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  • @llli*milkncookies90's Avatar
    Today, 06:26 AM
    Hi ladies I apologise in advance for the rant but I am so frustrated I could scream! My LO is 5 weeks old and we've been exclusively BF and had no problems with supply or latching on but I'm seriously thinking about throwing in the towel and making the switch to formula but I just can't make the decision - I am so torn!! :tearhairout I hear about all these people who breastfeed their babies for 6 months or a year or even longer and I JUST CAN'T see how anyone can continue doing it for that long without clawing their own eyes out! I hate it! I always hear about how "convenient" BF is but I just can't see it!! I hate having to get my boobs out all the time, I hate fiddly nursing bras (I CANNOT do it with one hand no matter how hard I try), I hate smelling like milk, I hate waking up in the night with the pad, my bra, my nightie and often my sheets too, absolutely soaked in milk (I leak this much daytime too) and to top it all off I just can't bring myself to do it in public (I have no issue with other people doing it in public but I am not one of those people - dunno why, just not). None of these things feel very "convenient" to me :( I desperately want to enjoy BF and want to find it easy and natural but I just don't ... and I absolutely know it is what's best for baby and I feel so selfish to even say this but I long for the ease and routine of bottles, I long to wear a pretty bra with no breast pads, and I long for a full nights sleep because my husband is doing the night...
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  • @llli*crocusb's Avatar
    Today, 04:29 AM
    Hello everyone, I exclusively breastfed my son for 6 weeks. He gained weight within the normal range (150/170 gr a week) upto that point. From about week 6 onwards, his weight gain slowed down to 15 gr/day. I was advised to supplement. I started supplementing with my expressed milk and formula. I felt that I had to introduce bottles (everybody around me - midwives and my mum - advised that I should do so 'to get some milk in baby' as if my bfeeding did not count ). I had my baby's first 6 weeks check up at that point. The Gp asked me if my son was breast or bottle fed, I said both, then he put him as formula fed! which upset me further because majority of his milk is breasmilk. I decided to reach out for a IBCLC who discovered my son had a tongue tie at week 7. Navigating through loads of contradicting advice from health visitors, midwives, doctors etc, I decided to get it treated. I continued expressing and bottlefeeding him and putting him on my breast even though it became clear that he could not transfer milk efficiently. I also have low supply - I can barely produce 600 ml, usually 550 ml a day. Recently the LC discovered that his tongue tie partly reformed which upset me further although she said that there has been some improvement in his tongue movement. My husband has been against the idea of treating his tongue tie on the basis that it will not help bfeeding. He hooked onto this idea because one of the doctors we saw said so. The lactational...
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  • @llli*capetry9109's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:18 PM
    Thanks for all of the replies lady friends! IBCLC suggested pumping after feedings simply as a way to give me a break if I felt like I needed one. I was having one of those "hadn't showered or eaten, and didn't notice the half gallon of spit up on my shirt" kind of days when I had my appointment. Feedings have slowed to a more regular pattern, so it was clearly growth spurt time for my LO. I just hunkered down and dealt with it. We both survived!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:36 PM
    I know this is so hard. But have you seen an IBCLC? You say the LC said it sounds like an ULT. Ok, so what? I have to say this is the kind of thing that makes me angry. That is absolutely no help. It is meaningless. It may be or it may not be. If there is any way possible, I strongly suggest see an IBCLC who is able to work with you and your baby to improve the situation. Here is the description of a consult I mentioned above. http://cwgenna.com/lconsult.html Even when there are physical barriers to good latch, latch can usually be improved even without clipping with good latch technique and positioning. Maybe not fixed entirely, but helped. Or you may have an experience like mommal. I had that type of experience with my first child. At the time he was born, 13 years ago, no one was really treating for tt in newborns due to breastfeeding issues in my area. I am convinced our difficulties were caused at least partly due to a tongue tie. But with the help of an IBCLC and a nipple shield, we got him latching well enough so he was no longer injuring me and eventually we nursed pain free without the shield. I am not saying this will be your experience, I am saying that even when tt or lp is present, that does not always mean pain free nursing is not possible. I am unclear as to why you have to do breast compressions or why you think baby is not extracting milk efficiently. I mean if you do ok, but it sounds like you hate doing that, so I am trying to figure out a work...
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  • @llli*bkindnhappy's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:26 PM
    Nursed on demand basically every two hours but since like 3 days ago he is doing some feedings after 2.5 hours or 3. He nurses 5 to 7 times during the day and 2 to 3 times during the night. In a 24hr gap 7-10 times. It has been the same scale but always with clothes. He doesn't use a pacifier. He is not sleeping through the night. Thank you.
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  • @llli*habiba's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:24 PM
    My 9 months old son was constipated for 3 -4 days, usually he passes stool every 3rd day. he passed the stool today and it had black tiny particles( like black powder) mixed in the stool. Sorry for being so gross. I introduced egg yolk 4 days ago. Other than that he had oat cereal very little amount of date and lentil soup.He seems fine no rash etc . Im so worried plz help
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  • @llli*sprocket's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:15 PM
    Make sure to reassure yourself that this is not just a scale issue. I once identified a 5 oz descrepancy between scales in my pediatrician's office. One indicated no weight gain since the previous weigh in 5 days before and then two other scales in the same practice indicated a gain of 5 oz (an oz per day).
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:59 PM
    Can you see a pediatric dentist about the ULT? They are often more knowledgeable about ties and less resistant to treating them than pediatricians. Hang in there! My older daughter had a lip tie and either it stretched or she grew enough that it was no longer a problem for us. It took some time, but nursing her eventually became the enjoyable experience it's meant to be.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:17 PM
    Can you tell us a little more about your situation? Is the baby being nursed on demand or on a schedule? How often does the baby nurse in a typical 24-hour day? Has baby always been weighed properly, that is, using the same scale, in the nude or a dry diaper? Is baby using a pacifier a lot? Is he sleeping through the night?
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:14 PM
    3-4 months is when a lot of babies exhibit quirky, fussy nursing behavior. It's hard to say exactly WHY this happens, but here are some potential explanations: - Bottle use. 3 months is when a lot of moms go back to work, which means that most 3 month-olds are getting lots of bottles. Eating from a bottle is quite easy for most babies, so a baby might become a fussy nurser because he is starting to exhibit a preference for an easy meal delivered via bottle. If this is the problem, it might help to use a different bottle, to use paced feeding techniques, and to nurse as much as possible outside of work so that baby gets as much practice at the breast as possible. - Fussiness related to changes in flow speed. Fussiness can crop up when a baby wants a faster flow of milk but gets a slow one, or vice versa. If this is the problem' adjusting nursing position, switching breasts, nursing frequently. and being very patient with the baby while he learns how to stimulate his preferred flow of milk may help. - Ear infections or other illnesses. They can be stealthy! - Beginning of teething. You might not see any budding teeth, but they are in there and probably starting to move around in the guns.
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  • @llli*kafka.tamura's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:06 PM
    Hi, I am having the exact same problem with my 6 month old (it's actually why I signed up today for the forum). She's done this for about two months. She acts hungry, sucks for about 3 seconds, then cries. I've been switching sides every time she does this - so she'll suck three times, cry, switch sides, suck three times, cry, repeat - for sometimes 20 minutes. I feel like she associates pain and frustration with breastfeeding now, and actually feel like she associates *me* with pain and frustration (I might be imagining that, but it does seem like she doesn't have as much fun with me as she used to). She is fine having bottles (I work full time, husband is at home with her during the day, and gives her two 5-oz bottles for a total of 10 ounces while I'm gone for 8 hours each day). I've read that it might be teething, though she has no signs of teeth (she does put everything in her mouth and gnaw on things constantly). If it is teething, what can I do? If it's not teething - what can I do? I'm really getting to the point that I feel like she hates breastfeeding - and I really hope she still likes me :(. I don't mean to hijack your thread but I'm really interested in any replies you receive.
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  • @llli*bkindnhappy's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:37 PM
    Thank you!! I will try not to worry. He has to go to the doctor in 1 month.
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  • @llli*baraboo's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:09 PM
    The pain has become tolerable - it lasts maybe 20 seconds when he first latches. My biggest issue is that he isn't remotely emptying my breasts, which then develop clogs and LO nurses more often (seemingly less satisfied). I'm getting sick of compressing my breasts to get them to empty, as this results in lots of relatching and frustration for both of us. I do semi-dangle feeding, electric toothbrush vibration, warmth before feeding and then cold packs, soy lecithin. The lactation consultant agreed that it sounded like he has an ULT - but her advice was to give it time and keep compressing my breasts while he nurses until he gets "better" at it. I wish I knew if clipping his lip frenulum would actually help or not. Clipping his tongue helped marginally. I know my PPD is adding a thick layer of challenge to this - I can't stand him on my breast and get very annoyed every time he loses suction or starts chomping my nipples. I feel like an awful mother and an always apologizing to him for being angry with him, an innocent baby.
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  • @llli*garsmum's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:25 PM
    I want to share this fantastic article from pediatrician Jay Gordon, MD: http://drjaygordon.com/newborns/scales.htmlHe talks about the very concern you are having which I myself have had with my two boys. They both are very happy healthy guys who just happened to drop growth rates after birth. Dr. Gordon explains why that easily can happen.
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  • @llli*mjanellec's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:37 PM
    Hi. My baby will be 3 months old in a few days and over the last 2-3 weeks he has been crying when I try to bf. We have some sessions that are good but most of the time he will just nurse for a couple minutes then pull off and cry. I try to calm him down then try again and he just pushes me away and cries more. I'm not sure what to do or why he is doing this. Any advice would be very appreciated. Thank you.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:31 PM
    Hi Jen I have no idea what the best cups for a breast-fed baby would be but after three kids I can tell you what I think the best cups are and that is the ones that are easy to clean and are not complicated. The ones with lots of valves and straws and this and that and the other often make it too hard for the baby to extract the fluid and at the same time make them very difficult to clean which I personally find very frustrating. Probably my favorite cups where these disposable ones (we actually would wash them and reuse them they were not completely disposable but they were cheap in other words) that were basically just a cup with a lid the lid had a little spout formation with a few little holes in it. yes if the kid shook it all over the place water or milk or whatever would come out and if it fell on the ground a little bit of milk or water or whatever would come out but it kept the stuff in more than an open cup and at the same time were very easy to clean and easy for the child to get the milk or whatever out of.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:17 PM
    Hi sounds like you're having a really rough time and I'm sorry to hear that. I'm curious why your hopes are not high for lactation consultant? Have you had a bad experience with a lactation consultant before? A well trained and appropriately educated lactation consultant is someone who is professionally prepared to deal with the exact issues that you're having. In other words that is something I would suggest to be hopeful about assuming you're able to see somebody who has the right education and experience. But there is a a few things to keep in mind. Talking to a lactation consultant is not going to do it- you need to see someone in person. That person should probably be a board certified lactation consultant. This means they will have the letters IBCLC after their name. Whatever other training they may or may not have it is very important that they are an IBCLC. Unfortunately legally anyone can call themselves a lactation consultant even if they have little or no training. Of course there are some lactation consultant who are not IBC LC's who had excellent experience and would be good to see but it's hard to know for sure. By the same token there may be an IBC LC that you find is not helpful this would be true of any other health professional- however that is the way to get the help that you need most effectively most likely. Thirdly Rome was not built in a day. You may be able to make a lot of progress with one appropriately length consult. But you will also need...
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  • @llli*bkindnhappy's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:03 PM
    He has been decreasing in percentiles, from 91 to 56 then 32 and now 12. That is why he prescribed the multivitamins.
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  • @llli*jen.r24's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:11 PM
    What did the health professional say about the gain? Instead of looking at the exact weight gain did they chart it on the growth chart curves - are they still following their growth curve roughly? Breastfed babies tend to lean out and gain less rapidly from around 6 months to a year is what I've heard. If it helps any my 8.5 month old has only gained about 2/2.5lbs in last 3 or so months but is still following the same growth curve on the chart so the number on scale doesn't bother me. Is your lo otherwise meeting their milestones, happy and enjoying their breast milk and foods? If so I wouldn't be worried. Kellymom website says babies gain anywhere 2-4oz a week from 6-12months so let's say 2oz per week for 3 months (let's say 14 weeks for sake of it)... That's 28oz, which is 4oz off 2lbs. So it falls within the typical weight gain! http://kellymom.com/bf/normal/weight-gain/
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