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  • @llli*violet210925's Avatar
    Today, 04:52 PM
    My daughter just turned 3 months old, and she is recently starting to really fuss at the breast. I started back to work about 4 weeks ago and was so happy that she took to a bottle well. Now I'm afraid she prefers it. I'm able to see her at lunch and it takes a lot of calming her down before I can get her to nurse. As of yesterday, the only time she will nurse is her MOTN feedings and first thing in the morning. When I get home from work she hasn't nursed at all, I've offered and she will suck for a few seconds then fuss. I have a feeling she might be impatient for my letdown because when I can get her to calm down long enough to stimulate a letdown she nurses fine. I know my supply is fine because I pump every time she ends up taking a bottle. I don't want her to associate me with her sadness and frustration, but I just don't want to give up. It is so hard for both of us though.I just want to be able to feed my baby! The other night I even tried to pump to stimulate my letdown but at that point I was too stressed that my milk wouldn't come in. I'm wondering if I should just start exclusively pumping to end this frustration I feel is taking a toll on our relationship. I just so badly wanted this to work. Any advice??
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 02:54 PM
    Well perhaps back to normal since no poop yesterday. Been eating almost hourly but often not much at any one time.
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  • @llli*oconee's Avatar
    Today, 02:52 PM
    Thank you all for your answers Yes, at the very begginning I had cracked nipples due to a bad latch, but it improved quickly and I nursed for about 15 days without any pain or further problems. The pain is very strong when he latches and also after nursing. Sometimes just the touch of a t-shirt can hurt. He's gaining weight really fast, so no problems with that. I will appreciate any help. I'm thinking of trying nipple shields. what do you think?
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  • @llli*rosesmum's Avatar
    Today, 02:34 PM
    I do get tingles when I have a let down, but maybe you can get both feelings of tingles and pain? My nipples, temp and baby's health are fine so I'm sure we don't have an infection. Baby is relearning to latch since we are transitioning from using a nipple shield so 3/4th of the feedings are with the shield making it difficult to tell a correct latch, so that could be the cause, but my nipple is fine. No itching and Baby is only one month old so no teething issues. I do seem to have oversupply and a fast letdown, could this be a possible reason? Could a clogged duct last 1 month and feel like that?
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  • @llli*julienne02's Avatar
    Today, 01:39 PM
    I have just returned to work this week and had the same issue with both of my sons, now 2.5yrs and 4 mos. With my first one, he ended up liking the cold milk on his sore gums since he was teething and took a bottle after a couple days. This time, however, my son refused it warm or cold for three days straight until my DH went to Babies R Us and bought an Avent sippy cup made for 4 month olds. He finally drank a couple ounces last night and it seems like a great cup. They control the flow, like breastfeeding and unlike a bottle, but it is different enough from a nipple that he seems willing to give it a chance. Many moms who reviewed this cup said it was the only way their BF child would take milk when they weren't there. Good luck and I hope you find something that works.
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  • @llli*sprocket's Avatar
    Today, 01:26 PM
    I don't have any advice on how to wean entirely because I'm still nursing my first who is just about the same age as yours. So I've never weaned anyone before. But I have had good success with her with limiting nursing though, especially over night. We loosely followed the Dr. Jay Gordon night weaning method (see: http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html). We put her down for the night in her own bed but the sleeping setup in our house allows her to get out of her bed in the middle of the night and get into bed with my husband and I on her own. That means that if she wakes and wants me, I don't have to get up to help her fall back asleep. Finally, I've noticed that when I pay special attention to making sure she gets plenty to eat and drink during the day, she is less likely to wake in the night. I don't pressure her to eat anything she doesn't want to. However, I do let her eat as much as she wants at dinner, even if that is at odds my various other strategies for encouraging good manners or eating vegetables. For example, some moms will say dinner is over if they throw something on the floor. Or not offer a second serving of pasta until the veggies are eaten. I have abandoned those ideas for now and just serve a healthy dinner and let her have as much of whatever we're having as she'd like to eat. Even if it is a lot of pasta or a huge serving of fish or whatever. And I offer a healthy bedtime snack as well. The more she eats between about 4 pm and...
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  • @llli*sandra22's Avatar
    Today, 01:21 PM
    It's common knowledge that "breast milk is best" and so many women try their hardest to breastfeed or at least provide breast milk for their babies. No breast pump is as good as a baby's suckle when it comes to stimulating and evoking the production of milk, so it is an uphill battle if the baby or mother is unable to breastfeed directly. Even so, there are many women choosing to exclusively pump their breast milk. I am one of those women, and have pumped for my two children after breastfeeding failed. When my first was born, I was prompted by the NICU nurses to pump every 2-3 hours; when my milk came in, I had more milk than I knew what to do with. After that, I got lazy and decided to pump every 4 hours. Inevitably, my milk supply decreased. It decreased even more when I became pregnant with my second (5 months after the first was born!); when the second was born and he failed to latch on to my inverted nipples, I turned to pumping. My supply went up and down, and after figuring out how to keep my breast milk supply up without killing myself over it, I can provide all the milk my growing baby needs (and he's a big, growing baby at that!). To Make Milk, You Need Liquid Increasing your liquid intake will increase the amount of milk you produce, so drink up on a lot of water! Your liquid of choice doesn't necessarily have to be water, but it's the healthiest liquid there is. If you're like me and don't like to drink water unless it's flavored or super cold, you can...
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  • @llli*sandra22's Avatar
    Today, 01:15 PM
    There are many things that can cause your breasts to be sore. Injury, sleeping awkwardly, being pregnant, PMS and fibrocystic breast disease are all things that can be to blame. The most common reason for breast soreness is nursing. When your breasts swell up and become heavy with milk they are considered to be engorged. This normally happens a few days after having your baby and can be very uncomfortable. It usually goes away after you get on a regular nursing schedule. Mastitis shows up with a number of symptoms including redness, hot and inflamed breasts. You can usually find a lump on the breast and symptoms that seem much like the flu. Mastitis can be caused by either an infection or inflammation in a nipple or blocked duct. This often occurs when you are failing to hold the baby in the right position or not feeding him/her regularly. Rushing to feed your baby too quickly can also cause mastitis. If you are failing to hold the baby properly or he/she is not latching on to the nipple right then you can end up with cracked nipples. This often leads to thrush, a fungal infection that affects both the baby and you. Thrush shows up as white patches in the babys mouth and a pink rash on your nipples that is itchy. If you notice that the baby is biting on your nipple after feeding then you should detach them right away. There are plenty of toys available that your baby can use to help with their teething and make their gums feel better. Not allowing your baby to...
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Today, 10:39 AM
    Peanut Butter is what my little girls changed into around 5 months... As long as it isn't pellets it should be fine. I do wonder if the first day or so he was so used to having a couple of ounces snuck in that he had left room for that and has since learnt to take the full amount. (Just a theory tho). Wanting to stand is normal, being able to nurse it better is awesome :)
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  • @llli*dids.mum's Avatar
    Today, 10:16 AM
    This sounds really familiar! I stuck with EBF though exhausted and am so glad I did (still going at 16 months). A few things that helped: - before introduction of solids, a long feed at 4pm for an hour or so - bf as much as poss during the day - when my daughter learnt to roll over she slept much better though still wakes up now - rule out any medical problems The Dr Sears website has some useful advice too. Hope things improve. Just knowing your not the only one prepared to get up & feed all night sometimes helps!
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  • @llli*dids.mum's Avatar
    Today, 10:04 AM
    Hi all Just interested to hear from some experienced mums about nursing my 16 month old. How much would a toddler this age usually nurse? I feed on demand at night but in the day try to limit nursing to first thing in the morning and then once or twice before bed. She wakes 1-3 times in the night and usually won't go back to sleep without a full feed (both sides). She would feed more in the day if she could and I have allowed her to recently as she has been upset because of teething (I think). Thanks for any tips/advice :)
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  • @llli*orangefish's Avatar
    Today, 10:01 AM
    My son is 12 days old and we have been breastfeeding. I notice that his cheeks dimple and everything I read and the lactation consultant at the hospital says that's bad. It only hurts the first few seconds, I point my nipple to the roof of his mouth, his lips are open wide and it doesn't look shallow?, his chin is against me more than his nose, I don't think his tongue is in the way (though I can't see it.) And he has enough diaper changes. Even if I detach and relatch the dimples are still there. I'm worried that we aren't doing it right because of the dimples. The only other thing is that when he is really excited it can make a squeaking sound. Thank you for any advice!
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  • @llli*holly567's Avatar
    Today, 09:22 AM
    Hi, any advice for weaning a toddler? I am not sure how to as my son still wants to nurse often (4+ times per day). I am starting to feel very drained physically and emotionally and I am ready to stop nursing. I am also still getting up to nurse during the night often (2 times on average) to get him back to sleep. I can't function at work anymore. Thanks!
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 09:11 AM
    This reminds me of my daughter, who is six months old. We also have the same set up- with her crib next to the bed (I sometimes wish we could co sleep, but I can't get over my own anxieties about it, and sleep pretty poorly when we try- waking up panicked, 'Where's the baby!?'). We go through this periodically too. Her norm is a dream feed and one night feed, but every few weeks we'll have a few days with a lot more, and also more sporadically, no waking at all. She's not a 'good' napper either; so I hear ya! Those days following the wakeful nights can be hard! But at least in my experience, we return to the norm again. Hang in there! You're doing awesome!
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 06:48 AM
    I agree that It will get better, however, it will take a little bit to get better, don't expect a complete turn around in only a few days. I originally came to the forum when my LO was 10 days old and I was crying because feeding him was so difficult (I was using a lactation aid of sorts to supplement because baby lost too much during his first 5 days.) Back in the beginning I was having to supplement about 11 oz per day. My LO had an undiagnosed tongue and lip tie It wasn't diagnosed till much later and not corrected till 8 weeks. Definitely go to some lengths to figure out WHY supplementation is necessary so the cause can be treated/fixed sooner rather than later. Remember mom's milk supply is not the only reason supplementation might be needed, if baby is having a problem with milk transfer do to some issue, that should be evaluated and if poor milk transfer is the problem and it isn't fixed, it can cause mom's milk supply to suffer and dwindle. As for getting him dressed and putting him down after nursing. Best bet at least part of the time will be, Don't bother, Keep holding him or even let him sleep/comfort nurse till he wakes up again to nurse again for real. (At this point mom should probably only be handing baby off so she can use the rest room or perhaps shower occasionally.) The rest of the time have a few receiving blankets handy to cover baby if needed, otherwise baby can live in just a diaper, no need to dress/undress all the time. Skin to skin...
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  • @llli*usafreat's Avatar
    Today, 03:16 AM
    can you feed in a baby carrier? while out and about it is really great
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  • @llli*usafreat's Avatar
    Today, 03:14 AM
    I have found that co sleeping really helped me with night feeds. That whole sitting up getting baby from the crib, feeding sitting upright equated to more disturbance than I realized. We happened to fall into co sleeping but when I put the baby in her crib the other night--which is just next to the bed-- I realized I was much more tired the next day. Back to co sleeping and sidelying nursing! (side lying nursing didn't become possible til about 5-6 mos for us)
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  • @llli*beach3454's Avatar
    Today, 02:16 AM
    My LO is 5 weeks and I've had a hard time with BF. I've had Thrush and Mastitis but luckily I have a good supply. That being said, Ive recently been waking up with a rock hard right breast. The lactation lady I worked with said to make sure both breast feel jiggly after feeding and if I feel one side is still full I can pump ( to avoid plug ducts). I feel like I've focused too much on my right breast and now it's over producing. How do I back off enough to slow the production without getting clogged ducts? Or am I approaching this all wrong?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:51 PM
    I will answer last post first. "Normal" latch and nursing is often described as a "gentle pulling." It's a good description, but how intense the sensation is will vary from nursing pair to nursing pair. What to look out for is PAIN when nursing (or in between) or very strong discomfort, and of course, any actual nipple injury, bleeding, cracks, scabbing, or bruising. These things do happen and are pretty common, but they do usually indicate that latch is not quite what it could be. It is pretty universal that newborns HATE to be laid down. This is a biologically mandated response. Your baby is driven entirely by instinct, and biology has not caught up to babies r us. For most of human history, a fragile human infant who was put down by it's mother died rapidly by being eaten or of exposure. Think about it, Primate mothers NEVER put their newborns down. Baby knows where baby is safe, and that is in mom and dad's arms. So many new parents find baby settles best while being held closely by mom or another trusted adult. Snuggled against mom or dad's or a grandparent's chest is where you will find most newborns happiest to sleep. If caregiver is also tired and may fall asleep, there are several precautions that can be taken so baby can sleep safely beside mom on firm bed surface. But if you are doing baby duty, and are sitting up on the couch, (leaning against the back, just not laying down) for example, and have baby snuggled to you against your chest, this should be...
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  • @llli*mommatocomma's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:45 PM
    Yeah, I know but I like to complain (seek sympathy) :). I will try to grow a pair! Don't know anyone who has ebf through this-everyone has given up at this stage. Last night a marginal improvement-went down 8pm, then up 10, 12 and 2, then for the day at 6. Will keep plugging away.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:17 PM
    Vitamin D (when needed) can be found in products that give the daily suggested dose in a tiny drop for babies and toddlers. Vitamin D is a big deal because recent (last 7 or 8 years or so?) research has shown that 1) it is WAY more important for overall good health than previously thought 2) optimal levels are much higher than previously thought 3) lifestyle changes (not going outside and wearing sunscreen) have led to much of the population being low in D 4) due to all of the above, many women are low in D and consequently, their babies are born low in D. I also thought of dyes or additives as the possible culprit in your child's reaction. Whether YOUR child (or you) needs vitamin D supplements or any other supplements depends on your particular circumstances (where you live in relation to the equator and what kind of skin pigmentation you have,) diet, and lifestyle.
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  • @llli*knewbon's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:40 PM
    My little guy had a corrective surgery for craniosynostosis, and we had a three day hospital stay. We're back home and his recovery so far has been amazing, unfortunately I can't say the same for my milk supply. We weren't able to breastfeed since he was wrapped up in so many bandages and IV's and sensors at the hospital, I tried to pump but wasn't able to get much of anything. When I talked to the dietician she said that the stress could have had a big impact on my supply, and I honestly wasn't thinking about myself the last couple days, so I let myself get dehydrated. Are there any other moms who had a similar experience? Is there hope for getting my supply back to where it was?
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  • @llli*minute's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:20 PM
    Here's a potentially related question. My wife mentioned last night that twice she felt a pulling feeling like she could really feel him pulling milk out of her. This was the only time she's really had that feeling. Should she be able to feel each and every pull of milk? Is this a sign that he's maybe not latching properly after all? Or that he's not getting very good sucks?
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  • @llli*lcven315's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:16 PM
    I have been exclusively pumping (6 wks) for twins, born 25 wks & I'm getting mixed messages from my lactation consultants & NICU doctors on what to do for my oversupply and painful, unresolved, engorgment (right breast only, confirmed with ultrasound). The NICU doctors say to pump till I am empty (causing oversupply) and the LC tell me only 20 min every 3 hours to decrease my supply (causing painful engorgment). Decreasing my supply is terrifying to me, as pumping is all I can do for my LOs... plus the process is so painful. I read that moms feed their LO then pump for only 10 min in between feeds to relieve a full breast and was considering trying this. I did try ice and cabbage leaf compresses. I feel like my life is pumping, icing, massaging.... yet I am getting no relief. Any opinions on trying to decrease supply for my situation? Suggestions for pain relief, and frequency/duration of pumping for engorgment?
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  • @llli*minute's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:52 PM
    Thanks for the advice everyone. The new plan seemed to go well overnight. Mom managed to get a good amount of sleep with very little supplement being needed (hopefully a good sign of milk coming in more). He was much fussier during the day (constantly wanting to nurse) though he seemed to fall asleep pretty quickly whenever he started. The biggest issue all day has been that whenever we try to redress him to put him back down after nursing, it wakes him back up again and he starts fussing/rooting all over again. It has made for a pretty long day. Our other current concern is that his output seems to have declined a bit since we started the new plan. He is still having wet diapers (though some of them are pretty small), but his stool output has gone down quite a bit. We haven't seen any major stool output since sometime yesterday though we have seen some crusty/drier looking stool (and not very substantial) output that was almost staining the diaper more than anything else. As far as the supplementing goes, I've been finger feeding some (2-3 times in the past 24 hours), and he has done pretty well at it. After about 20-30mL he stops taking any more and starts to fall asleep. Unfortunately, like with the nursing, as soon as I pack everything up and try to put him down, he starts fussing/rooting again.
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  • @llli*surimono's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:16 PM
    Hello everyone, I was wondering if anyone could help... my baby was born with a tongue-tie, which made nursing very painful, however it was corrected with surgery at 3 weeks. I have now noticed that he also has an upper-lip tie. He has 6 teeth and seems to bite a lot more than when I fed my other child when they had teeth! Is this related to the lip-tie? I really want to continue feeding him for longer but the biting is almost unbearable now he has so many teeth. There seems to be almost nothing online that I can find (although one article I did find seemed to say that lip-ties can cause biting. Though I can no longer find this source..!) Sorry for long winded post - am sleep deprived and fed up! Many thanks
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