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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 10:06 PM
    :ita Postpartum anxiety is a real thing, and it is treatable. In your shoes, I would definitely want to talk to my midwife, obstetrician, family doctor, or therapist. I don't think either maddieB or I would say that you absolutely have PPA and need treatment. Rather, what you describe sounds like something that should trigger a more careful screening than the precursory "Do you have the baby blues?" question that most moms get at their 6 week postpartum visit. I'm not surprised that you're worried about stress. The idea that stress can cause breastfeeding problems is incredibly prevalent in our society. I can't tell you how many times I have heard moms say "Well, I was really stressed, so I knew I wasn't making enough milk" or "I was stressed so I knew the milk was no good for the baby". But if you probe just a bit deeper, you find out that there was way more going on than stress. Usually, moms who think their supply has disappeared are just misreading normal changes in supply or in their baby's behavior. So the next time you hear that someone's breastfeeding journey ended because of stress, give them sympathy and empathy but don't feel like you need to buy their story. There's probably a lot more going on than simple stress.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 09:49 PM
    No, what you describe is not "forcing". Forcing is shoving a spoon into a baby's mouth even if he's turning away and making unhappy faces. What you're doing is more like spoon-feeding when the child is willing and eager to be spoon-fed. There is nothing inherently wrong or bad about that- it's an approach that works for a lot of babies! He's 9 months old. That's plenty old enough to have solids even if he hasn't yet developed a pincer grip. You would know you were overfeeding him if his solid intake was really starting to cut into his desire or willingness to nurse. Reading his dues, responding to him when he turns away- that's a great way to make sure he continues to control his intake in a healthy way. It's the sort of behavior you want him to have for his whole life- some day, you want him to be a person who knows when he is full and can push away a plate even though there is still food on it.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 09:34 PM
    Are you still nursing your 5 year-old to sleep? No? Then you won't always be nursing this LO to sleep, either. Right? ;) I think the prevailing cultural belief is that parents are completely responsible for their kids' behaviors and personalities. Your kid is easy, feeds predictably, falls asleep without help? Wow, you must be great parents! Your kid is spirited, challenging, feeds all the time, needs a lot of help to fall asleep? Wow, you must have done something really, really wrong to create such a difficult child. Obviously, I think this belief is toxic and needs to change. So much of a child's personality is inborn, a powerful stream that we may be able to direct but which we cannot entirely control. So if you're thinking "My first kid's behavior was somehow my fault, and I have to do something different before I ruin my second kid", I think you should let that go. Your first kid is who she is, and you were a responsive and kind parent when she was at her most challenging. No one could do better than that! And your second child is likely to be an entirely different little person. Meet his needs with the same responsiveness and compassion you showed to your first, and you won't look back and wonder whether or not you were a good mom. FTR, my first kid was a lot like your first- very spirited, very challenging. My second was and is much, much more mellow. I nursed them both to sleep because that is what worked best for me. But I know I could have...
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  • @llli*zozja's Avatar
    Today, 09:16 PM
    Since about 9 months my lo has been nursing like crazy throughout the night. Some days/weeks are worse than others, but it seems to be getting worse the last week or so. She co-slept with my husband and I in our room until her first birthday then I moved her onto a floor mattress in her room. She goes to bed between 8 and 9 and will sleep on her own until about 11 or 12, then wants to nurse like every 2 hours. If I don't go in there she wakes herself up, but if I go in there and lay beside her and nurse she'll stay asleep. But it's just getting to be too much for me. I'm so sleep deprived... almost worse than the first month I'm not interested in cio or modified cio. I've been thinking about having my husband go in there at night and trying to night wean, but I don't know how to go about that... should he go in there with a sippy cup? And what if she's hungry because she's used to nursing all night for forever it seems? And he works crazy hours... I don't think he could handle the sleep deprivation for more than 1 to 2 weeks. TIA for any help/tips/advice.
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  • @llli*rogi2430's Avatar
    Today, 07:56 PM
    Good to know mental stress/anxiety will not be an overall detriment to my supply. I trust our pediatrician, he is an excellent physician. You are right I do believe it is anxiety over stress or even worry. I might look into talking to someone. I know most of the things I'm thinking are irrational. I think more than anything is I need to focus on the now. Things are working now. My baby seems satisfied after a feeding and that's all that matters today. Like you said worst case I have to supplement, it isn't even that bad, my baby would still be fed and healthy. And in the grand scheme of things that's all that matters. Being a mom (especially for the first time) has been hard to navigate. There is no real guide because every baby is different and I just have to do what works for her. I have had a fairly structured life in the sense I set goals for myself and most things I've done have been fairly premeditated. Breastfeeding has been hard because I never know exactly how much she is getting. I'm a data and statistics kind of person. I need to let go of all of that because deep down I know I'm doing what is right for my baby. And she seems happy. Thanks for the help.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 07:00 PM
    My understanding is that stress might cause a slow or "delayed" letdown. Meaning, the hormonal cascade that occurs so that milk ejects from the breast may be interfered with when there is stress. This is why doing relaxation exercises, breathing, visualization etc. may help when this is a problem- most commonly this is an issue when moms are pumping rather than nursing, but it certainly could occur when a mom is nursing as well. But psychological stress (as opposed to extreme physical stress) is actually very unlikely to interfere with breastfeeding much or at all. Humans have been breastfeeding since before we were humans. Life near the bottom of the food chain, running from predators, living literally hand to mouth as hunter gatherers, living as unsheltered nomads, wars, famines, natural disasters- humans have successfully breastfed perfectly fine though all of that. We have had to, for the species to survive and indeed, to thrive, to the point we made it to the top of the food chain and beyond. I think what is more pertinent is how stress is affecting YOU. Your pediatrician thinks all is well. If you doubt your ped, maybe it would make sense to get a second opinion. Because if you are unable to ever trust your body and your baby and relax about breastfeeding, then you are going to be unhappy with breastfeeding- and with motherhood, by extension. Worry is different than stress. Worry lets us anticipate disaster and hopefully, avoid it. Worry in a mother (and...
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  • @llli*christinafromchicago's Avatar
    Today, 04:11 PM
    I just came back to work last week Thursday. Right now I am feeding my son (who is 3 months old) before I leave around 6-730am. I am pumping twice a day. In the morning at 10-1030am and then around 2:30pm-3pm. It gives me four bottles of 3-5 oz each. But I'm feeling kind of stressed. My boss has told me that I need to swipe out (because I can't do it on company time) and thinking about making up that time I'm pumping has me feeling stressed. I don't want to stop breastfeeding. But I'm only A week in of pumping at work and feeling discouraged. Tips, good vibes and kind words needed. *I've already got a stock pile at home in the freezer. So whatever I pump at work adds on to that. :sigh
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  • @llli*rogi2430's Avatar
    Today, 03:25 PM
    I know stress can effect breastfeeding but my main question is how? This week has been rough. I have thought about quitting multiple times. I'm worried...not just about breastfeeding but everything. Most of it is completely irrational but I am having a tough time. I wrote a post a few weeks ago concerning weight gain. My baby gains on the slow side (about 4-5 oz a week is her normal) but is gaining and at our 2 month appt our pediatrician said she was healthy as can be and was happy with her weight gain. Of course I still worry, am I giving her enough or will I eventually need to supplement? I'm using a nipple shield and I'm worried about this too. I have tried weaning her but she just won't have it and it creates more stress. I don't want this to be the reason my supply tanks. The real kicker is I probably shouldn't be worried. My daughter is happy and healthy. She smiles a lot, is meeting milestones like a champ and sleeps good at night. She is essentially perfect.
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  • @llli*kmrs's Avatar
    Today, 02:49 PM
    I am a new mom, too but this sounds exactly the same as my son. I was very concerned for the first week that he was sleeping so much and started asking people, everyone said normal. Dr said their desire to sleep outweighs their desire to eat at this age. wake him every 3 hrs to eat and try your hardest for the entire feed to keep him awake and actively sucking. For me, I would turn lights on, rub his head or shoulders, tap the bottom of his foot, burp frequently, change diaper, etc. After he establishes a pattern of weight gain, you can relax a little more about it but by that time, my son was ready to eat every 3 hrs or less and I had no trouble getting him to stay awake. Hope this helps!
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  • @llli*kmrs's Avatar
    Today, 02:31 PM
    I posted previously about my baby cluster feeding and that I'm using a nipple shield. Im still working on weaning him off and its a slow process. He'll suck a couple times and play around but after a few minutes gets very frustrated and starts screaming, then I'll put the shield back on. Cluster feeding is not as intense. Sometimes he'll eat back to back, but when I posted before, it was literally a full week of 8-10 hrs eating straight. My question is about the length of time he's eating. First of all, I think generally he'd be happy if I never took him off but if he's ready to get down to business and just eat and be done (like at night. Hes fine to eat until full then go back to sleep), it takes him about an hour from start to finish. He's 5 weeks 3 days. Ive heard that feed times will decrease as they age so I am wondering at about what age to expect this and if its normal for it to still take this long. The reason I am concerned (or more accurately paranoid) is bc of the shield. He still has plenty of wet/dirty diapers and seems to be gaining. His next Dr appt isnt until the end of July but he's outgrowing clothes and looks/feels bigger all the time. He still always has milk dripping down his face and shield is full while feeding. Im just wondering if the shield is slowing down his feed times? Thanks!
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  • @llli*zozja's Avatar
    Today, 02:05 PM
    Since about 9 months my lo has been nursing like crazy throughout the night. Some days/weeks are worse than others, but it seems to be getting worse the last week or so. She co-slept with my husband and I in our room until her first birthday then I moved her onto a floor mattress in her room. She goes to bed between 8 and 9 and will sleep on her own until about 11 or 12, then wants to nurse like every 2 hours. If I don't go in there she wakes herself up, but if I go in there and lay beside her and nurse she'll stay asleep. But it's just getting to be too much for me. I'm so sleep deprived... almost worse than the first month :( I'm not interested in cio or modified cio. I've been thinking about having my husband go in there at night and trying to night wean, but I don't know how to go about that... should he go in there with a sippy cup? And what if she's hungry because she's used to nursing all night for forever it seems? And he works crazy hours... I don't think he could handle the sleep deprivation for more than 1 to 2 weeks. TIA for any help/tips/advice.
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  • @llli*linneapg's Avatar
    Today, 12:44 PM
    Thanks to all for the input. He really was the perfect baby from a few weeks in until around that 6 month mark. Not that he's "bad" now of course! I think you're right that he's a lot more distractible than he used to be, which is largely to blame for the shorter, more frequent feedings. This article I found on kellymom.com explains it well: http://kellymom.com/ages/older-infant/distractible-baby/. . It would obviously be nice to go back to longer sleep stretches, but we won't count on it.
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  • @llli*drewbaby's Avatar
    Today, 12:42 PM
    Hi all! I recently gave birth and all my 3 day old wants to do is sleep! He has not lost weight, but I'm worried that he is not eating enough throughout the day. Today we have had 4 feeding between midnight and 2pm. My milk has started to come in and I am feeling very full, but he does not seem interested in anything but sleep. Anyone else had an experience similar to this? Is it just a sleepy day or should I be concerned? Thanks!!
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  • @llli*kevins-mom's Avatar
    Today, 11:49 AM
    On day 1 of Jack's life, I would have thought for sure my nursing relationship with him was going to be perfect. We had no problems, he was 2lbs bigger than my first and latched on right away. We didn't have any of the same problems I had with Kevin; No mastitis, no nipple shield, no soreness for me, no troubles for him. Fast forward. We began blw around the 6 month mark. Jack is 8 months now and he LOVES to eat everything. I work full time, and my pumping output is hurting. I started sending less milk to daycare with him (about 9oz now, down from 12oz, but only about 6oz is my milk and the rest is donated), and it's very common he is sent home with 4oz. He's only drinking about 5-6oz in a 9 hour day. I believe he is replacing his sippy cups of BM with table food. My supply meets his demand, but his demand seems much too small if you ask me! :yikes Now. I don't think he is making up for it when we are together. He is an awful nurser lately. I swaddle him at bedtime and BF him to bed in a side laying position. Nursing in any other position just doesn't happen. It's almost like he hates nursing. He pulls at my face/glasses/hair/shirt, anything he can grab and doesn't stay latched and squirts milk everywhere and I'm so tired of it. Not sure if it's considered a nursing strike? It's awful trying to nurse him, especially in public. We part time co-sleep, and he generally does nurse in the night once. I feel like he is only getting 2 acceptable nursing...
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  • @llli*scoob626's Avatar
    Today, 09:49 AM
    Hi ladies, two questions about my 9 month old: I am having worries that I shouldn't be feeding my son and that instead he should be feeding himself re: baby led weaning...he does put a couple pieces in his mouth but I have been bringing food to his mouth with my finger and he has been eagerly opening up for it..is this considered forcing him in some way, since he is not bringing food to his mouth himself? He doesn't have his pincer grip yet. Is he technically not ready for solids until he feeds himself? And how do I know if I am overfeeding him? I stop offering when he turns his face away....This baby led weaning philosophy has me confused. My mom can't even wrap her head around the whole trend :D And the last couple weeks, since he has been eagerly taking in more food, his pooping frequency has changed...up until 2 weeks ago, he pooped mostly every feed and now goes 2 days between, which freaks me out a bit, as I am so used to changing poops all day...how do you know if baby is getting backed up? He doesn't strain or anything and is totally happy. To be honest, I am a bit gun ho about solids as I am tired of nursing every 2 hours round the clock still at 9 months, but I don't want to rush him. To my dismay, he hasn't slowed down on nursing after eating more solids though, which makes me think he is a big comfort nurser. thanks!
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  • @llli*djs.mom's Avatar
    Today, 08:08 AM
    The rule of thumb is 1-1.5 oz of milk for every hour away. A breastfed baby is not likely to EVER take 6 oz in a feeding. It sounds like they are feeding your baby like a formula fed baby. Don't allow it. If you are away from the baby for 8hours? The outside most should be 16oz. And that 2oz an hour which is OVER the recommended amount an hour by half an oz. And send them in 4oz bottles. 6-7 oz a bottle is NOT a recommendation for a breast fed baby. It's just not. And it may be a difficult transition back. But you need to tell them that he doesn't need to be fed every time he cries either. He may want to be held or walked around. But this is an area where you want to be firm and advocate for yourself and your child. Because women being told by daycare that they "aren't keeping up" with the extra amount of milk that their babies mysteriously ask for while away from their mothers that they NEVER ask for when being fed on demand? Is a HUGE reason women start to supplement when they DON'T NEED TO. Which can in fact end the nursing relationship. I think you are making enough milk. You are away from his for 10 hours? Really 18 should be enough. But I would max out @ 20oz. That's 2oz an hour. So 5 4oz bottles. That's it. Pull back on that extra 4oz. And tell them NOT to feed him MORE than one bottle every 2hours.
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  • @llli*bebo's Avatar
    Today, 02:17 AM
    I think I'm looking for some reassurance and perhaps a bit of advice here. My second baby is 2 and a half weeks old and pretty much only nurses to sleep. Dad and Nanny can rock him, but this is only occasionally possible for me. I completely understand the biological reasoning for nursing to sleep and it's normal and the way things should be and in many ways lovely. But here's the thing - my 5 year old has been a terrible sleeper, she is intense and spirited and finds it very difficult to switch off. She was a very high needs baby and remains so now. Nursing was the only way I could get her to sleep other than car or pram occasionally. Every nap was a battle, I remember getting to 8 months and making the decision to give in to her staying on the boob for her entire nap. Baby boy seems a very different personality, much more chilled out, but I am petrified of being in the same boat again. There have been times when I have been calmly trying to rock him to sleep and he will be there but will only his eyes again and it's like I'm back in the room desperately pacing around with his big sister in the sling. It's like a form of PTSD!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:18 PM
    :ita with the PP. This sounds like a case of overfeeding at daycare. Is baby nursing overnight, or is he sleeping all the way through?
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:15 PM
    It depends on whether or not he is simply looking leaner while continuing to gain weight, or actually losing weight. If he is continuing to gain, even if it is very slowly, then it's probably nothing to worry about. Even if he is slipping percentiles on the weight-for-age charts, it's probably just fine. seight gain slows down a lot in the second year, and many babies get quite a bit taller but not much heavier in between their first and second birthdays. If he is actually losing weight, then that is a reason to be concerned. Your milk and formula are still able to provide for a lot of a toddler's nutritional needs. Until a year, milk or formula are all a baby needs. After a year, milk or formula can still meet most of his needs for calories.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:02 PM
    Welcome to the forum! It sounds like your lactation consultant may have pulled the trigger early when it comes to concern about your milk supply. A baby who is producing sufficient wet/poop diapers is getting enough to eat, regardless of how much the mom can pump after nursing. It's completely normal to pump little or no milk after a good nursing session, particularly if mom is not very experienced with pumping or is using a weak pump (e.g., a manual pump, a well-used electric pump, or a cheap single electric pump). If you have a non-reassuring weight check this evening, here is what I would do: 1. Discuss your baby's wet/poop diaper output. As long as that is normal and the baby is not losing weight, your LC should probably be okay with you simply continuing to nurse, which should quickly increase your supply, and doing another weight check in a few days to make sure everything is back on track. 2. Use pumping to increase supply. Make sure you have the right tools for the job: a good double electric pump and correctly fitted shields. 3. Don't rely too heavily on oatmeal, fiber, water, etc. Pumping and nursing are the best and fastest roads to increased supply. It would be great if all we needed to do in order to guarantee great supply was to eat a bowl of oatmeal, but as with most things in life, hard work is what gets results! 4. Do not freak out about "sporadic" eating. That is a completely normal eating pattern for a young baby. Many babies start...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:53 PM
    My understanding is that formula makers make formula to match breastmilk in calories. In other words, 5 ounces is 5 ounces. So I do not see why you would need to send more because it is formula. Unfortunately those babies who are given 6 to 8 ounces are probably being overfed. Also, many formula fed babies are on feeding schedules and since this limits the frequency with which a child is fed, it increases the amount of each feeding. For better health, it would probably be better if all babies were fed more like breastfed babies- small feedings, more frequently. The rule of thumb that seems to work well for most babies at daycare is that baby needs about 1 to 1.5 ounces of milk per hour of separation. So, for 8 hours of separation, 8-12 ounces would be about right. Of course some babies may prefer a little more, but if it is a significant amount it might make sense to look at how baby is being fed at daycare. Size and growth rate does not determine how much a child needs all that much. I am not aware of some mathematical equation that would tell your pediatrician that your baby weighs X and thus needs Y. Since overfeeding with bottles is common it is important to be sure that is not going on when a mom is finding she cannot "keep up." This is important not only because it means mom cannot pump enough but also because overfeeding might cause baby to not nurse with normal vigor or frequency when baby is with mom, and this can lead to poor milk production or bottle...
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  • @llli*puja's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:50 PM
    Isn't it to be worried that he is becoming leaner every day though from where do he get calories for such an immense energy is a mystery for me...he don't like even to touch messy food by hands....he would just put food in and out of his plate nd May one bite to his mouth not even second time he try...I don't know what type of taste would he like....
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  • @llli*justitia's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:45 PM
    My baby is 7 months old and I have also run out of my freezer stash. I'm pumping the same number of times at work and getting about the same volume, but I can't keep up with how much he likes to take at daycare. He is in the 80th percentile for height and weight, and our pediatrician said he is getting the perfect amount given his growth. My question is: if I need to send formula, should it be the same volume as the breast milk bottles (5 oz) I have been sending? Or do I need to send the larger volume that formula-fed babies take (6-8 oz)?
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  • @llli*justitia's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:36 PM
    I had a similar issue when I started back at work and started sending my baby to daycare. When he started going at 3 months, I sent 4 oz bottles. Almost immediately, daycare started asking for 6-7 oz per bottle. I asked my pediatrician, who asked the hospital lactation specialist, who said that breastfed babies should get no more than 3-4 oz per bottle. I believe this is to mimic what the baby would on average take while nursing. We noticed too that when a family member gave him a bottle at home, he was fine with 4 oz and cuddling afterwards. It was a little awkward, but when daycare asked again for more volume, I mentioned what my pediatrician said about breastfed babies, and they thankfully let it go. I did end up increasing to 5 oz because he is well above average for height and weight, and my mother-in-law felt he could take a little more. He has been growing perfectly on this amount. It's hard, but try talking with your daycare, and, as was advised to me, don't feel pressured to give more when you know that's not what your baby needs. A little more TLC after the bottles or a pacifier, if you are using them, may be more appropriate.
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  • @llli*melissag's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:05 PM
    Thank you for your reply! It gives me hope :) went to the doctor she is gaining good weight :) I will try not to stress as much
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:56 PM
    Even if you DO have Hep C, the current recommendation is that breastfeeding continue. There is no evidence that Hep C is transmitted to infants via breastmilk according to the CDC. http://www.cdc.gov/breastfeeding/disease/hepatitis.htm
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:52 PM
    This sounds like it may be that the "let down" (the moment milk ejects from your beasts) is a little fast or forceful. This is entirely normal and common especially in the first several weeks. After 4-6 weeks (or sooner) fast letdown usually begins to subside on its own. Some babies are fine with it, others object, and many have issues with it some of the time but not always. The quickest and easiest fix is to adjust your position so you are leaning back enough that baby can kind of be on top of you. Many moms find that this kid of positioning change solves this issue. Other ideas- nursing frequently helps, because there is less time for milk to 'build up" in the breasts. When baby unlatches, if the milk is flowing, let it flow into a cloth before putting baby back on. Some moms find it is needed to hand express a little milk before putting baby onto or back onto the breast. Here is more info: http://www.nancymohrbacher.com/articles?tag=Fast+Milk+Flow If you do not think fast letdown is the issue, let me know.
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  • @llli*lllkaren's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:41 PM
    :ita Medications and Mothers' Milk says it's commonly prescribed for mastitis, and is compatible with breastfeeding.
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