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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Today, 12:52 PM
    If you are working 40 hours a week I'm guessing that breaks down into 8 hours per day? The rule of thumb is that baby should get 1 - 1.5 ounces per hour apart from you - sounds like he is getting closer to 2 oz per hour. The fact that he is getting twice as much than when he is with your parents also is consistent with overfeeding. So I definitely, definitely think you should try to scale that back. Check out the link about the paced feeding, go over the sheet with baby's caregivers, WATCH them do a paced feeding. How big are the bottles baby is taking? They should be 2 or 3 oz, maybe 4 at the most - that is what baby gets at the breast. It is very easy to overfeed baby with the bottle, especially if caregivers are more familiar with formula feeding, which most caregivers are because more babies are formula-fed that breastfed. And while baby will TAKE more in the bottle, that does not mean he NEEDS more in the bottle. Similarly, though feeding him into a coma may soothe him, that does not mean that the reason he is fussy is because he needs more milk; he might also be soothed by someone holding him, walking around with him, rocking, singing etc - but nobody has tried this because it's easier to give him more milk. Easier on them - they're not the ones who need to pump all that milk! I think you are absolutely heroic for pumping 6 or 7 times to get those 16 oz. I also think your caregivers are doing you a big disservice by overfeeding baby. Because, not only do you need to...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 12:31 PM
    I have no problem with a mom getting more sleep and if sleep training in any of its forms worked for you, great. I am glad you suggested it so OP can consider it. But too many mothers are made to feel they are failing their children or their husbands or themselves if they do not somehow make their child sleep 8-12 hours at a stretch (or any other totally made up amount of time that everyone "should" sleep) without requiring any comforting. Sleep trainers almost never have any science behind their claims. If you understand sleep science, you understand that NO ONE of any age normally sleeps 8 hours at a stretch or anything like it. We just grow out of the need to be comforted when we awake or even being aware of waking. But this assumes that controlled crying will always "work" the way it worked in your family. This is not a universal experience. You are also assuming that what you did with your child "taught' him to sleep longer. Since how long we sleep is actually out of our control, and babies do not require being taught to sleep and sleep longer stretches when they are developmentally capable whether sleep trained or not, I am not sure this can be assumed. The science and research on sleep in young children and sleep training is covered in Sweet Sleep. I will not try to replicate that whole chapter here. I will just say it is not LLL that gives sleep training a 'bad rap.' Many studies from many sources has LONG indicated that many of the claims of those...
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Today, 12:29 PM
    How about living with a little bit dirtier/messier house for a bit? These early days are just so hard, you are understandably exhausted from nursing around the clock and caring for a newborn, as well as your older kids, DH is tired from helping with the kids and working...
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  • @llli*nyolemom's Avatar
    Today, 12:25 PM
    My little daughter after tomorrow will be 12 months old, she eats solids around 3-4 times a day(breakfast(usually it’s millet/quinoa/buckwheat/oatmeal with banana or apple), lunch(veggies with meat), dinner-veggies or smth from our plates(actually dinner is hard going now, she refuses to eat it) and snacks as fruits between) and A LOT OF bf… like non-stop(it started week ago), I feel myself milk station:)… very rarely she drinks water: few sips a day. Often it happens she asks(demands!) breast right before(AND after) solids… I don’t want to refuse… but at the same time I am afraid to overfeed her: i wait like 30 minutes after bf and give her solids… I really don’t know how to react when she asks breast but soon we need to have breakfast/lunch/dinner…. should I worry about it? or let things going like it is? ps. I love breastfeeding my little one, it’s really amazing experience :) Thank you very much for any suggestions!
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  • @llli*blueberrysmom's Avatar
    Today, 12:24 PM
    Thanks @zaynethepain I'm definitely going to try that :)
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Today, 12:23 PM
    Maybe your strategy of offering the left first is working! That's great the you got 9 oz!
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Today, 12:22 PM
    I've always seen one drop at a time dropping into the bottle. But the fact that it's uncomfortable indicates a problem. Are you sure your flanges are properly fitted? The nipple should move back and forth easily without sucking more of the breast in. If your breast is being sucked in, try a smaller flange. If the nipple is not moving back and forth easily, try a bigger flange. In my experience my pump output was pretty consistent from day to day. It's not unusual to have trouble letting down for the pump - after all, it's a machine, not a baby! Different strategies include looking at a picture of baby (though sometimes people finds that actually has the opposite effect, because it makes them miss baby!), distraction (reading, listening to music, watching a tv show or movie), meditation. The one thing that you don't want to do is look at how much milk is coming out!
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  • @llli*blueberrysmom's Avatar
    Today, 12:22 PM
    Hi Lind3! Are you sure you aren't spying on me at night?? Because we've been going through a situation very similar to your since about 4 months. Cut dairy, most veggies and DS still wakes 4-8 times per night. He's almost 6 months now and I know how hard it is to not sleep. Hopefully we'll both be out of the woods soon - HUGS!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 10:23 AM
    This is a common misconception. It might work this way, but also often does not. Why? Because what you can pump at any one session also depends in large part on breast storage capacity, not overall production, and storage capacity varies mom to mom and has nothing to do with breast size. Also, lactating takes energy. Our bodies want to make enough milk, not too much. Anything a mom can pump that is over and above what her normally growing baby gets when nursing is thus, 'extra." Overproduction to some extent is common in the early weeks, theoretically to ensure baby gets enough even when baby may not be a great nurser yet. So this leads to early pump sessions often being more "productive" then than later ones. Remember when you are back at work and pumping INSTEAD of nursing for those hours, your pump output per session will probably increase. Also, always make sure your pump is in great working order at all times and fits you right. No one is going to argue with mom getting more sleep. But be aware that swaddling for sleep as a regular practice may have drawbacks in certain situations. While swaddling is of course an ancient practice, it may originally been for more for safe transport/keeping babies warm during times their mothers had to be on the move and not to lengthen sleep. Swaddling as it is used today primarily is as a sleep lengthening technique. The reason breastfed babies wake more often than formula fed ones is because biologically babies are...
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  • @llli*mama7008's Avatar
    Today, 09:27 AM
    Sorry if I wasn't being too clear in my post - I couldn't even lay baby down beside me (she would wake up immediately), so I had to sit up and nurse her through the entire nap (side lying position has never worked for us). She would occasionally "fall off" and stay asleep, but would eventually root around again, so I would relatch before she woke up. I was so afraid I was doing the "wrong" thing and creating a sleep association that we'd never get out of, but I eventually realized it was WAY more stressful for both of us for her to only be getting 15-20 mins of sleep at a time. She's now started falling asleep on her own in her swing for one of her naps (the others are still nursing naps), and I haven't really changed anything, so that is reassuring for me that I didn't create a situation that was impossible to get out of without a lot of work. She is my only child though, so I don't know how I would feel if I had another child to take care of as well.
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  • @llli*lind3's Avatar
    Today, 06:48 AM
    Thank you Yana.yana for the blog advice. Hi mama7008! Thank you for your feedback. I am a SAHM for now. Right now I am laying with him the whole time when he naps. He sleeps in 20 minute intervals. Sometimes I can nurse him back to sleep and he will do 2-3 cycles. It does make it impossible to get anything done and I feel like I'm not giving my 13 year old a 100 percent in her homeschooling. Like you, I know it's temporary and I do love our cuddle time. The reflux medicine has been changed twice. My oldest daughter had it and unfortunately I've found the medicine doesn't really work as far as taking it away but sometimes will just help with some of the discomfort. I have him sleep on a slight incline and I try different breastfeeding positions to help but it's just something he has to grow out of. I do love the baby stage and I don't want it to end but some sleep would be nice for both of us. My main concern is him. I think his crankiness could be due to his sleep or lack of. The advice is great and appreciated. I want to make sure I'm doing all I can for him to be a happy and healthy baby.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 06:43 AM
    :ita With a baby who is enthusiastic about solids and not the breast, I personally would want to slow way down on solids. You might want to try a baby-led solids approach? BLS means a baby has all the fun with solids, but generally cannot tank up on them as fast as when mom delivers them via spoon. I understand that night nursing is difficult- BTDT! But would you consider adding back some more nursing sessions at night? I'm wondering if your baby is eating more solids because he's not nursing enough overall... Nighttime nursing can add up to a lot of calories!
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  • @llli*zaynethepain's Avatar
    Today, 05:51 AM
    http://evolutionaryparenting.com/when-your-infants-sleep-isnt-normal/ Your situation sounds very similar to the issues I had with my children. Has anyone suggested cutting dairy out of your diet? My oldest displayed the painful and constant night walking while my youngest had reflux. Both situations improved within a week by eliminating dairy. Within a week my oldest had given me a six hour stretch of sleep.
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  • @llli*fes's Avatar
    Today, 05:21 AM
    I was watching this documentary on breast milk and the video showed a clip of breast milk being pumped. It was a close up of the valve in the bottle and showed the milk gushing into the bottle with each suction. When I have pumped, I get a drop at a time, but I have only pumped after nursing my baby to build up a little supply. Is this how it's supposed to come out when you pump to replace a nursing session? The first time I pumped, I pumped one breast that was full while I nursed baby on the other side (it was a comfort nurse), and I got 3 oz. The second time I pumped both sides after nursing, and I got 3 oz total. Then the last time I got 1 oz total from both breast, and although it was after a nursing session, it wasn't a particularly serious feed- more of a dream feed/comfort sucking. once I go back to work and am pumping instead of nursing while at work, should I expect variation from day to day, or would this indicate an issue with the pump or other issue? Also, I have found that I have a difficult time letting down. I guess I'll have to figure out something that works for me. Lastly, how high are you suppose to turn the dial? The manual says a little lower than uncomfortable, but I don't find any of it to be comfortable. It's the suction that makes my breast feel a little sensitive afterwards. I have a Medela PISA. Thanks, all!
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  • @llli*mama7008's Avatar
    Today, 04:57 AM
    I'm so sorry you're having sleep troubles! My little went through major trouble just before 4 months and we're still working on improving her nap schedule. Do you work? I'm a SAHM, and baby has NEVER slept well apart from me, especially for naps. What worked for us since she would NOT sleep long enough for naps was just to camp out on the couch/bed and let baby nurse to sleep and then stay there for her entire nap (sometimes she would sleep up to 3 hours that way!). It wasn't ideal, since I felt like I couldn't get anything done or have any "me" time, but just remember it's not always going to be like this. I tried to focus on just how sweet it was that she wanted me close. The No-Cry Sleep Solution is a good suggestion, but she also wrote a No-Cry Nap Solution that specifically addresses naps, so that might be helpful, too. Really, though, at this age "sleep training" may or may not be helpful - I found it was just easiest to go with the flow of what baby wanted/needed, even if that was harder for me to handle. Again, it's just temporary! Also, you say he has reflux? I'm not very familiar with it, but are the meds helping? Maybe he just wakes up because he's lying flat and reflux is bothering him? Just a thought.
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  • @llli*littlenash's Avatar
    Today, 03:28 AM
    I guess i thought the extra feeding combined with the pumping would increase my supply so i could pump more. That probably takes a while though huh? Its hard cause im an instant gratification kinda girl. ;) He will nurse to sleep but to get him to STAY asleep he has to be swaddled and he wont nurse when swaddled because he likes his hands up by his face. So have to nurse then swaddle which wakes him back up (sometimes more so than others) Once he goes down he is usually a good sleeper. He went 5 hrs first stretch last night and 6 tonight which is great. I was worried that being on only breastmilk i would have to keep nursing every 2 hrs like during the day since it digests so fast. So far so good! As for supply i will check out some of the other threads. Thank you!
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  • @llli*bxlgirl's Avatar
    Today, 03:02 AM
    Thank you so much, Maddie!!! Really appreciate your suggestions :) Thanks for the tip on the five ingredients or less (simple) recipes--reminds me that I found a website with a mini-menu of freeze ahead meals to prep during naptime, and it seems there are a few Pinterest boards on 'dump (X) recipes' for just chucking ingredients into a crock pot. DD2's naptime is approaching--yay! Time to start dinner! What I mean about the chill time is DH needs about fifteen minutes to do nothing really, just chill after work and bike commuting when he arrives during the LO's dinnertime. We tried family dinners after 6pm to include him but then the kids can't settle for bed early enough. After he re-centers himself he hangs out with the older two, holds our baby when she cries, and then when I put the LOs upstairs to bed he cleans up the house for at least an hour on weeknights, more on weekends--he's actually really great about helping, I should give him more credit! Just felt a little overwhelmed yesterday and lacked some perspective. Thanks too for your support of not delegating a bottle to DH. After I posted this the health visitor midwife came for a home visit, and she actually supported the bottle idea, even saying I might look into giving formula if sterilizing/pumping is too much work; despite my telling her that I am doing LAM. While I appreciate her well-meaning advice I won't act on it. But I'll try your suggestions though and bfwmomof3's! THANKS :)))))
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  • @llli*bxlgirl's Avatar
    Today, 02:25 AM
    Thank you, bfwmomof3! "Glad" that this is not a unique circumstance, and taking courage from you that a mother can live to tell the tale! I will ask DH what we can do to coordinate the morning and evening rush hours a bit better. Great idea about doing meal prep ahead of time. The kids are off at school right now and I'm going to get a head start on dinner this morning! Should dust off the slow cooker too, it's not just for wintertime stews. Also glad that you agree on not giving a bottle of pumped milk, because that is going to be more trouble than its worth for us at this point :gvibes Tons of respect for exclusively pumping mothers! In our case I prefer to do pumping when at work and physically unable to bf.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:40 PM
    Is baby gaining weight normally and healthy? If so, no need to supplement. Your pump output sounds great and not as if you have any production issues. The changes you are feeling in your breasts and the fussy behavior are normal and not signs of poor milk production. It does sound to me as if daycare is possibly overfeeding, since baby seems to be nursing with normal frequency when with you. Overfeeding of course makes it much harder for mom to "keep up." Are they using paced bottle feeding methods and positioning? Is baby cue fed or scheduled? More: http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/22_bfabreastfedbaby.pdf Are you starting solids now due to concern baby is not getting enough nutrition, or some other reason? The current recommendation is that baby get only breastmilk until 6 months. Ounce per ounce, solids do not typically provide anywhere near the calories of breastmilk, so early introduction of solids is sometimes problematic for weight gain or at least, not helpful, as baby fills up on the lower calories. They can also negatively impact milk production if they cause baby to nurse less. So for these reasons, it is suggested that solids are introduced at 6 months and that when solids are introduced, they are given only directly following a nursing session. (When solids are given when you are not there to nurse I am not sure what the recommendation is as far as when they are given, or how much it matters.) This does not mean...
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