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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 11:37 AM
    So you mean if you lay down with baby in your bed when you want a nap, he will not fall asleep? What positions have you tried using when in the bed? (I mean during the day- if you prefer baby is in crib at night and that is working for you, that is fine.)
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 11:31 AM
    Block feeding is certainly tricky when trying to deal with plugs. Block feeding requires that the breast be "blocked" -left for a time without milk removal in order to get full- so that the fullness tells that body to reduce milk production- and of course, leaving the breast to get full is something that leads to plugs and/or mastitis, especially in moms who are more 'prone" to developing plugs or mastitis. I would suggest that while 'draining' or emptying the breast may help with clearing plugs, it is probably not needed in preventing them. Personally I got rid of an enormous plug without ever really 'emptying' the breast, using very frequent milk removal by baby, -enough so it could get the breast softer but not empty- and vibration. By frequent I mean I encouraged baby to nurse as much as baby would when awake, which was often more than once an hour, and set my alarm so baby would nurse every 2-3 hours overnight. Some lactation consultants suggest that if a mom is block feeding, she can lessen the risk of plugs by hand expressing or pumping just enough to slightly soften the breast even when that breast is being blocked. Genna talks briefly about it here- http://cwgenna.com/blockfeeding.html There is also something called Full Drainage and Block Feeding- a technique for battling OP that is not responding to regular block feeding- basically you do everything you can to 'empty' the breasts ONE TIME (and then only as needed-but not more than once a day-...
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  • @llli*sef's Avatar
    Today, 10:56 AM
    I am frustrated for sure! We know he was losing weight because we were doing daily weight checks (no clothes, same time of day,etc.) on a scale our midwife let us borrow. However, the last few days, every time we put him on the scale we get three different readings! We tried changing the batteries but I think we need a new scale. Thank you for what you said about our situation being "rare." There is so much guilt when you are not able to EBF your baby despite every desire, intervention, and effort! And there is so much pressure to continue even if that means total and complete exhaustion ... When he was losing weight, I was pumping the same amount and he was nursing constantly but getting very few if any supplements of breast milk. I still can't seem to wrap my mind around why, if he is only receiving supplements of my own breast milk in addition to nursing, that he wouldn't be able to get away with no supplements. The book you suggested is in the mail! Right now I am nursing about 8-10 times a day. He gets one supplement before "bed" of about 2 ounces. Throughout the day he MIGHT also get a 1.5 supplement if he is showing signs of hunger after nursing (this usually happens in the afternoon). A few days I have pumped ONE less time. I've noticed my breasts feel fuller and he nurses longer. Every day I have more milk stored in the fridge than we will use that day (I am able to pump around 9 ounces lately). Thank you so much for your detailed response and suggestions!...
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  • @llli*minimuls's Avatar
    Today, 09:36 AM
    I haven't tried the indirect heat or vibration. I will try that. I have been on antibiotics for both rounds of Mastitis. Today is my last day on the second round of antibiotics. I have a history of Thrush and since I have been on antibiotics I have been trying to avoid. I definitely have an issue with over production. So when I have not been dealing with plugs I have been trying to fix the overproduction by block feeding. My LO nurses every 2 hours sometimes every hour and sometimes every 3. He starts feeding at 6 am then 8:30 am, 10 am, 12 pm, 3 pm, 4:30 pm, 6 pm, 8 pm, 9 pm, 10 pm, 11 pm, 12 pm--- then picks back up at 6 am. When I am dealing with mastitis I usually wake LO at 3 am for a feeding and try to keep our schedule at every 2 hours. It's been hard to regulate with the plugs that keep coming back. I have been trying to not pump to not encourage more production but have been pumping with plugs to try to empty breast. However, pumping does not seem to totally empty breast. Nothing really seems to empty this one breast. The other is not a problem.
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  • @llli*etoile's Avatar
    Today, 09:22 AM
    Oh ok, I see you mentioned that earlier too, sorry I missed that part. :) I think the pp's have established that nursing to sleep is not going to give the baby bad sleep habits, but it sounds like the real issue is that you need more sleep yourself which I can totally relate! Could your parents come to your house and watch both kids for you so you can take a nap alone? Maybe just temporarily until you get a little more rest? Maybe your husband can take the baby too? It sounds like you have a lot of support and hopefully they can work with you on helping you get some extra rest. :)
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  • @llli*csmf's Avatar
    Today, 08:39 AM
    We have not been bed sharing because he sleeps fine in his crib at night. I have no problems putting him in the crib at night. It's the naps where I can't put him in the crib. He needs to nurse to sleep but he won't lie in bed to nurse. I have to nurse him in the recliner but I can't transfer him to the crib after he is in deep sleep and stops sucking.
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  • @llli*etoile's Avatar
    Today, 07:02 AM
    I noticed that you said that you have been trying to transfer to crib for a nap, but before that were you bed sharing? http://www.llli.org/faq/cosleep.html That is the one thing that has really helped me get a couple more hours of sleep. Granted it isn't still quite enough, I average 4-6 a night, less than that when we are up with teething and a cold like this last week or so. I really sympathize with the sleep deprivation, it is hard! But, that is great you have help with the house and your other child!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 06:43 AM
    So, the way I see it, you have 4 different issues that require separate solutions: 1. How to get your child to take a bottle. 2. How to get her to take a bottle with formula in it. 3. What to do about the 11 hour flight. 4. What to do about the every-3-hours wake-ups. For issue #1, I would start by pumping or expressing some breastmilk and putting that in the bottle. Formula tastes pretty nasty, and babies will often reject it because of the taste. Try offering small portions, and try different timing. Offer the bottle before nursing, when baby is hungry. Try after nursing, when she's not. Try in the middle of nursing. Try different bottles with, nipples, and milk temperatures. And most importantly, try having someone who is NOT YOU offer the bottle, maybe when you are not in the house at all. Babies rarely want bottles from their moms, because they know she has the real thing millimeters away. For issue #2, once your baby is taking a bottle of breastmilk, start adding small amounts of formula to small breastmilk bottles (no more than 2oz). Start with a bottle that is 95% breastmilk and 5% formula, or something like that. When baby is accepting that sort of bottle, bump up the formula concentration until the baby will reliably take a bottle of plain formula.
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  • @llli*csmf's Avatar
    Today, 06:40 AM
    I actually don't have any housework to do. My husband takes care of everything and my parents take care of my older son at their home during the day. I'm solely responsible for the baby, but I'm so exhausted and want to nap during the day but I can't because he has to nurse to sleep and continue sleeping on me. I can't fall asleep on the recliner because I'm afraid of dropping him or suffocating him. I tired nursing him lying down in bed but he won't nurse in that position.
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  • @llli*florida2001's Avatar
    Today, 05:03 AM
    hi, my baby is 5.5 months old and I'm breastfeeding only. I tried couple of times to offer bottle with formula(before we go sleep), because my baby is waking up during the night every 3 hours hungry. She is refusing bottle. I will travel next month and was hoping to give her formula on the long flight (11 hours) to avoid breastfeeding every few hours. Can somebody give me an idea how to learn her take bottle. I am happy to continue breastfeeding, its just the odd occasion when I need to go out without her, that it would be nice to leave daddy to look after her thank you
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  • @llli*etoile's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:03 PM
    Hello! My baby is 9 months old and I have a 4 year old as well. We did baby-led solids with my 4 year old almost exclusively (no purées) when she turned 6 months old. This time around we have been doing some self-fed purées and some traditional baby-led solid foods. I have found that this site http://www.babyledweaning.com and forums were pretty helpful with food ideas and dealing with challenges. When I feed my 9 month old purées, I just load a spoon and put it on the high chair tray for him to feed himself. He sometimes eats it and sometimes it gets smeared everywhere. Very messy, but a fun intro to new tastes and textures. I also give him big hunks of soft fruit like a peeled pear or mango pit to gnaw on. We have tried cucumber spears, big pieces of banana, piles of roasted sweet potato and squash. We recently started with cooked beans that I lightly squish for him, but he is getting older now and is working on his pincer grasp, so I wouldn't recommend that right away. No meat yet, but we don't eat a ton of meat to begin with. Get a tarp, some bibs ( or go with a topless Bébé! :) ) because it will get messy. I would recommend reading about the difference between choking and gagging as well. There will be some gagging and that can be a little nerve-wracking! I think baby-led solids really helps the breastfeeding relationship as it allows babies to regulate how much food they eat and don't get too full on solids when they should be drinking milk primarily for their...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:03 PM
    Ha that is funny, and makes sense to me actually. Yes toddler acting as a "relief valve" is definitely handy! An old LLL saying is that "Every Weaning is Unique." I have found that to be very true. It is a story you and your child write together and there is no perfect or preferable "script."
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:50 PM
    Not only is it ok, it is a great way to get a break. It's mom's secret weapon! This idea that we teach babies to need to nurse to sleep by nursing them to sleep is poppycock. Babies nurse to sleep because they are made that way, and when they have outgrown that need, it will go away, and if that is taking longer than mom would like, some other comfort measure can take it's place. If you need to be moving around to make dinner or care for your older child, will a carrier or wrap work?
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  • @llli*etoile's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:21 PM
    Hi! Both of my children have nursed to sleep and have slept on or near a person for a good portion of their baby-hood. My 4 year old now sleeps like a champ in her big girl bed and I am hopeful this will be the same for my 9 month old, eventually. I know it can be frustrating when you are "stuck" and you need to do chores etc. but this phase will pass! I second the baby wearing recommendation. It is a great way to be a little more productive while baby naps. Hang in there!! :)
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  • @llli*searsmami's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:30 PM
    Thanks for all the insight! Will look into children's books on the topic. Toddler will start preschool part-time in September, so that will be a whole new transition for everyone. If anything, tandem nursing is incredibly helpful when I'm experiencing a "backup" of milk (like today). I brought this up a couple of months ago to a LLL leader who said there were "pumps for that," (of course there are!) but being as I didn't have a pump at children's museum today, toddler was more than happy to oblige for a minute while baby was napping in stroller (unfortunately manual expression is not a technique I've mastered) So you're right maddieb that there could be that partial reluctance on MY part as well. As for being around toddlers who are weaned, he has plenty of playdates with kids who don't nurse and it's actually mortifying for me when he starts asking to nurse or tugs at my shirt in front of the other moms. I often find myself making excuses or hiding in another room with my child while he nurses for half a minute! Lately though I say to him, "We won't be nursing at _____, so you'll have to wait til we are back home..." And for the most part, he has adhered to this. I can see him start to ask, then stop himself. But if he's hungry or tired (I have to have snacks avail pre-emptively & make sure it isn't past usual naptime) or if he's gotten hurt, then he'll insist on nursing. So anyway, lately I prefer to be around moms who ARE nursing toddlers, like at LLL, and...
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:58 PM
    The RDA for iodine for lactating women is 290 mcg (micrograms). I assume the supplement has 325 mcg, not 325 mg- if it's mg, we're talking about a thousandfold overdose! This is an interesting read: https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/Iodine-HealthProfessional. I found the following particularly relevant: Breast milk contains iodine, although concentrations vary based on maternal iodine levels. Infants who are exclusively breastfed depend on maternal iodine sufficiency for optimal development. In a study of 57 healthy lactating women from the Boston area, median breast milk iodine content was 155 mcg/L . Based on reported infant iodine needs and the typical volume of breast milk consumed, the authors calculated that 47% of the women may have been providing their infants breast milk containing insufficient amounts of iodine. During the weaning period, infants not receiving iodine-containing complementary foods may also be at risk of iodine deficiency, even in countries with iodized salt programs . To ensure that adequate amounts of iodine are available for proper fetal and infant development, several national and international groups recommend iodine supplementation during pregnancy, lactation, and early childhood. For women living in countries with weak, sporadic, or uneven iodized salt distribution, the WHO recommends iodine supplementation for all women of childbearing age to achieve a total iodine intake of 150 mcg/day. For pregnant and lactating women in...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:50 PM
    This may be kneading behavior (slightly poorly directed) and that is entirely normal. It might be exploring/learning behavior. At a certain point in development, baby's world becomes the world they can touch, grab, and pinch or otherwise feel, move or manipulate with their hands. Again, entirely normal and in fact important for development. In other words, babies (and toddlers) just do this! Some more than others, but it is pretty universal behavior. It is not because they are bored with nursing. I would suggest, give baby something to hold, redirect baby's hand, hold baby's hand or arm, distract baby by talking or singing, etc. Not any one thing is likely to 'work' for long, so you will probably have to switch up tactics. For the feet pushing, I suggest try different positions when nursing, and find other times that work for letting her exercise those leg muscles. I would sometimes loop my arm under the knees or play with my kids feet when they nursed if they were 'trying ot stand" when nursing and taking my breast with them. Of course you could also just end the nursing session if it is getting to uncomfortable for you and baby will not settle, and try again later. This is a good article that touches on this subject: http://kellymom.com/ages/older-infant/nursing-manners-2/
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  • @llli*jessiesmum's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:27 PM
    It's perfectly okay! We nurse to sleep and cuddle for naps. We do it at 9 months. What you've read is rubbish peddled by sleep "experts". It is the biological norm for babies to nurse for comfort and sleep, and the biological norm for babies to be held by Mom at times when they would have been vulnerable If you try to sleep train, particularly this early, you'll make yourself even more crazy. Go with the flow, enjoy putting your feet up and having special cuddles, and get some good books or dvds in. As you already know from the first time around, this stage won't last forever. But it will last a good while yet. Have you tried babywearing? A good sling or carrier can be great for nap times so you can get things done or go out and about, and perhaps with some practice you may even be able to feed in one as well.
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  • @llli*csmf's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:52 PM
    My first born was nursed to sleep for every nap and evening because he had reflux and would only nurse while sleeping. That confined me to my dark bedroom for an entire year. My second LO is 12 weeks old this week and I'm thinking if I should stop nursing him to sleep. I'm concerned that I'm actually teaching him that nursing to sleep is how to fall asleep. Everywhere I turn, everything I read says not to nurse them to sleep. Or if nursing them to sleep, put them in their crib once asleep. Well for the past few days, I have tried and continued to fail at transferring him from my arms to his crib for every single nap. I spend 20-30 mins first to make sure he is in deep sleep, then try to put him down. He wakes up within a minute or two. Then we start all over again. It's just driving me insane. Can someone tell me that it's perfectly okay to nurse their baby to sleep and continue to hold them when they nap, and that this will end?? He will sleep in his crib at night, waking every few hours which is expected.
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  • @llli*cupcakemama's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:06 PM
    Just as an update, I am indeed pregnant! I got a positive test today, which puts me right at about 8 weeks. I was going to stop testing, but last night my husband said he really thought I was preggo. This morning I didn't think it'd hurt to take a test, and what do you know.... Positive!
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  • @llli*babybraz's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:03 PM
    It's SO annoying. I'm not overly concerned about her nutritional intake as she seems fine otherwise, it's just very frustrating trying to nurse her when she's literally clawing my face off! I have to take care to pull my hair back, take off any sweaters or extra fabric, and remove my glasses each time just to minimize the damage. Can any moms with more experience reassure me that she'll outgrow this charming phase?
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  • @llli*jessiesmum's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:28 PM
    I'm guessing that this behaviour is the norm. We're going through the exact same thing and my daughter is only a month older. She's always been a slower feeder, maybe 20-25 minutes, but now it's about 5 minutes with the same sort of behaviours. We're nursing more at night and gain is fine so I'm not worried with regards to her health. It's pretty frustrating at times though isn't it?! I'm trying to just go with the flow. If she doesn't want to latch back on I usually leave it 15 minutes or so and then try again. Sometimes she'll take it, sometimes she'll leave it. If I get uncomfortable I express and use the milk with her solid meals.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:51 AM
    I think that if your production is normal, your baby is going to just learn to live with the new normal as far as milk flow goes, as this change is typical. In the meantime, I would suggest keeping bottle feeding to a minimum or not doing it at all. For pumping, how much milk are you wanting to store up before you go back to work? Many moms way overestimate this number. If you could get to where you want by pumping once a day or so, then you can pump at times milk production tends to be highest, like mornings or overnight. Conversely, you could pump right after or very shortly after baby nurses. You might not get much each time, so you might have to do that several times a day. This type of pumping is also considered an effective way of increasing milk production. Assuming your baby has been gaining normally (or quickly) until now, and you are not taking anything or doing anything that is likely to reduce milk production unnaturally, (such as Sleep training, meal scheduling, pacifier overuse, taking hormone based BC) I think you are probably ok as far as your production goes. Milk production does tend to reduce on its own over time if mom makes too much, but it would be very unusual for it to reduce lower than baby needs on it's own. But if you are concerned baby is not getting enough milk, offering to nurse more often is not going to hurt anything and may well help. Since baby seems to like a 'faster' flow, maybe try offering more often but only one sided so...
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  • @llli*jessiesmum's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:50 AM
    One other thing that may be worth considering. I recently bought an Ergo carrier and I have found feeding in it relatively easy, and also very discreet as a bonus. Is there perhaps a sling library, or try before you buy type setup near you so you could see if something like that might work for you both? My daughter enjoys the cuddles, knows I won't put her down when she's done and to be honest I usually leave a breast uncovered the entire time I'm wearing her so that she can help herself.
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