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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 04:42 PM
    :ita with LLLMeg. Please don't let the plug scare you! Sometimes it just takes a while for a plug to go away completely. The fact that it gets smaller after nursing is a very good sign- it means the area is not totally plugged.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 04:41 PM
    Welcome to the forum! A lot of moms start out with massive oversupply, but by the time their babies are a year old most of them are down to having just enough. Our bodies are smart, and they don't want to waste energy producing unneeded milk, so they "read" the difference between how much they are making and how much the baby is taking and use that difference to adjust supply. If you decide you want to increase your supply, the best thing to do is to nurse more and pump more, and to do that consistently. Adding in one pump session here and there is great, don't get me wrong! But if you really want to signal your body that more milk is needed, you want to pump/nurse more every day. If you decide that increasing supply is too much trouble at this point, I still don't think you need to start actively refusing to nurse. Your LO might have some tough times as she gets used to the fact that your supply isn't as abundant as it used to be, but eventually she's going to accept that it is what it is, and accept that while she can get unlimited snuggles out of you, more milk just isn't going to happen. If you want to hasten the process a bit, you could offer a sippy cup of milk after nursing, and see if that helps with the crying.
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  • @llli*lllmeg's Avatar
    Today, 04:06 PM
    Hi nivlovely. What has worked well for me with really bad plugs is vibration (using a electric toothbrush or personal massager to "break up" the plug) and also, laying baby on the floor and leaning over baby on all fours and nursing baby that way. I also like the 'bag of marbles' massage technique, where mom gently lifts and moves around the entire breast, rather than rubbing and rubbing on the same spot. Also, cold compresses seem to help lots of moms. Sometimes, if a plug is reoccurring, it helps for mom to take lecithin and/or make diet changes. If nursing frequently is not taking care of the engorgement and the plug, what about doing some pumping or hand expression after nursing or between nursing sessions? Is the plug very painful? Have you had issues with mastitis? I am wondering what about this is scaring you? plugs are a fairly common event and while of course it is very important to work on getting the plug out, they are not usually a huge issue on their own. Is this a plug that is making nursing or other activities very painful? Or is it the fact it's been a few days? It can take several days to resolve a plug sometimes. Here is quick tips on plugs - http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/17_dealingwithplugsblebs.pdf
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  • @llli*zaynethepain's Avatar
    Today, 03:03 PM
    http://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.com/every-again-until-the-day-we-die/ The previous posters have great advice. This is a blog that always has me in tears and makes me feel much less alone.
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  • @llli*zaynethepain's Avatar
    Today, 02:51 PM
    http://kellymom.com/nutrition/starting-solids/toddler-foods/ http://www.amotherinisrael.com/babies-toddlers-eat/ In my experience toddler growth really decreases after the first year and it tends to plateau. They pack on pounds with a few days of increased nursing and eating, then shoot up in height. Would your pediatrician recommend whole milk and dairy products rather than breastfeeding for a slow gaining toddler if he wasn't allergic? I think the Kelly mom article above should reassure you that human milk is preferable. I am currently tandem nursing my three year old and three month old. From the other tandem nursing mothers I've spoken with, many nursing toddlers are very disinterested in solids after the birth of a sibling. Yet many also put on several lbs in just a few weeks. So I'd try adding more breastmilk into his diet rather than wean. Before my son's fifteen month check up, my husband was predicting he'd gained 4 lbs. When he expressed disbelief at the meager amount gained, the nurse laughed it off and said that a lot of kids gain little or nothing at that age because they move so much. He was a enthusiastic eater. People always commented on the variety and amount of food he ate.
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  • @llli*ehoneybee's Avatar
    Today, 02:06 PM
    My Ped has suggested doing this since my 15 month old did not grow between 12 and 14 months. He gained ounces, but no height. He is within normal range of milestones and Ped says he looks "great" but we're concerned with lack of growth/dropping off curve. He eats solids but has a dairy and nut allergy, so all the yogurt, butter, and cheese I'd normally be giving him has been replaced with seed butters, Chia seeds, and coconut yogurt/oil. He was 7 lb at birth and at 12 months was 27.75“ and 17.5 lb. He had been following his curve until 12 months. I nurse him before naps and bedtime and during the night. He eats mainly solids during the day and fluctuates in terms of amount eaten. He ate 17 oz of food the other day in one sitting (rice, chicken, coconut oil, and bone broth and oatmeal with coconut oil and avocado) but other days not as much. I am mainly concerned with his height. My preschooler also had this problem (with weight not height) and nursed until 2. I was also very small as a baby, so some is genetics, I know. He is now at a non worrisome weight. I don't think weaning will help since her argument is it's a meal replacement and he doesn't nurse like that anymore. However, I don't give my preschooler milk during meals for that exact reason, so I can see her point, even though everything I've read says don't wean for this reason. Advice?
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  • @llli*nivilovely's Avatar
    Today, 01:37 PM
    I am feeling so lost.. for the past four days i am having plugged duct on my right side.. when my baby nurses it gets small again it grows back.. i have spoke with llli leader and followed what all she said but still its not going away.. i am so scared... i am having oversupply and i get engorged on right breast very often usually my son would relieve it pretty quick but this time its not working out.. pl what can i do to get rid of it.. i don't have any pain but that lump makes me so worried
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  • @llli*biscuit07's Avatar
    Today, 12:49 PM
    I work full time and my 15 month old daughter has been in daycare since she was 5 months. She started "solids" (really, just licking things and making funny faces) at 6 months and now eats snacks and meals. When she's at daycare, she gets a 2-3 ounce cup of breastmilk either with lunch or afternoon snack. Whether I pump twice while at work, or just once, I get a total of around 2-3 ounces. I used to have massive oversupply, but it seems like that's where my supply is at for now. On days I work, she breastfeeds 3 times a day: morning wake up and twice in the evening (before dinner, and before bed). BUT, when she and I are together on weekends, she's still only been nursing 3 times - morning wake up, early afternoon, and before bed (she drops the pre-dinner one). A couple of nights a week, she wakes up around 4am for an extra nursing session and then falls back asleep but most nights she sleeps through until ~5/5:30am. On a day where she suddenly wants extra nursing (mid-morning AND early afternoon nap; or early afternoon + pre-dinner + pre-bed) I don't have enough milk. It seems like she can barely get anything out for the mid-morning snack. She gives me sad lip, frantically baby-signs "milk" and "more" at me, and then cries hysterically. I feel awful. Last night (after nursing 3 times earlier in the day), I ran out of milk during her pre-bed nursing of all times! She was a little upset at first, but eventually snuggled up for story time. I'm torn between trying...
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  • @llli*lllmeg's Avatar
    Today, 12:46 PM
    Ok, so no, IMO, the only way a "too slow" weight gain could be possibly a result of lack of sleep is if a baby was being almost tortured to stay awake! I also truly believe that "making sure baby gets enough sleep" is a misleading concern, as most babies get enough sleep with little effort from others. They just sleep very differently than adults or older kids. On the other hand, a baby who is not getting quite enough to eat may not sleep well (while some might sleep too well.) Also, if a baby is taking a very long sleep stretch at night, that is going change nap patterns. I would suggest not worry about this. Your child's slowing gain was caught relatively quickly, and it sounds to me as if you have always been very loving toward your baby. You must forgive yourself. For one thing, you were following a doctors advice. For another, mothers make mistakes all the time. All of us (humans) do. This is how we learn. And to teach our children it is ok to make mistakes, we must be forgiving toward ourselves about our own mistakes. And yes it is very hard! Growth spurts- yes, most people agree that growth spurts occur in the newborn, which, for the breastfeeding mom, actually means "baby is nursing lots more than usual right now for some reason I cannot figure out so let's assume it is a growth spurt." But I am also of the opinion that too much can be made of growth spurts. Because very frequent nursing is just the norm, and how frequent a baby might nurse or "need" to nurse...
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  • @llli*lila.stern's Avatar
    Today, 12:24 PM
    You've said it exactly as it is, "sabotaged". :( I just feel so horrible looking back to the times when DD was showing hunger cues when she was tired and I didn't let her nurse because she just fed about an hour prior. :( I can't forgive myself for that. I just hope it didn't affect her psychological development. I have a lot of nursing to make up for.
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  • @llli*lila.stern's Avatar
    Today, 12:18 PM
    Thank you for your advice. DD's weight at birth was 3.4kg. At 1 month 5kg. 2 months 5.2kg. What I am wondering was, could the fact that she wasn't gaining much be due to the timed nursing or from her lack of naps (more awake=burning more calories). During appointments my DH is always with me. That's why we were both confused and disappointed at the pedi. When we mentioned growth spurts she asked where we heard that from and that there's no such thing for infants, only during puberty/adolescence (???). She kind of lost me there. Everything I've ever read about infants and feeding is that there will be growth spurts. I'll be looking for a new pedi. She clearly doesn't care for the welfare of my DD. A good pedi treats every patient as their own child.
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  • @llli*lllmeg's Avatar
    Today, 11:44 AM
    of course it is possible to take 'too much' of any medicinal herb. Also, some moms should avoid fenugreek altogether, ones with diabetes for example. But why do you think you are taking too much? Are you following recommended dose? there are many brands of commercial fenugreek supplement so dosage varies pill to pill. there are also other herbs that act as galactagogues. If your concern is low production, and you cannot get baby to nurse more, then the most important thing is to pump frequently, with a very good pump. For eping, a hospital grade pump is the recommended equipment. What are you using for pumping, is pumping comfortable, and how many times a day do you pump? Also, when baby gets bottles, how big are they and how many a day, and is cue feeding and paced bottle feeding the method>? hand expression with pumping may help with output. http://kellymom.com/bf/can-i-breastfeed/herbs/fenugreek/
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  • @llli*sonogirl's Avatar
    Today, 11:33 AM
    Congrats, krystine, and happy birthday to your little guys!
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  • @llli*lllmeg's Avatar
    Today, 10:41 AM
    Thank you so much for the update! Congrats on first year of motherhood, that is such a big milestone!
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  • @llli*lllmeg's Avatar
    Today, 10:37 AM
    Hi! So gas & fussiness is pretty normal in a 3 week old but there may be some things you can do. How is weight gain and stooling? How often (times per day total) does baby nurse? Any sign of fast letdown or high milk production? Any details appreciated.
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  • @llli*lllmeg's Avatar
    Today, 10:32 AM
    I agree with pp but this actually is above average output for a mom who is nursing as well (in other words, pumping between nursing sessions rather than as a replacement for nursing sessions. ) Pump output is a unreliable indicator of overall of milk production-because many moms are not able to pump much, and yet have normal production. BUT, a high output like this is a good indicator you have enough milk. SO IF baby is having issues with gain, I agree, the issue is probably that, due to your doctors advice to limit feedings, baby was not nursing often enough. This is probably easily fixed by nursing more often! Of course, not nursing often enough and very long sleep stretches with no nursing will reduce milk production over time. Looking at your doctors sugggestions, they appear contradictory and confusing. I would suggest maybe bringing someone else along with you to appts who can help you with remembering what questions you want to ask and in interpreting the answers. Also, make sure all future weight checks are on the same scale and double check the numbers. The other thing to remember is weight gain is something most accurately measured over months, not weeks. sounds pretty ok to me. But percentiles are very misleading and it depends what charts are used. I cannot do metric in my head. Looking back over baby's whole life, I wonder, what is babies entire gain from lowest weight to now? Also, around this age, (after about 3 months) weight gain rate may...
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Today, 09:07 AM
    My son is 2y9mo, cosleeping and breastfeeding ~6-8x/day lately. We just traveled to visit my parents, who have a house almost 4 times larger than our loft and a large yard and pool. DS has been running, swimming, shovelling, and doing general yard work for probably 8 hours a day. He napped twice, where he usually naps once, and fell asleep at 10 within minutes. He also can take up to an hour to settle at night, so this was remarkable. So, my advice is to add an hour or two of very active physical play and see where that gets you. Fresh air and endorphins are nature's sleep cocktail. Don't forget to keep lots of water on hand and have a few extra high protein snacks available, because you'll need them! :)
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 08:58 AM
    :ita I am likewise irritated. You were doing great and your pediatrician decided to sabotage you. When she told you that "Not all cries mean hunger", she should have followed it up by saying "but mothers know their babies best, and when a mom feels like a baby will be soothed by nursing, there is no reason to do anything else." I would follow the PP's excellent advice. Nurse more often, offering even if baby seems content to go longer between feedings. Nurse at night. Take away the sleep-extending tools like the swaddle and the paci, if you are using them. This is a good article on milk production, and why there's no one right interval between feedings: https://breastfeedingusa.org/content/article/magic-number-and-long-term-milk-production
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  • @llli*lila.stern's Avatar
    Today, 08:52 AM
    Thank you for that article! It made feel better knowing I'm not alone and that others are experiencing it as well. I've tried swaddling but DD doesn't seem to like it. She likes to scoot around the crib when she sleeps. She also won't take pacifiers. I think she's gotten a liking to her thumb. I hope the frequent comfort nursing sessions will make her less interested in her thumb. :) She really does sleep 8-10 hrs a stretch. I am worried the DF will disrupt her sleep cycles and she'll get used to the 10pm feed. I guess I'll have to cross the bridge when we get there. :)
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 08:51 AM
    Have you tried the get-the-baby-back-to-the-breast tips here: http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/child/back-to-breast/?
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 08:50 AM
    Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the baby! It's awesome that you have decided to pursue relactation. It takes a lot of strength to try again! Luckily, it seems like you have a lot of factors in your favor: you have 2 full months before you have to return to work, your baby will latch, you still have milk, and you seem to have a lot of determination! I would simply add in some fenugreek until you are at the recommended level. Just please be aware that while supplements are nice and do provide a supply boost for some moms, they will not do you 1/2 as much good as more pumping. The key to supply is frequent and complete draining of the breast- the more you can do that, the more milk you will see.
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  • @llli*cherbabe20's Avatar
    Today, 08:39 AM
    Hi everyone my daughter (5 months) stopped nursing except for one feeding on one side once a day. I know its weird. So I started pumping and taking fenugreek pills. I was wondering if you can take too much fenugreek in a day??? I have been taking 3 pills 3 times a day. Also I was wondering if anyone takes anything with the fenugreek??? I also started drinking mothers milk tea. I drink 4/5 liters of water a day and eat a good amount of protein. So I am just trying to see if anyone has any other suggestions....thanks so much!!!!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 08:29 AM
    Awesome! Congratulations on making it through a whole year of hard work!!!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 08:27 AM
    I don't think so. Maybe talk to your doctor, a lactation consultant, and your child's pediatrician first? I'm loathe to have someone embark on a course of treatment that they may not need, so I'd want to proceed with lots of advice on board!
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  • @llli*jessicahrn's Avatar
    Today, 07:24 AM
    Bsus65 thank you so much! That's what I was insinuating that he can't drink past let down without compressions and if my breasts aren't more on the full side he just chomps my nipple, ouch. Unfortunately I've been given bad advice and was bottle feeding expressed milk the whole first week of his life and then a little after.. I'm sure that didn't help. I've had a lot of struggles but still count my blessings that I am able to continue breastfeeding because some women can't at all. I've tried to quit twice and ended up in hysterics. I just can't quit.. My little guy looks at my with his big blue eyes and loves his milk! I will continue with the pain for now and hopefully CST helps flatten his palate more and move his tongue out and I'm sure with time his mouth will just widen. The chiropractor did a thermal scan on him and he does have tension in his cervical spine so we're working on that little by little.
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  • @llli*designerfish's Avatar
    Today, 07:14 AM
    Hi mammas My DS2 is now three weeks old. Wondering if I should be doing something about his tummy ache. He is getting more gassy and uncomfortable. Today he woke up at 8.30am to start the day with two small vomits and didn't sleep again until midday! He was crying during the morning between feeds and noticeably uncomfortable pulling his legs up every time I put him down. He was exhausted by lunch time and conked out. He has recently started pulling/stretching the nipple during feeds when he has the tummy pain. Which really hurts!
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