April 22nd, 2017, 08:25 PM
Hi tobysmom, I am sorry you are having this problem.
Is it possible there was a misunderstanding here?
Nipples becoming cracked and sore is almost always a sign of a latch problem. The nipple shape you are seeing after your baby nurses is also a common indication of shallow latch.
Also, if the problem is not latch, why are you being told to pump to elongate the nipple? That is a method to improve latch. It certainly has no other purpose. Also, if your nipple is "too short" again the only problem with that, is it might cause a poor latch! I mean, too short for what? This means, too short for baby to latch onto properly! I have a question with this idea I will get into below, but that is what 'too short' would mean.
As far as your baby having a hard palate, I have no idea what this means. All babies like all adults have both a soft and hard palate. The trick with latch is to get the nipple back to the soft palate. And this can happen even with short nipples and with brand newborns with tiny mouths so it can certainly happen if your baby is 4 months old.