directly...
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  • @llli*breastfeedinglp's Avatar
    Today, 11:32 AM
    My breasts used to feel engorged almost all the time. Milk would usually leak out at the beginning of feeds because it would be too fast for baby and my breasts would spray pretty hard if baby unlatched. Baby would eat for about 5 minutes (i would hear continuous gulping/swallowing) and be done. Now at 10 weeks, I think my breasts have finally regulated so that they feel pretty soft and milk does not spray out like before. I know this does not mean that my supply is low. However- I think baby is used to the fast flow and is having a hard time adjusting. She will nurse ok for maybe 2 or 3 minutes and as soon as I stop hearing swallowing, she will start pulling at my breasts and turning her head while still latched or spitting my nipple out a bit so that she is gumming it. I pull her off when she does this since it is painful but then I worry that she is not getting enough to eat and/or my supply will suffer since she is not suckling. I tried breast compression and they help a bit but not much and even with switch feeding, she only feeds well the first time at each breast. Then she does the nipple pulling thing again. When I offer the breast after I pull her off, she will take it but immediately refuse pulling on me. I am concerned that she is not eating enough and is hungry because she will cry even after feeds whereas before she would usually fall asleep for a few minutes after nursing. Yesterday, I'm not sure if it was because she was crying so much and...
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  • @llli*etoile's Avatar
    Today, 11:26 AM
    Hi there!! I have to say right off that figuring this stuff out might take a little trial and error because you never know what baby will do! And how you will respond to the pump. :). For me currently, I pump 3 times at work. Sometimes my husband brings my 9 month old to nurse once during one of my pumping breaks but not always. I have a freezer stash, so on the off chance when he visits and I don't pump quite enough for the next day, he will just get a little frozen milk if he stays at home all day. That seems to be working for us as we have been doing this routine for 6 months now. It is definitely nicer to just feed the baby instead of hooking yourself up to the pump, but like I said earlier it might take a little trial and error to find the right rhythm for you and your baby. If you go the feeding route and you find yourself short for the next day, you could always pump at home in the morning or evening as well. I did that with my first baby. I have to run (pump session over !) but I will check back in if you want to flesh out your ideas!! Best wishes!!
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  • @llli*babybraz's Avatar
    Today, 11:22 AM
    My baby has grown increasingly fidgety in the last few weeks while nursing. She's always been a very efficient feeder (max 10 minutes per side), but lately after 2-3 minutes she's been very grabby, scratchy, pinchy, you name it. My clothes, hair, jewelry, face, glasses, etc. Is that her way of telling me she's out of milk and bored? Or is she just being a pain? :) Suggestions welcome for diagnosing and dealing with the fidgeting. It's very cumbersome especially when we're in public. If I'm in a chair she also pushes off with her feet, which makes her hard to position.
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  • @llli*thawingsnow's Avatar
    Today, 10:52 AM
    Thank you, ladies, for all of your input! It's meant a lot and helped me navigate the past month or so. The glasses helped her for sure, but I'll take your words with me most definitely!!!! Thank you!!! I'm reading How to Raise Your Child with Love and Not Force, and, while older, it's been insightful too.
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  • @llli*thawingsnow's Avatar
    Today, 09:31 AM
    First, I wanted to celebrate reaching the two year mark!!! Feel like shouting it from the rooftops, so thought I'd celebrate here. It's been so worth it and useful and gets better all the time! I'm so grateful! Little one nurses about 8 to 10 times a day total, depending on the situation, could be more or less, we nurse on demand for short or long sessions depending. Secondly, I'm thinking about taking a kelp capsule. It has 325 mg of natural iodine in it. Will this negatively affect my nursing toddler or my milk supply? Thank ypu so much! You ladies are remarkable and have been such a source of strength and info on the nursing journey!
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  • @llli*zachary.smommy's Avatar
    Today, 08:51 AM
    So my baby is almost 5.5 months now and I would like to start baby led solids after 6 months. This is all completely new to me. I want to start with things like sweet potato and avocado and go from there. I am wondering about what foods are unsafe (I know about hot dogs and grapes, peanuts etc) and what are some other good foods to start with. Is there a certain age I should wait before introducing meat and how do I go about preparing/offering meat? And should I be waiting until a year old to give cheese or yogurt? Eggs? Can cheerios be started right away? My mom mentioned to me that she did purees with me, but when she had my sister 10 years later she would give real food, like she would cook frozen peas and carrots until they were soft. Is that okay? I am afraid of choking. I don't know about the size/shape of foods I should be giving. I have seen pictures of giving big wedges that the babies hold and gnaw on, but also read that everything should be cut like the size of a thin French fry. This is a bit scary for me and kind of sad since I feel like it hasn't been very long that we have had a good nursing experience, and now we are getting to an age where he is starting the weaning process. Not that I want to stop nursing anytime soon. I want to make sure that nursing does not get interrupted.
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  • @llli*bk12's Avatar
    Today, 02:09 AM
    My baby is five months old and breastfeeding has always gone pretty well. She has had teeth since the end of her third month, but as of this week, she has begun to bite... hard. She bites me almost every time we nurse during the day, and only her night nursing sessions while she is half-asleep are bite-free. When she bites me, I shout “Ouch” and tell her “No” in a severe and scary voice, but she just grins and laughs. Even when I look and sound upset, it has no effect on her and she just finds it funny. Ending the nursing session doesn’t seem to bother her either, since if she had her way, she would never nurse at all during the daytime. During the last few weeks, Baby has decided that she is not interested in eating or sleeping, and she fights against both with all her might. She resists until she is fussing and crying with hunger and exhaustion, yet still refuses to nurse or go to sleep. As a result, we do a lot of nighttime nursing to make up for what she misses during the day. She nurses fabulously and often during the night. She has plenty of wet and dirty diapers and is still at the top of the growth chart for height and weight, so I’m not too concerned with this behavior. However, the biting is getting out of control. As much as she would prefer it, I can’t let her go all day without eating, so I have to nurse, and she bites. Even the rare times when she is willing to nurse while awake, she bites. Often, when she clamps down, she will not let go. She...
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  • @llli*minimuls's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:42 PM
    I am currently experiencing my second case of Mastitis (started last Thursday) and I have had reoccurring plugged-ducts. My little one is 9 weeks and is my second baby. I had BFing issues with reoccurring plugged-ducts in this same side with my 1st baby... so I am not sure if there isn't some sort of trama from the first time that has caused these issues. The plugged ducts basically feel like a ball, that I am able to work down to individual little strings that have little beads that I cannot get to go away. I have been taking lechthin, garlic, Vitamin C, a probiotic, B-Complex, and GSE to help combat prevent the plugs (no luck) and to prevent thrush. I am pumping, feeding often (we have a comforatable lach), I have him lach in different positions, iceing, constantly massaging and taking hot showers to help drain, dangle feeding, and have tried every suggested method to drain. It never seems that I am able to complely drain. With both cases of Mastitis the fever and symptoms came on extremely fast, the striping, fever, and flu like symptoms have gone away but I am still having breast sorness where the lump and beads keep showing up. Any advice would be greatly appricated.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:13 PM
    The key to increasing supply is always the same: remove more milk from the breast more frequently. That means adding in more nursing sessions and more pumping sessions until you get where you need to be. That approach is going to be labor-intensive, but it's going to work a lot better than herbs, teas, cookies, etc.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:08 PM
    I find this puzzling! If a baby has reflux, why would the doctor think that medications used to treat reflux wouldn't help? The way I see it, reflux meds have the potential to treat 2 problems: discomfort, and poor weight gain stemming from discomfort. Maybe the doctor's idea is that if weight gain is okay, there's no need to treat discomfort... But I don't understand why that would be the case! I guess I am left wondering whether or not the doctor is actually sure that the baby has reflux? :eyebrow At this point, I'm thinking that it might be worth it to see a different doctor. Let's say your baby's fussiness does worsen. Why not treat her with meds at that point? Why point mom down the path of more difficult dietary eliminations? It just doesn't make sense to me!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:53 PM
    Yes I do not like having to confront doctors either. I got the whole "low iron means baby is nursing too much" speech from a doctor we saw when my middle child was 9 months and a little low on iron. Our usual doctor was on paternity leave so we saw this other person at the same clinic. When we saw our usual pediatrician for a follow up, he basically contradicted everything the other doctor said and pretty much apologized that we had gotten such poor advice. Breastmilk contains the biologically correct amount of iron. Breastmilk contains the iron a baby needs unless baby is low in iron for some other reason. Your baby has a reason to be low in iron- baby was premature. My son was born via C-section and his cord was clamped very early. He also was not eating solids much at all, but again the assumption that a baby will eat more solids- or "iron rich" solids- if they are not nursed as much is just that- an assumption. If a baby is low in iron, baby can have iron some other way- in iron rich foods or, if needed, iron supplements. In neither case is there any evidence that withholding breastmilk or breastfeeding from that child is needed to raise iron levels. This article covers the iron guidelines from the AAP. As far as I can see, reducing breastfeeding is not one of the recommendations from the AAP when a baby is low in iron. http://babygooroo.com/2010/10/aap-releases-new-guidelines-for-preventing-iron-deficiency-anemia/
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:24 PM
    Hi and welcome. Wow that sounds like a really nasty experience with the abscess. Ugh. PP has excellent questions it would help to know the answer to. I have a few more, sorry. - when you say baby is "sleeping through the night" can you please explain what that means- how many hours? How long has baby been doing this? Also, is baby nursing during that time but staying asleep, or are you pumping during that time? Babies this age do not typically sleep long stretches. Once a day of 4-6 hours is about all a 6 week old is usually going to sleep at one time, and many babies do not even do that yet. Babies need to eat frequently and milk removal has to happen frequently, and that includes overnight. - Baby cannot nursing on one side- is this since the abscess? or before as well? I do not want to pry but I am wondering if your nipple shape is really one no baby could latch onto, or if you just need more help with getting baby to latch? Many moms are told they have nipples that a baby cannot latch onto when in fact they can, with better help. -Have you ever seen a board certified lactation consultant (IBCLC?) if so, when and what was discussed? Was it helpful or not? -Your husband convinced you you do not make enough milk...do you mean you are not sure this is true? There actually are ways to diagnose low milk production, but it is something that not many people inherently understand how to do.
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  • @llli*juliadw's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:20 PM
    Thank you! She's doing better, accepting the 1.5 hour stretches now.
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  • @llli*crocusb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:28 PM
    Thank you so much! What you wrote made a lot of sense to me. Paced feeding was an eye opener as well :)
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  • @llli*sprocket's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:39 AM
    I would look for a new pediatrician honestly; this advice is not in line with modern recommendations. My understanding is that breastfed babies in northern latitudes should have a vitamin d supplement however. In the winter months especially it is very unlikely that any of us are getting enough sun to keep up adequate vitamin d levels. Have you tried the Carlson D drops available on Amazon? I think Nordic naturals also makes one. They are concentrated so that it is literally only a drop. You can drop it onto your nipple before nursing or just into babys mouth anytime. I would use an iron supplement before introducing cereal at 4 months, but term babies should have iron stores to last the first year or so.
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  • @llli*tinkypears's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:30 AM
    Last week my 3 month old baby came down with a stomach flu that both my husband and I ended up getting. It was very bad and led to both of us not being able to stomach much food for the past 6 days. We're getting better, but still not at 100% (baby was over it in 2 days, go breastfeeding!) I've noticed a significant decrease in my supply since then. I've lost about 6 to 8 ounces of milk during the day (known from pumping), and I can see this during my weekend of exclusively breastfeeding with baby as she was constantly hungry. I think the biggest problem is my nighttime supply; baby is only waking once a night, and whereas this use to result in me waking up pretty full every morning (which was great because I would pump a ton for baby's bottles in the morning) I'm waking up with soft breasts that baby then sucks the rest out of and I have nothing for pumping at work. I've been taking fenugreek for the past 5 days to try to increase my supply, and whereas that used to work wonders, I don't think it's able to counteract the fact that I still can't stomach a ton of food, which I think is what is depleting my supply.
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