Today, 11:34 AM
My first suggestion is to try to stop getting so down on yourself...really. Women tend to 'feel guilty" for things they have no control over, and mothers probably are even more prone to this. But if your baby caught a virus, for one thing, getting sick is part of the life of every human being and it is not in any way your fault. Can you look at it this way- baby maybe caught a virus, but because of my awesome mothering this did not do any serious harm?
Also if baby is voluntarily nursing less often, that is not your fault. There is nothing wrong with putting your baby down so you can get a break...every mom needs a break!
I know you think there is something really wrong, and you are mom and know best. But truly nothing you are describing sounds very concerning to me. There may be a few tweaks, fine tuning, that may help with your baby's fussiness....or this may be just who your baby is and it will resolve in time. Either way, please know that does not mean you have done anything wrong or are somehow failing your baby.
Ok so I am going to address your answers to my questions, not quite in order:
So baby gained quite rapidly up to 9 weeks. This is consistent with overproduction. Please note there is nothing wrong with a breastfed baby gaining like this. As baby gets older her growth rate will slow. After 9 weeks, gain continued to be consistent but the rate of gain slowed considerably. This is consistent with 2 things that are possibly going on- 1,...