Today, 03:03 PM
Seattlemama, you are a caring and committed mom, and I hope through all of this you can find a way to give you and your son credit for how far you've come this far, and give a little compassion to yourself!
I don't have a toddler, but do have an eight month old. She is indeed really busy and distractible. At this point, nursing has decreased in frequency during the day compared to the 2-3 month point (from every hour or so to anywhere from 1-3 hours or so), but increased a little during the night (from one or two night wakings to 3-5 or so -- I count wakings that wake me up, but I guess there would be more depending if you count since when SHE falls asleep for the night). So probably pretty similar for a 24 hour period to mommal above. She has always been a relatively efficient nurser, so things can be pretty quick now. BUT I think all of this is really variable between babies.
I will say that probably 75% of her nursing is related to sleep-times, either while falling asleep, when waking up, or when feeling sleepy, so that sounds similar to part of what you're describing. Maybe 10% is related to having bumped her head crawling around etc. and the other 15% might be little very brief nibbles here and there, kind of like checking in.
We do one time of sitting in the high chair to experiment with foods at this point, and she's not too enthused by it but growing a little more adventurous.