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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 07:24 PM
    "I love bf'ing her but at the same time I do feel it's the right time to initiate the weaning process. Trouble is, it fills me with dread! She has never taken a dummy nor has she ever been attached to any kind of comforter and I dread the thoughts of taking away what has become her comforter, security etc, and neither myself nor my OH will allow her to cry. I need to do this as gradual and gentle as possible and any tips from you ladies would be greatly appreciated." It is totally okay that you have decided that gentle mom-led weaning in the foreseeable future (and this is a relationship, so I don't know how well the baby-led / mom-led dichotomy is probably false.... All of this is a two-people thing!). As long as this is your decision, and not something that you think you "should" do, or that other people are telling you to do, etc... Then if this is what's right for your family, then you know your family best! I don't have any weaning experience, so I'm hoping some more experienced mamas will chime in. Do you have a supportive partner who at some point may be able to assist with bedtimes?
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  • @llli*pritz00's Avatar
    Today, 07:21 PM
    Thanks for the reply! Today has been better, no lump so far and breastfeeding has been bearable(only the latch hurts) it actually feels better when he is eating than any other time. I'll see how it goes tonight. For now my conclusion is a partially obstructed duct with a nipple blister on top! #itsucks. Should I do cold compresses after feeding? I've only been doing hot before he eats.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 07:10 PM
    Sometimes babies will "slip" off when they are full, when they are falling to sleep, and those would not be because of OALD. I've experienced the tugging or pulling off but mine has generally been because he is distracted and wants to look behind him or something (ouch) my let downs are not that active. Provided baby's weight gain is good and you are not getting engorged and you are nursing on demand and offering whenever you feel like it as well your supply should be fine. Complete draining of the breast is not really possible and you really only need to do the nurse or pump beyond complete draining if you are actively trying to increase your supply. To avoid hurting your supply you simply want to make sure you don't become over full too often or for too long since that is what signals the body that you have too much milk and need to make less.
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 06:46 PM
    I think this is really sound advice. I too have a short napper, and some babies just are this way-- if at all possible, I think the easiest, least stressful solution is to roll with it. Yes, there are things that need to get done around the house--and though I love babywearing as much as the next lady, there are things that are just no fun to do with a baby on. So for me, house hold things in short bursts got a lot easier to do with a wakeful baby around four months, with increasing ease, as she started to enjoy (in small bursts!) being on her tummy and doing her own thing, rather than needing to be in arms at all times when awake. How does your little one tolerate doing floor time? Do you use devices (bouncers, jumpers, etc)? I think feeding every 2-2.5 hours is really normal, and with how quickly breastmilk digests, I think it's entirely probable that babe is hungry, even if babe is additionally tired.
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 06:22 PM
    Have you ever attempted to do bedtime without the pacifier? From what you describe, your babe does like the soothing of sucking to ease into sleep. Something to consider is if it's possible to retire the pacifier while you are at home, in hopes that all sucking needs will be met at the breast. That said-and our situations are a little different, but nevertheless, my seven month old doesn't always want to nurse to sleep. This is usually if she's nursed maybe within the last 45min, but not always. Sometimes she just wants to flail about, sometimes popping on and off. And she's not upset, and doesn't want me to leave the room, but just doesn't want to nurse and does want to take her time. So I don't think it's necessarily a problem that a baby has different ideas about how to fall asleep, but it might be a problem if it impacts your supply, right? (If this is a nursing that is just being dropped, rather than just happening at a different time). How much does your babe get while you are at work, and how long are you at work?
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  • @llli*falansi's Avatar
    Today, 06:20 PM
    I have been also told this is over active let down issue. But I don't understand why she is able to take the latch on and hold well at times. When she pulls off from the breast abruptly, she sometimes does with a tug kinda like a startle reflex but sometimes the nipple just slips off from her mouth. Is this considered as pulling off due to active let down? I have tried layed back or leaning back positions but it does not help very much. I am concerned that she is not nursing enough and also my milk supply will be affected as she does not empty the breast adequately. However, she seems happy and satisfied after each feed. I am not sure if I am over reacting here.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 05:44 PM
    I try to use pillows behind my back but I'm still being driven out of bed a couple times a night with back pain. I need to do more yoga I think.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 05:38 PM
    Definitely if you qualify for WIC, they can provide lactation help and possibly a pump and/or other items like an at the breast supplementer. I used a medela SNS I got through my wic office. Some Peditricians offices have lactation consultants they work with that could help you. Re-lactating isn't an easy thing to do but it is worth it. If baby will latch on and nurse at the breast, you can do the formula or supplemental feeding at the breast with a lactation aid (SNS or Lactaid) you can get a jump on the whole process plus save yourself a step (the whole nurse then supplement becomes a single step of nursing while supplementing and then you have a little more time left to pump/hand express. Also, you may find that fenugreek and blessed thistle could be helpful herbs to take. If herbs don't work then perhaps look into getting a script for Domperidone or Reglain. Keep in mind that it is the act of removing milk from the breasts and stimulating the breasts to produce more milk that will have the greatest effect. Get a better pump if at all possible, truth is for what you need to do a hospital grade rental may be what you need for a few months. The amount you pump at this point isn't necessarily that good an indication of what your milk supply can be since a baby is generally going to be far better at extracting milk and it take time to learn to pump effectively but keep working at it (including at night) and it is possible to regain at least a good portion of...
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  • @llli*danikap's Avatar
    Today, 05:29 PM
    Thanks for your response and tips! Perhaps it just takes time :) I'll try to sit up at the start (I've told myself I'm going to do that but when it comes down to it I'm so so lazy at night lol)...very good point about how baby is likely to stay asleep much more easily than if I put her in a bassinet! What are you doing about the back issues? I think my little one would also stay latched all night but I also find that I get very stiff and achy so I often try to slide my nipple out once I wake up and realize she's attached but not actually nursing. I don't know if that will always work though ;)
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  • @llli*beckyd0106's Avatar
    Today, 05:06 PM
    Thanks for the suggestions ladies. I dont pressure to eat but I will confirm that my dcp does not also. And we will continue with breastfeeding as we have been. I really want to make it until two and then I would love to be able to slow down enough to stop pumping at work. It is worrisome when he is struggling to go and it has definitely been true constipation at times. He doesn't eat anything processed except puffs which he loves so I dont want to take those out.
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 04:15 PM
    Would you be able to go to your doctor sometime soon (and is your doctor knowledgable about lactating breasts?)? I think chances are good that whatever it is is benign, but if it's not too much of a bother, I know that if it were me, I feel like a persistent lump is worth just getting checked out. Hopefully some others will chime in with other ideas too!
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 04:09 PM
    Have you considered using an at-breast supplementer? This would allow your baby to get nourishment at the breast, to build/encourage the idea that this-is-where-nourishment happens, AND it would utilize all that sucking action as increased stimulation, in pursuit of increased supply. If money is tight (not able to get an electric pump), have you checked (and triple checked!) with your insurance company to see if they would cover it? What if a doctor wrote a prescription? If not, if you qualify for WIC, many offices have pumps for their clients. Are you working with any in person professional? Do you have a peer support network or group of breastfeeding mamas? I think it's a great sign that you're making milk!
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  • @llli*ruchiccio's Avatar
    Today, 02:08 PM
    Is your baby eating solids? Once my baby began eating solids, I was not surprised to see that I couldn't pump as much as I used to. In fact, two pumping sessions used to yeild 9 oz and now only 5-6! Whenever I couldn't pump enough for my baby I'd send along some food and a drink of water too. This way he had the option of food in case he was hungry.
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  • @llli*ruchiccio's Avatar
    Today, 02:06 PM
    I only started sending real food to the babysitter with my son when he was 10 months old. I'd send 2 oz less milk (6 instead of 8) plus a 4oz yogurt. My instructions were, give only the bottle at the first feeding. Let him drink as much as he wants. For the second feeding, give remaining BM and as much yogurt as he wants. Even though he is spoonfed the yogurt, he makes it very clear when he's not interested in any more. I only started sending food once I noticed him not finishing the bottle most of the day. He'd come home with an ounce or two of milk in there and it bothered me to throw it out so I just sent 2 oz less and he finishes that.
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  • @llli*wynifred's Avatar
    Today, 01:37 PM
    So I really wanted to breastfeed when my baby was born but when I tried right after delivery nothing was working. I was so exhausted and my baby was getting so upset that I just decided to feed her formula. I really wish I hadn't done this because now I REALLY want to breastfeed her but my milk supply is very low and I can't get her to nurse very often. Basically I try to offer her the breast at every feeding which is every 2-3 hours and sometimes she will nurse briefly but usually she won't so I pump after. I only have a manual pump at the moment so this is really hard. I'm looking into an electric for next month but the manual is all I have right now. I've been getting about half an ounce in a day of pumping which is pretty awful right? I assume it's a good sign that I'm still producing milk at all though and it seems like the amount is slowly increasing every day. Is there anything more that I can be doing to increase my milk supply? I'm thinking (hoping) that my baby won't be as reluctant to nurse when I have more milk. As of now though she just doesn't want to when she is super hungry and then she gets sleepy after a bit of formula. Please help! I really don't want to give up on this.
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  • @llli*aporia's Avatar
    Today, 12:11 PM
    My 9mo old does this too! What we've incorporated into bed time is big sisters reading time. After I get Luna all bathed, lotioned, diapered, jammied, and read to, we turn off all the lights and my 6yo comes in with her flashlight and book. We all lay down on the bed while I let Luna nurse as she pleases, while she rolls around, plays with her lovey, or the star pillow and I read to my 6yo. Once Luna starts to get fussy, and not content with rolling around, big sister Winter goes out to start her routine-teeth brushing, potty, fill water bottle, etc and I flip Luna on her tummy, turn the stars off and nurse her down. From start to finish it normally takes about an hour. Sometimes longer, some times less. ~Happy Nursing~
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  • @llli*slsimon7560's Avatar
    Today, 11:52 AM
    My daughter will turn one on October 4th. I am so proud that I have made it to almost one year of EBF! My question is, how do I safely wean from the pump? I currently pump twice a day at work (I work an 8 hour work day and I am away from my daughter for 11 hours total) How should I safely begin to stop pumping at work? How should I handle dropping my pumping sessions? I will absolutely continue to nurse her at night and in the morning before work. Thank you!
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 11:31 AM
    sounds like over active let down. Most advice I've heard for that is nurse very often, and do layed back or leaning back positions. It is OK to wake baby to nurse at night if you feel you should or if you feel full or if you feel she is not eating enough during the day. Often moms will try dream feeding right before they go to bed since baby doesn't always need to wake up to nurse.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 11:29 AM
    My lo likes to sleep while being worn so wearing doesn't have to be limited to awake time (actually naps seem to last longer when he is sleeping on me or in a carrier.)
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 09:03 AM
    I seem to have managed to clear the plug if it even was one. It was hard to tell, felt tender and bruised for days but I never felt like I managed to clear anything but feeling better now. I'm just making sure we wake up to nurse a few times at night and still offering to nurse often during the day and not pumping much anymore except when we drive up to the inlaws. It's been good this week with daddy home, I'm able to let daddy and baby have time together while I get some stuff done in 45 minute blocks between nursing. Unfortunately Daddy is gone again for another 8 day trip on Thursday. I'm rushing to get the heavy work done before he leaves so that I don't need to worry about doing those things while wearing a baby. Weight gain seems to have improved, Even with Pooping yesterday we are at 15lb 6.9oz today. He really likes eating!!! I nurse right before dinner and then he gets to play with solids at dinner. Really into meat loaf, potato, avacado and melon lately. And regularly giving him a stewed prune to make sure we don't see constipation if he insisted on sharing my banana early in the day. He is so mobile now. Able to really hands and knees crawl and then pull up to standing on all sorts of things. Biggest issue now is his falling over and hitting his head.
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  • @llli*sonogirl's Avatar
    Today, 08:24 AM
    Is it possible you just have an infant who is a short napper? Mine was! I don't think her naps lengthened to anything more than 20 minutes at a stretch until she was 9 months old, and even at that point, it was only lengthened to 30 minutes. Her naps got a bit longer once she consolidated to a single nap at around 18 months old, at about 60-70 minutes, but she still does not and likely will not ever take the 2-3 hour naps most sources seem to suggest babies "have" to take. What I did to cope with that was give up on the idea of getting things done during nap time. It helped me out tremendously just to accept that this was our reality, and work out ways of getting things done outside of nap time. In my family's case, what worked out best was to hand over the chores to my husband to do after mom and baby went to bed at night. We also tried doing a lot of chores while baby was awake, but my daughter wasn't keen on being worn while she was an infant, so that didn't work out too well. If your baby will tolerate a wrap or carrier, I would definitely suggest trying to wear baby while awake and working on household chores outside of the nap time.
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  • @llli*sonogirl's Avatar
    Today, 08:08 AM
    My daughter did this a ton from about 11-16 months, with some evenings taking up to an hour to finish getting all the wiggles out while nursing in our dark room. And then, it just sort of tapered down. Every once in a while, we have flip-floppy bedtime nurse downs (she's 22 months old now), but they are rare and I attribute it to the same sorts of things that occasionally make it hard for me to wind down for sleep as an adult. I mean, I have good nights and bad sleep nights too, despite doing all of the "right" things to wind myself down for sleep! I didn't really do anything in particular to address the acrobatic bedtime wind down, because I personally feel that it's normal developmentally--I just kept us in bed with the lights off, let her talk and move and do whatever she seemed to need to do. It helped me to just mentally prepare for the possibility of a 60 minute wind down and expect it every night when we were in the thick of it, then just be pleasantly surprised if it happened quicker.
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  • @llli*merlot's Avatar
    Today, 07:59 AM
    This is not as big of an issue as others have, or that I've had in the past, but if anyone can suggest a solution I'd be most grateful! I EBF my 4 mo on demand, though to be honest not so sure what she"s demanding! I have a feeling that when I feed her e/ 2 or 2.5 hrs it's because she's tired not hungry. However, she very often will not fall asleep and just scream- by naps. Perhaps she can't fall asleep when the slightest bit hungry? Then she only takes 20-30 min naps! About 4 of them a day I'd guess. I'm getting frustrated because it makes it nearly impossible to get stuff done... And I don't have much time with my others in playgroup/school for just a few hours of the day... In addition, she is always spitting up. I mean always. Before eating after eating, in middle of nowhere etc. sometimes she whines, but usually it just comes out. Any advice with any part of my ranting?! Please? :o
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  • @llli*workermom's Avatar
    Today, 06:21 AM
    Thanks so much for the suggestions. Making it his choice is something we have not done so will definitely try!
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  • @llli*brusselssprout14's Avatar
    Today, 05:58 AM
    We have a lot of flinging going on around bedtime at our house too, with our 7-month old. Our solution is that my husband reads my book to me and our daughter calms down with the sound of his voice. Works like a charm! Audiobooks also seem to work.
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  • @llli*brusselssprout14's Avatar
    Today, 05:46 AM
    Thanks for all the thoughts and tips - I have been leaving between 200 and 250 mL each day, and it seems to be going well. Yesterday I asked if the amount is ok, and she said it's good. I get the sense that they are trying to save me the effort of pumping... they seem amazed that I've pumped this much, for this long, but I'm happy to continue. As far as the method of feeding is concerned, I know that they take their time in giving bottles, and they don't push more than the baby wants to eat. They have some milk leftover sometimes (so are not pushing for finishing bottles) and have reported that sometimes it took a very long time to feed her in several sessions due to distraction etc. For solids, they spoon feed, but in a responsive way I believe, since they some days report that she ate just a couple spoonfuls, other days that she ate a lot, which would imply that they aren't pushing a lot on her every time but rather looking for cues that she is interested in eating. It's a small daycare, 12 kids and 3 full-time 2 part-time caregivers. The tricky part for me is that it's a bit of a mystery since the language & culture barrier is difficult to get through to understand what is really going on while I'm gone. I base it all on what they tell me about the day, which sometimes is just "elle a bien mange" (she ate well) or "super bon aujourd'hui" (super good today)... I'm wondering if you think I need to push for more details or I should just chill out and let it...
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  • @llli*falansi's Avatar
    Today, 03:22 AM
    My baby is about 11 weeks old and I am experiencing issues with breastfeeding. I am not sure whether these are problems or these are normal. She does not really hold onto her latch at times and keep coming off the breast. She could be sucking well at one stance and when the milk comes in at the next instance, she pulls off immediately. Further attempts to re-latch is futile. She will either not suck and keeps rubbing her face around my breast or if she sucks, her mouth will not be a full latch resulting in milk coming out all around her mouth, face and my breast. However, there are times when she could hold her latch very well and continue to suck well when the milk comes in. But she would not be able to sustain the hold for too long. It could be about 2 to 3 minutes or at best 5 to 6 minutes. As such I am not sure whether this is a latch issue or there is a problem with the milk flow that the milk comes in too fast for her. Each nursing session will be very frustrating and could last as long as an hour as I try to calm her. On top of this, she always sleeps on the breast and would only suckle. I am not sure how much milk does she manage to take in during each nursing sessions. I thought she might be taking in little as even though I would have multiple let downs during each session, she does not do a lot of active sucking throughout each session. She usually poos one each day, but does go without pooing for maximum 2 days on a few occasions. Wet diapers are about 5...
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