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  • @llli*aurealuna's Avatar
    Today, 08:21 AM
    This was my gut feeling, too. When I am well-awake, this gut feeling kicks in. It just seems... mean. Actually, I had read about the Dr. Jay Gordon method during a previous thread that I posted. We had already more or less been in the 2nd stage of his method anyway when we started, so for a while we had completed it and she was sleeping a good 7-8 hours uninterrupted. However, about 2 weeks ago the problems started up again with a fury. She is now throwing mega-tantrums if she wakes up in the night and I don't nurse her, and she pushes my hand away if I try to pat or comfort her. I have to wait until she has thrashed around a good 5 minutes before she exhausts herself. Then I cuddle her and she falls asleep. However, last night was the worst. She woke up repeatedly even just 2 hours after going to bed. I think she woke up about 4 times in just one hour between 10-11 pm, then periodically throughout the night. Probably she is teething? What can I do to retain the night weaning progress in such situations? As usual, even last night I refused to nurse her until it was light outside (around 7 am). It was not at all easy for anyone. I guess part of the reason I was considering pushing the weaning is that sometimes I just feel really tired of nursing. I love the moments when we are talking while she nurses and such, but in general I would prefer to be cuddling with her in the same way without nursing (like that ever happens! :lol )...
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  • @llli*filmmommy's Avatar
    Today, 07:42 AM
    I have a very mild soreness in one breast that I've had for a few days. Like some post-mastitis lumps I had a few months ago, I've been massaging it thinking it was a plugged duct, but I'm thinking the massaging is just making it more sore (the lumps got worse until I left them alone, then they went away). I have no bump or lump, no milk build-up or engorgement. Baby appears to be emptying the breast regularly, and I've pumped a few times when he wasn't interested in nursing. It felt empty, but I have heavy breasts so it's hard to tell. But I've read here and online that you can have a plugged duct without those things occurring, though, so I'm confused how you'd know. I'm starting to lean against it being a plugged duct. It's at the very base of the breast, almost at the bone. According to diagrams I saw online it seems unlikely there is a milk duct there, but they are not great diagrams and I can't quite pinpoint the soreness.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 07:36 AM
    Because rate of gain dropped even more. I'm feeling paranoid that I can't just stick it out for an extended time because his next appointment is in only two weeks and I don't want us to drop down considerably lower on the charts as I'm already disobeying Drs orders by NOT feeding him formula (As much as I can make him take) via bottle after every nursing session. Until I find a Dr who is actually supportive of breastfeeding I'm feeling freaked out because I don't want the Dr to go reporting me for "starving" my child or something. Unfortunately I don't think I can get the less supportive offices to check for any other causes for slow weight gain unless I first follow orders and totally destroy breastfeeding first which I've been unwilling to do. (Basically they won't be willing to look for other causes unless I can show that force feeding him formula actually makes things worse but I'm not willing to do that.)
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 07:35 AM
    La Leche League advises that weaning occur gently and with love. My personal feeling is that the plan outlined by your friends and family is a bad idea for a lot of reasons! Having mom disappear for a weekend might work as advertised, but it could also be pretty traumatic for your child, and you may still be producing quite a lot of milk, something which could set you up for discomfort, engorgement, plugged ducts, or mastitis. And your child might see you come back and decide that she wants to nurse again, or may continue to wake at night even though she's not nursing- and then what tool will you have to put her back to sleep? It sounds like night nursing is your biggest problem right now. Instead of weaning her completely, I would work on cutting out those nighttime sessions. A lot of mamas here have used the Dr. Jay Gordon method to nightwean their toddlers: http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html. I would definitely try that before I vanished for the weekend!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 07:23 AM
    Welcome to the forum, Foremilk/hindmilk imbalances are the biggest non-issue in breastfeeding. Babies will grow well- often exceedingly well-on the so-called foremilk alone, provided they get enough of it. Foremilk contains everything a baby needs- all the carbs, fat, protein, and micronutrients. The only issue with a diet that is heavy in foremilk is the potential for extra gas and fussiness. I know the internet is exploding with suggestions that foremilk is somehow bad for a baby, but it's really not! Furthermore, foremilk/hindmilk imbalance is (to my knowledge) exclusively a product of oversupply. It's possible you have some going on. Your baby is very young and oversupply is more often a problem for new moms. Your baby doesn't seem to need to empty the breast during the night- this may be because you just have more milk than he needs at that point of the day. So, how do you rule this out? Well, IMO you don't. You just watch your baby. If he is happy and healthy and growing normally, this is NOT A PROBLEM. If he's really gassy and fussy, then let us know and we'll talk about how you can determine whether or not you have oversupply.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 07:21 AM
    Keep trying.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 07:12 AM
    You have to remove milk from the bitten side somehow, using either pump, baby, or hand expression. If you let the milk build up, you're going to lose supply and risk discomfort/engorgement/plugged ducts/mastitis. Healing broken skin in the nipple area: - Use a combination of 1% hydrocortisone cream and Bacitracin antibiotic ointment on the area to combat inflammation and infection. Use a pea-sized amount, mixed and applied using a clean finger. - Hydrate the area using showers, soaking washcloths, or a shot glass full of warm water. - Practice good hygiene in general- wash hands carefully and in hot water, change your tops, bras, and towels daily.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 07:08 AM
    :refusal I don't buy it. Yes, the older shields were worse in this regard, but the new shields aren't perfect. Milk transfer issues are always something to look out for when a shield is in play. Besides, a mom is only going to use a shield when the baby is having some sort of problem latching- and that can lead to transfer issues even before a shield is introduced.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 07:03 AM
    You know what is great for killing bacteria? Sunlight and being dry. Bacteria that live in wet stuff usually can't survive lots of UV light, heat, and drought. So put the car seat in the sun as much as possible- that will take care of anything that was living on it. And I highly, highly doubt that there was anything to worry over in the first place. :)
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  • @llli*brobi011's Avatar
    Today, 06:11 AM
    Hello Moms, I am at a challenging point in breastfeeding! I just returned to work one week ago and am pumping at work during the day. I've got a 3 month old at home who has had exclusively breastmilk since he was born. I have a few questions... 1.) My son has had green poops for over 2 weeks now. My pediatrician is not concerned, however, I want to rule out foremilk/hindmilk imbalance. If I am pumping 3 times a day and making sure that I pump until empty, is it still possible that he is receiving an imbalanced mixture of fore and hindmilk or can I rule that out? He doesn't empty the breast during his middle of the night feed. 2.) To be honest, I don't know if I am pumping until empty! Currently, I pump until no more milk is coming out. Sometimes it's only 10 minutes or so. Should I wait a certain length of time to ensure there isn’t another letdown in there? 3.) To throw in a 3rd wrench, I've got some very persistent blocked ducts. I have on and off tried treatment without it working. They do not hurt very often and only throb a bit when they do hurt. Is it something to worry about if they aren't painful? How can I possibly treat when I'm at work all day and only get to pump every 3 hours? Thanks for your help!!!
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  • @llli*jam-on-toast's Avatar
    Today, 04:34 AM
    Thank you, it went better than expected, she did cry but it wasn't too extreme, daddy was giving her lots of cuddles. It felt a bit sad but I'm really proud of her for how she handled it!
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  • @llli*jam-on-toast's Avatar
    Today, 04:31 AM
    I am not there yet but I think I have heard it is normal for 18 month olds to start wanting more again, so I think this may be a phase that will pass relatively soon if you wish to continue nursing a few times a day and it sounds like you do. I'm sure the more experienced mums will chip in with a more informed answer. All the best!
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  • @llli*podutti's Avatar
    Today, 01:45 AM
    DS gave me quite a nip yesterday with his bottom teeth and now I have a really sore red oozing lump on the bottom of my nipple. I've been very lucky so far, in that this is the first time in 10 months of nursing that I have had any pain or injury. But it is stinging terribly and I am dreading the next feed from that side. Rubbing from the material of my jumper/bra is making me very sore. Is there a good method of healing this quickly to prevent it getting worse? Should I continue to feed from this side or try to only feed from the other breast today? tks
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  • @llli*aurealuna's Avatar
    Today, 01:43 AM
    I have been trying to wean my 18 month old gradually for the past several months. I live in Germany, and a few family members and acquaintances here have suggester going "cold turkey" by taking an extended weekend vacation and leaving the child with the father for 3-4 days. They claim that when one returns, the milk has mostly dried up and the child has gotten out of the habit. For example, my boyfriend's mother says she weaned his sister that way when she was a little over a year old. Do you think this really works? And, if it does work, is it ok to do this or would it cause a lot of emotional trauma? I feel uneasy about it and was shocked the first time I heard it, but the sleepless nights are making her father and I consider it. I have never been away an entire night from my child. Her personality is pretty independent and outgoing, and she loves playing with papa, but still... of course it's mama she wants when she is hurt or tired! :) Currently, I have reduced her nursings to 3 times per day: morning, afternoon after day care, and nighttime before bed. For a while she was content with this, but lately she throws horrible tantrums in the night when I say "no," and no one is getting any sleep. However, I won't go back to the way it was before when she was still nursing on demand during the night (or day). Around the time she turned a year old, the "on demand" nursing had started making me really unhappy. Changing over to the 3-times-a-day was really nice because we...
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  • @llli*jsp's Avatar
    Today, 01:08 AM
    Some of the clothes from Nike are nice: http://store.nike.com/gb/en_gb/pd/advantage-solid-tennis-tank-top/pid-1517414/pgid-10254162 Just like that Bravado top but without the opening doors. Maybe not quite as feminine though. JSP.
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  • @llli*jsp's Avatar
    Today, 12:16 AM
    Those are lovely, thanks. It's great to know that I am not alone in this. I feel as if I have a much more mature view of who I am now and I'm far less willing to be pigeonholed be fashion than before. Time to start my own fashion label. :-) JSP
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  • @llli*esther2013's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:22 PM
    Why do you feel it didn't work? Honestly IMO you need to hide your scale and bottles for a month, then weigh your little guy and see where he's at. I'm not sure its good for either of you to obsess over two ounces lost because of a bowel movement. Again, just my opinion, feel free to ignore if you'd like :)
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  • @llli*runbabyrun's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:04 PM
    Also, when I mentioned I had read about concerns with milk transfer and the shield, the LC said that that was more of a problem for older type shield and it really isn't a concern.
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  • @llli*runbabyrun's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:45 PM
    No one mentioned anything about pumping to keep up supply. At this point, i don't think it is an issue. I am getting anywhere from 4-6 ounces per breast depending on time of day and how long it has been since I pumped. I was actually worried about pumping too much and ending up with an over supply issue. I checked my area for a LLL. It appears we have one, but the meeting date listed is from months ago. I cannot find a location or any contact information for anyone locally. The site takes me to a main page that gives me the info for the main one in this province. I have already phoned and left a message with that person to get local information. i did not get a call back. I also joined a Breastfeeding support group locally, however, it is not exactly what I expected. It is not lead by anyone with experience that I can ask questions. The person I saw was not an IBCLC that i know of (when I searched the link someone provided there were none in my area). She is a nurse with the hospital. I don't really know what you mean by helping the latch but by your link, I do the nipple tilt. I've tried the sandwich, especially when trying without the shield. The positioning is either the normal, across the body one or the football hold. I don't really know anything else.
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  • @llli*dragonfly1720's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:50 PM
    I don't know why I'm not concerned with nursing or her touching them lol. I do wash my hands and sterilize pump parts. I think I am just worried that my pumped milk will somehow be contaminated. I guess I think that bacterial counts are higher in things that sit in the fridge or thaw. This has been my biggest fear since she has been born. I thought about wiping the straps with Clorox wipes but the Britax manual said mild soap and there was something about harsh chemicals breaking down the fibers in the straps and making them weak in a crash. Yikes. So maybe I can give them a call and ask them how I can clean them better.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:39 PM
    Of course you are scared of baby getting sick. That is how moms are. I have to admit I have a serious raw chicken phobia myself. The good news is, breastmilk itself has antibacterial properties! Babies hands probably come into contact with bacteria regularly, yet mothers generally never need to wash their breasts when breastfeeding. Personally if I thought there was a contaminated surface baby might touch, I would be much more worried that the baby would touch it and transfer the bacteria to her mouth with her own hands. That would be way more likely than the scenario you are describing. And I am not even sure that is likely, as your husband says he cleaned the sink.... You wash your hands before you pump, right? Pump parts are washed? I guess I wonder why the concern is about PUMPING and baby drinking that milk, and not about nursing? I don't think either is really a concern, I am just trying to follow your thinking. Why don't you use those disinfectant wipes to wipe the straps? Or just lightly coat them with antibacterial gel or something? And Wash baby's hands?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:17 PM
    Yes agree with tclynx, pumping when using shields is suggested in order to protect milk production (and to provide milk for baby if baby is unable to transfer enough at the breast when using shields) How often depends on many factoirs, it can be as often as after every nursing session but that is not always needed (and indeed could cause overproduction) Unfortunately it really depends on how severely impaired milk transfer is by the shield (or whatever is causing the need for the shield) so it is hard to say exactly how much a particular mom should pump, but that is why a mom using shields SHOULD (Ideally) be closely monitored by someone who knows how to monitor baby intake and milk production. Luckily your baby is gaining well so that is being watched, but unfortunately that does not mean that milk production long term may not be in trouble. See more in article on shields I link below. OK, so the person you saw was not an IBCLC? Was she a LLL Leader or ? What credential did she have? I am not sure why she was able to diagnose baby as not tongue tied if she was not an IBCLC. This is a diagnoses, as much as saying a baby IS tongue tied is. Actually this is a diagnoses that ideally comes from a pediatrician, or dentist or ENT, typically. Although in many cases even those professionals are not aware of the latest thinking about tongue tie and lip tie and how it affects nursing. If you can tell us generally where you live, (generally, not specifically,) maybe we...
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  • @llli*dragonfly1720's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:55 PM
    This is probably a far fetched scenario but for some reason it is making me anxious so I just need some reassurance... My little one pooped in her car seat the other day and I took off the cover to wash and found out that I couldn't wash the straps in the washer...I had to hand wash them. So I did so with some baby detergent and water. The kicker was...I wasn't thinking and my husband washed chicken in the sink before I used it. I got some wash cloths wet (3 separate times) under the running water and wrung them out in the same sink. He said he wiped the sink out with some store brand disinfectant wipes. My fear is that I somehow got bacteria from the chicken on the washcloths when wringing them out and in turn got it on the car seat straps. Then I worry that if I put her in the car seat she will get the bacteria on her and if we go to breast she will get it on me and if I pump her milk will get bacteria in it. I don't know how long bacteria from chicken live on surfaces. Or if it is even possible for it to make it into my pumped milk. Just nervous. So I apologize in advance for this sounding crazy. I am scared of getting her sick.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:03 PM
    Well, today was a little rough (all the over stimulation of going to the Inlaws) I fear I basically forced him to take a 2oz bottle tonight when he really just wanted to go to sleep on the breast instead. All the pumping was easier back when I could keep telling myself it was "only for a limited time" but now I'm feeling a little lost because I don't know where it will all end since going off the supplements didn't seem to work.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:56 PM
    When using shields I believe that since they can interfere with milk transfer some and affect the way the stimulation of the breast happens they can cause milk supply to diminish over time so that is part of why pumping would be recommended when shields are used, to make sure you don't have a low supply problem over time. This site is a good resource as well as many of the links provided like to the IBCLC sites and IBC (Dr Jack Newman's site) and KellyMom and Low Milk Supply.org and feed the baby. You might also see if there is an LLL in your area.
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  • @llli*runbabyrun's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:45 PM
    Thanks! Someone in my previous thread posted a link for IBCLC's but it appears there are none in my area. Warming the nipples right afterward does help. I've tried to bring the nipple out. After using the shield for a few minutes, my nipple is larger (it still doesn't look like most others do I don't believe), so I quickly switch it out and have not been able to get him to latch. I've also tried ice or to bring it out myself. I honestly can't tell if his latch is getting better. It seems fine from what i can see. I also assumed it was fine because I started to have pain free feeding sessions. I don't feel overly full between feeding sessions but he has been nursing a bit more lately, definitely not engorged. I am pumping, but mostly just when he is given a bottle for some reason (I had been replacing feeding on one side with a pumped bottle to allow the crack to heal) and I'll pump one side in the morning, he feeds off the other (he only does one side at a time most feedings).
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